Believe it or not, there are still plenty of people (especially women) who don't know that flaccid size is not an indicator of erect size. I've witnessed several women saying that they can tell how big a guy's dick is just from the bulge in his pants! I've only corrected one, who happened to be a good friend. I just left the others believing it, figuring that eventually they'll be disappointed enough times or will never catch on.
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Believe it or not, there are still plenty of people (especially women) who don't know that flaccid size is not an indicator of erect size. I've witnessed several women saying that they can tell how big a guy's dick is just from the bulge in his pants! I've only corrected one, who happened to be a good friend. I just left the others believing it, figuring that eventually they'll be disappointed enough times or will never catch on.
I think we can agree to disagree on that... Seems my first started topic triggered a major discussion, whew!
I can only patially agree with those who refer judging by soft size (though that's not what I wanted to talk about) to "judging a book by its cover". The first impression remains to be the most indenting, right?
Stay tuned,
Bruce
I can only patially agree with those who refer judging by soft size (though that's not what I wanted to talk about) to "judging a book by its cover". The first impression remains to be the most indenting, right?
Stay tuned,
Bruce
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Freddie 53....I'm really enjoying reading your posts!
I relate very well to what you've said in the above quotes I selected. I am very near your age and apparently grew up observing the same kinds of things you did in high school locker room settings. Back then, I also kept noticing other guys who were much bigger in their flaccid dimensions than I was and those images left indelible impressions and dang near impossible "standards" (or so I thought!
for me to ever live up to! So, I also shied away from ANY settings requiring changing clothes around other guys...period. Consequently, I avoided sports, was socially "inactive" (compared to others) and in retrospect----just "missed out on living". A real shame and a waste of an otherwise wonderful period of my life.I watched others (guys my age) dating; enjoying a period of life of emotionally maturing into manhood while I on the other hand sat in the sidelines absolutely convinced I couldn't "measure up". That agony is something I just wish I could spare other guys...especially the teenagers. It's why this forum is so important I think. The LPSG gives us the chance to open up, discuss, and get down to the nitty gritty of our male sexuality and our sexual thoughts--so common to each of us, really and we don't even know it! I'm sure we fascinate the women here who witness some of our being honest and being ourselves. Well, it helps women then, understand us better! No real loss, then. Our pride as men is already shot when we are self conscious about our size!
Flaccid size is important. And, it's misunderstood, too. Way too much erroneous thinking out there in the world that larger flaccid sizes always translate into "whopper" erect sizes. Fact is , many of these larger soft sizes are really "semi erect ones" but that truth too, is so often NOT known. The younger guys in high school wonder of course, but they don't ask and they're scared to ask or make remarks. And really....WHO would they ask? Why, they'd be laughed to scorn or worse--even "labeled" for their interest of other guys around them.
Being around this forum now for over three years has helped me immensely but the one thing I believe I have indeed settled on as "real truth" is that we guys are much more worried over our penis sizes --our comparision to one another and those bragging rights!.....than any woman in our life who would ever be. While there are women out there who deliberately seek out big men for personally legitimate reasons (and, I learned THAT here, too!
...for the most part men are just naturally curious and competitive with each other. And unfortunately, we next manage to attach a guilt trip which accompanies us throughout our lives thinking there's something's wrong with our being so "penis conscious".This "stuff" probably won't ever stop, either---this penis phobia as such. Our penises are such an intrinsic part of who we are as men....or who we think we are!
In order to cope with all this, we have to stick together as "brothers" and encourage one another as we can from time to time. That's what we do here.
And, like you freddie53----I've "visited" the smaller p. forums myself and got terribly discouraged over there. I offered encouraging advice (learned over here, mostly!
and my good intentions fell flat. Hostility even erupted--from nowhere all at once it seemed. That "small men site" seemed to be an emotional landmine.The most innocent attempts to encourage them was taken as a pesonal assault (it seemed to me). I simply grew tired then, of even trying to offer encouragement.
A MUCH friendlier group over on THIS side of town!
And, I think much more purposeful too, in many ways. Yes, while we certainly have considerable indications (lately) that there's a lot of fantasizing going on around here (from those fellas average or less in their sizes), our discussed topics nonetheless still generally have substance to them and we get useful information (for the most part) exchanged here. Men of all dimensions finally have somewhere to go to just "be themselves" and .....express themselves.
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For eye candy purposes, I much prefer flaccid. There is a greater variety among penises when they are flaccid. Some hang longer than others, some off to the side, cut/uncut, &c. When they are erect, they become much more similar. The foreskin pulls back, so cut & uncut look similar. (in most cases & from a distance) There's usually a curve of some sort, and variations in size minimise.
For eye candy purposes, I much prefer flaccid. There is a greater variety among penises when they are flaccid. Some hang longer than others, some off to the side, cut/uncut, &c. When they are erect, they become much more similar. The foreskin pulls back, so cut & uncut look similar. (in most cases & from a distance) There's usually a curve of some sort, and variations in size minimise.
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Of course people are judged on the size of their cocks, and there is nothing sad about it at all.
Everyone wants a big cock and it's nice having one.
However if I see a guy driving a nicer car than mine I would never be jealous of him, I would simply consider him lucky to own such a nice car.
On the other hand if I see a man of 6ft crammed into a tiny little car that would be more befitting a granny, I'm afraid I can't help but feel sorry for him.
But that's life!
dijstra: I see loads of soft cocks everyday of all sizes from 2" to 6" soft; guys fall into two camps showers - i.e. people who don't care who sees them - like me - and hiders who scurry round trying not to show anything.
Its just about self confidence and self worth; I have loads not cos of my cock but cos of who I am; my cus has none - he's got a big cock too but crap parents.
Dick size is just one more thing to get hung up about; and its much more prevalent today than 10 yrs ago (thank you internet).
For me I'm a grower so am small(ish) when soft (about 3-4") but add 150% plus when hard and don;t care who sees me.
Dij
Its just about self confidence and self worth; I have loads not cos of my cock but cos of who I am; my cus has none - he's got a big cock too but crap parents.
Dick size is just one more thing to get hung up about; and its much more prevalent today than 10 yrs ago (thank you internet).
For me I'm a grower so am small(ish) when soft (about 3-4") but add 150% plus when hard and don;t care who sees me.
Dij
my flacid size was always decent and i had done most of my growing down there by 14yr old. The rest of me was still skinny and not masculine but my flacid cock was 6" with 9" erection. I was very shy at that age and hated the idea of getting changed in front of other guys. Generally I would skip gym if I could or pick sports that I did not have to get changed for. The first time that I noticed another guys size is when the guys were pointing to another guys cock and were saying "look how BIG his dick is" I then noticed that he was bigger than the others but smaller than me, which made me more paranoid... so I always put a towel around me when I changed from then on when I was at school.
Seems that having a good flacid size actually did the reverse for my esteme.
It could also be why in some weird way that I find large flacid uncut cocks a turn on to look at or feel too, even if they don't get much bigger...
Seems that having a good flacid size actually did the reverse for my esteme.
It could also be why in some weird way that I find large flacid uncut cocks a turn on to look at or feel too, even if they don't get much bigger...
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It's interesting just how competitive males are. The more I read about this topic and start getting ready for the spring, the more I notice it. I think back at some of the odd contests I had when an active fraternity member and on a sports team and wonder...has male society become so competitive that unless a guy "measures" up, he is seen as an object of ridicule or is it that if I guy doesn't feel he measures up there is a self imposed ridicule to lessen the pain IF someone makes fun of him.
I consider my own reasons for joining the forum. Thankfully they've changed, but the original reason was...how do I measure up? I've yet to find out my flaccid size, but went nuts making sure that my erect size was correct. Then I looked at the online research into penis size. Those guys that are 9"+ are rare, yet I paniced when I saw so many of them here. Friend pointed out...it IS a large penis forum. You're not going to run into alot of guys that aren't large. then I consider the numbers here against the population and see the percentages aren't all that off.
So then I consider my own situation with other males. Just what IS the problem? Am I small or do I just think I'm small?
Being male sure is fun in some respects and a pain in others.
I consider my own reasons for joining the forum. Thankfully they've changed, but the original reason was...how do I measure up? I've yet to find out my flaccid size, but went nuts making sure that my erect size was correct. Then I looked at the online research into penis size. Those guys that are 9"+ are rare, yet I paniced when I saw so many of them here. Friend pointed out...it IS a large penis forum. You're not going to run into alot of guys that aren't large. then I consider the numbers here against the population and see the percentages aren't all that off.
So then I consider my own situation with other males. Just what IS the problem? Am I small or do I just think I'm small?
Being male sure is fun in some respects and a pain in others.
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As meny others already wrote, soft size doesn't usually give an idea oh erect size, but, if you like being big just to ttract stares, a big soft penis is really a plus.
i am 6 in soft, and, yes, i like the feeling of my penis moving when i walk naked, the idea of guys who hard atre smaller than me soft....
i am 6 in soft, and, yes, i like the feeling of my penis moving when i walk naked, the idea of guys who hard atre smaller than me soft....
I hear there might be a few penis problems that aren't caused by circumcision. Doubt you've heard of them though. Obsess much?
Dinky: I'm only 2"+ when flaccid, erect I'm 7" X 6.5" and uncut. I'm a bit of a grower.
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but I'm sure you enjoy the looks you get when a girl sees the difference...Originally posted by Dinky@Feb 17 2005, 02:21 AM
I'm only 2"+ when flaccid, erect I'm 7" X 6.5" and uncut. I'm a bit of a grower.
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I've had a grower, and I was shocked to see him go from 4 on flaccid to 9 in long and almost 7 around...
Just measured soft and I'm 5.5" soft, 6 on a better day I think and 6 right now but the extra half inch is foreskin...It's always been around this size, never had anyone call it small just one mate said he was bigger than me soft...that was when my cousin and some other little shit pulled my pants down at a sleep over and the seam of my boxers got stuck up my arse and in between my balls hehe. My lil man flopped out the side.
So yeah, I've had more ridicule/jokes etc about the colour of my penis (it being tanned) than its size, but I dont think you could really dis my size...
So yeah, I've had more ridicule/jokes etc about the colour of my penis (it being tanned) than its size, but I dont think you could really dis my size...
I am almost more turned on by a guys length soft then hard. I don't know why...in fact, I don't really much care what the hard length is, they are fun to play with and sit on at any length. But if I see a guy that is 3-4+ inches long soft I start sweating...add a slight hang to the balls and my mouth starts watering too! I wouldn't even care if he was that same 3-4 inches hard!
dcwrestlefan
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hmmm. surprised to hear that comment ame. not that i am a woman expert. ;-)
i thought a big soft penis was just a bragging right in the locker room.
i thought a big soft penis was just a bragging right in the locker room.
I'm an 'extrmeme' grower at about 3" soft but nearly 9.5" hard, which in a way is nice because, you don't have to worry about where to put the thing when its soft, and it is great to see the shock in her eyes when it gets hard - BUT it was always so intimidating in the locker room, because even though I may grow to one of the biggest there - nobody knew that - all the other guys saw was that I had a little one.
Dinky: - all the other guys saw was that I had a little one. I never really cared about that, the guys & gals that new my actualy size, well they knew and frankly the tohers don't matter much to me. To me it's all about attitude anyway.
