Some Advice Please!!!!

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  1. oMaR619

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    Alright, here it goes. Im a married 23 yeas old guy, who has something I need to get off my chest.:confused: Im happy with my size ( a cunt hair over 7 1/2") just not my performance. Basicly I wanna fuck my wife until she orgasm's EVERY time. We have had sex where we both cum at the exact same moment, and I loved it. I wish it happened every time. Even gone til where she's tired and telling me to "cum already". But lately I just cannot control my urge to cum. I cum within 5 to 10 min. Sometimes less:frown1:. My wife is 22 and "every day I love her just a little bit more" She's growing more and more beatiful day by day. She doesnt say anything to me, but my conscience is telling me that I need to fuck her good, hard, and long. At least until she cums. Now I know we're young and something else inside of me tells me that I'll get better as the years go on, but at the same time I feel like, "ok Im 23, I should be able to fuck for an hour". Im also in very good shape. I can run for miles and miles, have a great six pack. I would think that would help me out. Now i've tried the stop and start thing (didn't work) Im even doing the kegle thing. So PLEASE give me some feed back. Especially from women. I need to solve this problem before my wife goes lookin else where for cock. I can remember the last time she had an orgasm, it was over a month ago. I know this cause she doesn't masterbate:confused:. Don't know why, I just know she doesn't, and when she cums she makes a mess, so I know when I did my job. All I know if I went over a month without having one I'd go fuckin NUTS.
     
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    This is definitely not what men want to hear, but here goes:

    Women are not biologically wired to have an orgasm every time from penetrative sex; men need to cum in order to propagate the species (if you will. . .), but women don't. A worldwide survey (which i'm trying to find again) showed that only 17% of women were able to orgasm from vaginal sex without any other form of stimuli, and that was only SOMETIMES. As crazy as this sounds, you're going to have to stop pressuring her into having an orgasm every time; the more pressure she feels, the more she's going to feel that something is wrong with her, and the less interested in sex she's going to be. Instead, you should engage in more foreplay, or allow her to rub her clit while you're having sex; this won't guarantee an orgasm each and every time, but it'll greatly increase the odds.

    Watch: Have a talk with her, and tell her that it's okay NOT to have an orgasm, and that you understand that she can't have one all the time because women are different. . .even if you DON'T understand, just say it and let it go; she'll be amazed that you understand this, and she'll trust you. The more she trusts you, the more she'll learn to let loose and have fun. Let her learn to be be comfortable about telling you that she can't cum, and when this happens just laugh about it; cuddle and kiss and tell her she can always try again later.

    /rant.
     
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    She has rubbed her clit and when she does, I noticed that it does increase the odds. What you said makes alot of sence. About women not cumming everytime and how she just needs to feel comfortable. Thanks for the input
     
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    Women are biologically programmed to feel an intense reward for being with a man they love, and having him protect her and make love to her. Some women argue that this sounds sexist, but I challenge you to find me a woman who WOULDN'T enjoy this.
     
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    I strongly back Greek Dude. You are in a minority of couples where your wife orgasms at all from penetrative sex. Stop pressuring her or yourself. I would advise her to masturbate but again no pressure. Just use other ways to bring her to orgasm - oral, fingering or whatever. Fucking is not the be-all and end-all of sex or sexual enjoyment.
     
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    If I may add my 2 cent: Ask your wife what she likes. You're thinking you need to pound it hard, long and often, but what does she want. I found that my wife likes a good pounding every once in awhile, but her largest orgasms come from the atmospher, mood and settings. It's the "I feel special" orgasm, which is more mental than physical. Make a love to a woman's body and you're have her for the day, make love to her mind and soul, you're have her for a lifetime.
     
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    What about foreplay? Give her all the pleasure you think she deserves without thinking about your needs and cock. Leave your cock out of the game at the beginning. Use your fingers and mouth to pleasure her. But don't forget that woman like sensuality, just kissing the neck, breasts, everywhere where she liked to be kissed. When she's very arroused you can begin with penetration, but be careful, you don't want to cum that quick. Hope this gives you an idea. I'm maybe a virgin, but I think this would help.
     
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    I agree with jtmony. My wife has an orgasm every time we have sex. I will play with her, eat her out and do what is necessary to bring her to the peak before I enter her. Then she will cum. We do not necessarily cum at the same time. Often I ride her through her cumming and she will cum again when I finally cum. Hope this helps.
     
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    Let the performance of your sexual relations ebb and flow like the tides. It's fun and interesting with a bit of mystery.

    Walk hand in hand..taking turns leading.
     
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    Thank you all for your suggestions.
     
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    Man I wished I could have responded to this thread sooner. Has everyone missed the point that SHE DOESN'T MASTURBATE. Honestly why isn't she. Truthfully when I lost my sex drive I didn't masturbate either and my husband tried all the things you suggested and nothing worked.

    HERE IS WHAT A FEMALE SUGGEST

    First and most important make sure you have good communication with her. If you honestly talk to her about your concern for her not orgasming during sex and that it has nothing to do with an ego trip for you. You just want her to have some form of pleasure during sexplay. Sometime for me the pure act of fucking is more enjoyable than the orgasm itself.

    Second while your talking ask her why she doesn't masturbate. You may find the answer suprising. Asking in a way of "I am curious to know" kind of question.

    Third be open minded about what you have learn. Everybody responds differently to sexual activity and unfortunately the wonderful world of media has greatly distorted what sex should be and how one is suppose to act or react.

    Please keep us posted on how it is going.
     
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    Well, I recently discovered that she was molested by her father's friend when she was 5 years old! Which explains ALOT. She doesn't like it when I touched her most of the time. Maybe she was traumatized by that expierience! When I say recently, I mean like last week. She wont talk to me about an certainly wont give me any details. She says she needs counseling and I support that %100. I just don't know what to do. I love her to death and want to be with her forever. That might sound corny or like bullshit, but its the truth. I've known her since I was 13, we have 2 sons together, and we talk about things we want to do in our future like take vacations all over the world. So what if we go somewhere romantic, like Paris for example. When we have sex in our hotel room or wherever, I want her to fully enjoy it. By that I mean have an orgasm in a another country. Keep in mind that I'm 23 and like most guys I do think about fucking other girls and often wonder if she thinks about fuckind some stud with a bigger cock. Anyway, the point I'm tryng to make is, I want to complety satisfy my wife. So I figure if we do spend our lives together, all I have is time to do my best. Also a couple more things...... When I'm tipsy or a little drunk. I tend to fuck better and longer. The other thing is, she doesn't like doggystyle. Say's something about pressure in her stomach hurting????? I know Im not that big?? a
     
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    You need to practice stop and go...

    Basically when you feel like you're going to cum, STOP all contact: pull out, don't even touch your penis.

    Then when the feeling goes, resume your activities. You could finger/lick her out while you are 'rejuvenating'. Its best to practice stop and go as part of your masturbation routine.

    Also for a good position try this:

    Flip her on her stomach, enter her (from behind) and get right in there and 'hit it home'. Thats also a good angle to play with her tits.

    Its very pleasurable for all involved :cool:
     
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    Okay she has a mental issue here. If she is still stuggling with the trauma she need your support not pressure. I am sorry to say honey but your instants on her orgasm is going to turn her off of sex completely. I was molested by my brother and cousin when I was 8/9 years old. Two things that helped me was telling my husband about it and accepting that it wasn't my fault. I also therapy but it failed me. But it works different for everyone. My husband encourage me to masturbate after learning about my past. He told me how am I ever going to please you if you don't know how to please yourself. He bought me some simple toys and a book "Making LOVE,how to be your own sex therapist" by Patricia E. Raley. It is awesome it helped me learn to pleasure myself, face my demons and request certian fanatasy play from my husband. I was allowed the time to heal and explore myself. TRUST ME IT MAKES ALL THE DIFFERENCE. if you really want to have your fantasy of making your wife orgasm in paris you need to take these steps first.
     
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