Some Advice

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  1. stadarcad

    stadarcad New Member

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    I need some help. . . I'm trying to convince my girlfriend to try out anal sex. I've eaten her ass out, stunk my thumb/fingers in there during foreplay and while I'm hitting it from the back, I've also stunk a bullets in it before and she enjoyed it. But when I ask if we “Can do anal?” she tells me "I'll have to come down in size". I’ve tried to explain to her that I’m not trying to go balls deep or anything and that the asshole is a muscle and with lube and relaxation on her part it will open up and accommodate my dick, but she’s not buying it. So I’m asking can any of you guys give me tips/advice/ideas on how I can convince her or personal stories on how you got your girl to try it. Ladies, can you tell me how your man got you to try it and if you still do it or not. Thanks to all of you in advance.
     
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    why can't you just accept that she doesn't want to try it?
     
  3. Ethyl

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    Take your girlfriend to a sex toy shop, find a couple or three dildos that are consecutively smaller than you, and make them your best friends during sex.

    I'll only do it if someone is patient and takes time to help me relax. How large are you? The larger the girth, the more difficult it will be.
     
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    The first time that I consented to anal, I just wanted to try it. I don't remember his talking me into it or anything. Hell, it might have even been my idea. I just don't really remember how but, of course, I do remember who.

    I used to read so many of the Penthouse forum letters and I'd buy those little porn booklets that they used to sell in the sex shops. I'd get all worked up and those books would fill my head with such erotic thoughts.

    All I know is that I learned to use a vibrator on my clit. If my clit isn't stimulated and I'm not already turned on, the experience of anal sex is distasteful and uncomfortable.

    Conversely, If I were a guy and anal sex was being performed on me, I would definately be wanking my crank and essentially jacking off.

    So for me, it's the same principal but a somewhat different type of stimulation--his cock vs my clit.

    I hope this post came off as informative and lucid. That's what I was shooting for anyways. LOL. :biggrin1:

    Hugs and Kisses,

    Karmen
     
  5. rob_just_rob

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    I :heart: freudian slips. :redface:

    I suggest trying other things, exploring some of her fantasies as well as other fantasies of yours, and letting the anal sex idea lie for a while. When she's comfortable with you and ready for it, she'll let you know.
     
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    It's not that I don't accept it, It's just like this is the girl I may end up spending the rest of my life with. And I believe that when it comes to a serious relationship and sex you should be up to trying anything. That in part is what sex is about, pleasing your other half and trying new things. After a well viginal sex becomes boring.
     
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    If she doesn't share your view on this wholeheartedly, you probably aren't as compatible as you'd like.
     
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    Wow... well, even if she doesn't consent to anal, there's still a LOT to do in bed (or elsewhere). Point is, as much as you think she should do it, there's a point in a relationship called respet. If she's not ok, then she's not ok. Respecting other people's limits is part of a relationship too :biggrin1:

    That said, keep trying to convince her from time to time, you never know :smile:
     
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    Just don't push it. Enjoy your mutual sex and let this slide for awhile. Maybe later on.
     
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    sex and boring in one sentence? shame on you! :eek:
     
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    how about trying some small dildos on her, to see whether she can get aroused that way? If she likes the smaller sizes at least a little, she might be willing to loosen up.

    Whether it's girls or guys, some people just don't have that much sensation in their asses. Others can cum from ass play alone (I know guys who are like this, and assume there must be women who can cum during anal intercourse.

    It's a little bit like tits on a guy. Some guys' tits are hard-wired to their dicks, others have no erotic wiring at all. But asses are well worth exploring.
     
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    A couple of thoughts:

    You say that you have given her some anal stimulation during foreplay, but has she ever experienced the sensation of cumming with your finger(s) in her ass? If she does, along with strong clitoral stimulation (as another member mentioned), it may help her to understand the sensory potential of anal activities.

    I know this is not normal, but I began anal experimentation as a teenager, while masturbating. I found that it gave me very intense orgasms, when combined with other types of stimulation.

    Still, I had never had anything as big as a cock in there, and I was afraid to try it, the first time.

    The truth is, your girlfriend's fear is appropriate, because it can hurt like a bitch at first, especially if you aren't relaxed. If she ever does decide to let you try it, make sure that you use plenty of lubricant, open her and massage her with your fingers, and maybe even a toy (another great suggestion above.)

    It could also help if she has consumed a small amount of alcohol (just enough to relax her) and has climaxed at least once already.

    When it's finally time to enter her with your cock, be prepared. When the head of your cock gets past her sphincter muscle (especially the first time), she will feel a strong spasm of pain. Hold still, give her time to adjust, and keep up the clitoral stimulation!!!

    Initial penetration can feel slightly less traumatic if she "bears down" (like a gentle attempt at a bowel movement.) This results in relaxing the anus somewhat.

    Once you are in, and she is past the initial adjustment, let her set the pace of motion. I know you'll be excited, but if you can hold still and let her do the moving, you greatly reduce the potential for pain. When you do move, be gentle. Check and see how she's doing before you increase speed or depth, and keep checking in with her. Some women won't tell you even if you're hurting them.

    Lastly, I can't emphasize enough how important it is to directly stimulate her clit through every stage of the penetration and fucking. Her fingers, your fingers, a vibrator, whatever...it takes the edge off any pain that occurs. Also, if you can get her to cum while you are in her ass -- and if she enjoys the novel sensation of it -- you will greatly improve your chances of getting in there again.

    I think??

    With experience, I've gone from the situation I described above to being much more comfortable. If it becomes a part of your sex life, each entry will become easier, and eventually you will get to the point when you thrust all-out. Just be patient with her.

    Anyway, I know I'm a bit of an oddity, so if anyone more ladylike wants to dispute what I've said, feel free.
     
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