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I've come to learn that some people just have "it". Whatever "it" is. Some people can bed others and they aren't even particularly handsome or hung or anything. Call it charisma, mojo, etc. But its not impossible. Your pics are really good. Great body. Huge dick and handsome. So its not that. My guess is its probably your confidence level and how you hold yourself. But interaction level is important. Really tough right now to be able to be social with this virus and all. But the more you put yourself around single people...the more likely something will happen.
 
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I've come to learn that some people just have "it". Whatever "it" is. Some people can bed others and they aren't even particularly handsome or hung or anything. Call it charisma, mojo, etc. But its not impossible. Your pics are really good. Great body. Huge dick and handsome. So its not that. My guess is its probably your confidence level and how you hold yourself. But interaction level is important. Really tough right now to be able to be social with this virus and all. But the more you put yourself around single people...the more likely something will happen.

It appears to me COVID-19 is going to be around for sometime to come our future is going to be different from before COVID-19. We will all have to change and adapt to this. Sad really!
 
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It appears to me COVID-19 is going to be around for sometime to come our future is going to be different from before COVID-19. We will all have to change and adapt to this. Sad really!
It is true. At some point I guess we're all gonna have to risk hooking up again...or take a long break from intimacy. Its not impossible. There have been times I've gone for months or years without anything.
 
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Thank you, la6nine, for liking my pics and your helping answer.
Even if I'm sorry that you've "gone for months or years without anything", you confirm that hooking up with guys involves their own perception. It isn't therefore as individualistic as shopping.

Marketing told us ─ including the sniffy guys who destroyed my self-confidence ─ to snigger at beginners, walk with our nose in the air by repeating "sky's the limit", and we tripped over a virus.

Will some cynical guys replace their animal performance anxiety by the civilized fear of loosing good people? I agree with Japetty's wish :)
 

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Since you're gay it shouldn't be that hard to find a sex partner. Are bath houses still a thing? I had gay friends back in my college days who went to those places to get laid.
 

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I'm not prude at all, going to bath houses is a possible solution, but they attract assertive guys who are all the more so demanding, impatient

I just looked at your profile and you seem to have a large penis. That should make it very easy for you to find a bottom or cocksucker. Is that what you're looking for?
 

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You say you have been excluded from social interactions without knowing why. Could you explain that a little? What do you mean?

Did your friends exclude you without an explanation? Did partners you had sex with stop talking to you?

Are you looking just for sex, or sex with a little something more, like some emotional attachment?

What have you been doing to get sex that isn't working?

I don't know about the gay scene, but as a woman only going for hetero stuff, I find that finding partners for sex is very easy. I imagine it wouldn't be easy to find love, though. I have found it easily in the past, but I think things have changed. I wonder if that's what you're dealing with.

About not knowing why relationships end, if that's the problem, then there's a big issue. Because we know. We don't need to be told. If you have no clue, it could be the answer: you weren't paying attention. Does that make sense?

But I think you may be talking about something completely different and I really don't mean these words as offensive. I'm just saying things to get a bit more detail on what it is that you're dealing with and looking for in your future.

If the partners you had were there only for the sexual thing, then it could be they just got bored of you and moved on. Not that there's anything wrong with you, but people like new things, new experiences. Sometimes they're worse, but it's enough to be something different. It isn't about you. It's about them.
 

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Thanks for liking my pics and your recommendations, Wallyj84
Neutrno, let me contextualize my answer to your question.
Our gay sexual freedom model isn't neutral for two reasons:

(a) it's performance-oriented;
(b) it enables guys who aren't especially slender to have hardcore sex, because that model is thought by and for (urban) extroverts.

Consequently, the guys I met, that is too much:
─ hide their own performance anxiety;
─ feel themselves confronted with it by meeting a beginner;
─ reassure themselves by sniggering his lack of experience or initiative, which destroys his self-confidence.

Reason says that being a beginner is neither a disease nor a crime.
However, in this model I just mentioned above, you can insult, beat, contaminate consenting people... However, don't you dare ask some patience or indulgence for rebuilding your self-confidence: you'll be ostracized.

Sorry, guys, for being unpleasant, but it's my humble experience.
And thanks for your recommendations :)