Socially inept when alone with another?

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  1. Dookiestain3

    Dookiestain3 New Member

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    Does anyone else experience extreme awkwardness when trying to talk to someone one on one? When in groups of 3 or more i'm an energetic, talkative, outgoing person, but when in a car with one other person this doppleganger comes out. I feel like i'm pressured to spark the conversation/talk more than i usually do because there is no 3rd person for me to use as a starter.
    Pretty much I dont want to pay for a therapist to help figure out why this happens, so if anyone else experiences/experienced the feeling of awkwardness when faced in one on one situations and broke free of it, please leave a reply.
     
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    Im the opposite; never stop talking when one on one. But in a group I have to really know all of them well to be lively & outgoing. Even if there's just 2 other people I feel awkward if I dont know one of them very well.
     
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    I prefer hanging out with as few people as possible. One or two is ideal. Three can be okay, if everyone knows each other fairly well and there's no animosity.
     
  4. Principessa

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    Neither. The only time I become verbally inept is in the presence of a man I find physically attractive. Doesn't matter if it's one on one or in a group; if I'm near a man that makes my heart go pitter-pat I become either a mute or a babbling idiot. :frown1: :redface:
     
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    It can be either way with me. Some people I click with and the conversation is natural and we can talk about anything. With other people I'm like you and can't talk much. Sometimes it's when I don't like the person for one reason or another, or it could be just when we are too different.

    Don't blame yourself. The other person is partly to blame.
     
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    only happens with individuals I am most attracted to, when the relationship is new and untested

    anxiety and fear of saying something that will prevent the relationship from developing
     
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    How and why is the other person to blame? For being so drop dead gorgeous they make me stutter and my palms sweaty?:confused:
     
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    All the opposite for me too - I feel I'm at my best, conversation-wise, when I'm with just one other person. I don't do too well in big groups. If I find the other person I'm with isn't being receptive, I try and hit on some common ground or bring up topics that we both can seem to relate to..
     
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