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Ugh, that is just rude! No, you are right even if she does have feelings for you best to leave her alone.

My point being. So I am glad I am on the right stick in society, despite having a huge target on my head.

I'd like to thank everyone (again) for the advice given, as it helps me understand life a little better.


Now, a tricky one for you, how do you know if someone is interested in you non-verbally? I assume women have their own secretive methods. :)
 

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My point being. So I am glad I am on the right stick in society, despite having a huge target on my head.

I'd like to thank everyone (again) for the advice given, as it helps me understand life a little better.

Now, a tricky one for you, how do you know if someone is interested in you non-verbally? I assume women have their own secretive methods. :) [/quote]

I am not a good flirter. :redface: I was kind of too thin, plain, and a little geeky to date in high school. I've struggled with the whole man woman dating thing ever since.

How does a dyslexic girl girl like me, with mild sensory integration disorder know if a guy is intererested in her? When is it appropriate to approach a man to say hello or ask for a date? Obviously I know not to follow you into the mens room :biggrin1:; but after that I'm a bit lost.


 

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How does a dyslexic girl girl like me, with mild sensory integration disorder know if a guy is intererested in her? When is it appropriate to approach a man to say hello or ask for a date? Obviously I know not to follow you into the mens room :biggrin1:; but after that I'm a bit lost.

I look at someone and I can instantly take wrong cues, some being nice, some being too nice and others I scare.

I can remember one tutor saying "if a girl is talking to you and they play with their hair, they may like you", while it seems like some like to look a lot. I like looking and study someone I have some interest in, but when they turn their eyes towards me, I feel a bit scared and worried that they may view things differently. (Reality can be cruel).

The other thing, how many do you think there are in the UK that are about my height at roughtly around my age? I was saying to someone earlier that I much rather go for someone my height, than shorter than me, since it makes certain functions easier (without a stepladder!).
The interesting thing is that I sent a message to someone who I liked, trouble is, she hasn't replied yet, so I am questioning on that dating site, that it is a dormant account, or that she is taken. ( I didn't say I wanted to go out with her, just to get to know her a bit better.)

Thats it for my random waffling in this post.
 

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This is a hard one Wessex if you have trouble reading body language. I'd still advise you to get a book on body language, there are lots of signs that indicate interest - such as mirroring your body movements, looking into your eyes, fiddling with hair or jewellery, taking all her clothes off :) but a good book on body language might help you. There are also signs that indicate someone isn't interested in you - like looking up every time someone else enters the room, and a book on body language might help you a lot.
 

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This is a hard one Wessex if you have trouble reading body language......
............looking into your eyes.......
......There are also signs that indicate someone isn't interested in you - like looking up every time someone else enters the room.

I get the 2 confused quite easily. I usually look at someone comming through the door to "query" who it is if you like. I.e. find out who it is. Sometimes, I am quick, other times, it takes me a while.


taking all her clothes off :)

Not experienced that one. I've had a few who have constantly tried to look in my eyes, (one was fiddling with her hair), the other took up 2 halfs of a seat in a 3 seater bench seat on a bus (I was on the end of the same row of seats). I am sure she was trying to look into my eyes. Being the shy person I am, it didn't work too well for me.

Theres always a girl, I've noticed shes been acting kind of odd near me. Like when I was talking about uni, it was like "computer games development?" from the other side of the cab of a loco. She is also referred to as the rangers "secretive resource". (Sorry, non descript resource). The rangers on the railway are learning my name slowly though (She doesn't know it at all.). What I also noticed, is the last time she was in the cloak room, waiting for my master, she err.. pointed with her eyes to another crew member of my presence.

Are these signs? (I have a feeling shes married though, although, I don't know the status.)