Some guy grabbed my ass.

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Still does not make it right for some random person to grab my ass.
No one said it was right. You're spinning and deflecting.

also I am sorry but other peoples dicks and nuts do not turn me on.
More spin and deflection from the question.
So if an ugly girl grabbed you, one who didn't 'turn you on', you'd feel compelled to punch her too?
 

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Wide Dick: Do you think there might have been a tiny bit of attraction since you say you noticed the same guy on a crowded bus earlier in the day? Just sayin'.
I noticed this too. The OP seems to typify a common internal conflict -- men who some level appreciate and may even encourage the attention of other men, but who are conflicted about what that might imply about their orientation. Hence the compulsion toward violence as a defense mechanism. I repeat, men who are secure in their sexuality do not react this way.
 

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Whether if it be a man...or a woman...in public or on public transportation...I don't like to be touched inappropriately. No one has the right to touch anyone. If it is in the club, I don't touch anyone until I KNOW for certain that it is cool to do so.


There are some good-looking people out there...but they are NOT yours to touch.


 

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Just guys.

well in that case you needed to be grabbed by a guy....because what you do is discrimination you know?

thats why Im in shock when I see woman asking for more rights for them, they have more than us.
 
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Wide Dick: Do you think there might have been a tiny bit of attraction since you say you noticed the same guy on a crowded bus earlier in the day? Just sayin'.

yeap thats strange for a guy who dont like to be touched by other guy to remember his face from other day before the "accident"....

humm i would like to know how could be his reaction if hes touched by God....lol
 

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yeap thats strange for a guy who dont like to be touched by other guy to remember his face from other day before the "accident"....

humm i would like to know how could be his reaction if hes touched by God....lol

From the same day, My memory is excellent. That all started after I got hit by a blue 1978 F150 in 2004, while riding my bike.

Alcohol tends to enhance the memory effect.

Also last night I went to a free concert(by ticket only).It was put on by one of the local radio stations. My shoulder got grab on to 4 times

2 times by some obese women.
1 time by a guy.
1 time by some other lady.

You can bet it did not bother me at all, as I was expecting it as there was a lot of people there.
 

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^ Love all the superfluous dry details. I wonder if the OP took a creative writing class where the instructor said adding details adds interest and credibility to a story?
 

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^ Love all the superfluous dry details. I wonder if the OP took a creative writing class where the instructor said adding details adds interest and credibility to a story?
Never have taken a Creative writing class.
But my reading and writing skills are at the 12th grade level. Not too shabby for a 12th grade drop out. Oh I am also not a book worm nether. The longest book I have read was only 200 pages and that was 4 years ago.
 
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You started losing me the second you said that you didn't want to be "sandwiched" between 2 fat people. It was a discriminatory cheap shot, as the inclusion of that bit in your OP was completely irrelevant to your story. Then you expressed your selective views on being grabbed and you completely lost me.

Legally, what happened to you is construed as sexual assault. I am not exaggerating when I say that every woman I know over the age of 20 has been sexually assaulted in some way, including myself, my mother and 3 sisters. I know men it's happened to as well, who don't think it's okay to be touched by anyone, regardless of gender. Maybe it's just me, and I'm sure I'll be deemed as one of those women that are too serious by the end of my post, but I think this type gender selectivity sends a message that it's okay to do this, when it absolutely is not.

All things considered, I can only conclude that you are arrogant and discriminatory. Fat people and gay men are below you. Fat people shouldn't be sat next to and it's only sexual assault if it's perpetrated by a homosexual male. Unreal.

I guess I should go before this turns into a giant circle jerk of fiction. Have fun.
 

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Never have taken a Creative writing class.
But my reading and writing skills are at the 12th grade level. Not too shabby for a 12th grade drop out.
Okay, if you say so, whatever.... I wasn't poking fun at your education level.

However, you don't impress me as being very evolved, or being a very deep or reflective thinker.
 

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You started losing me the second you said that you didn't want to be "sandwiched" between 2 fat people. It was a discriminatory cheap shot, as the inclusion of that bit in your OP was completely irrelevant to your story. Then you expressed your selective views on being grabbed and you completely lost me.

All things considered, I can only conclude that you are arrogant and discriminatory. Fat people and gay men are below you. Fat people shouldn't be sat next to and it's only sexual assault if it's perpetrated by a homosexual male. Unreal.
I am sorry but I was once fat before my highest was 220 pounds 99.8Kg , I wore a size W42 pants(W40 jeans).That was in 2004 to 2009,In 09 I started doing something about it. Now in 2011 I am 180 to 190 (varies from week to week) (W34 jean size). So it's not like I have not been the fat person before.


Well If you did not know I was sexual assaulted, by a guy when I was younger and it happened on a bus.(school bus) and it more then an ass grabbing.
 

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When I was in school got this alot from guys & girls but not from strangers in public unless it was an accident. Know I get it from people at work... I really don't care I just jokingly say stop.
 

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Okay, if you say so, whatever.... I wasn't poking fun at your education level.

However, you don't impress me as being very evolved, or being a very deep or reflective thinker.

Thats what my placement test said. At the time when I was going to try and get my Diploma(Associate's degree + Diploma combo.). Too bad I still had issues with anxiety at the time.

As you see the first sexual assault wreaked my life.
 
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I am sorry but I was once fat before my highest was 220 pounds 99.8Kg , I wore a size W42 pants(W40 jeans).That was in 2004 to 2009,In 09 I started doing something about it. Now in 2011 I am 180 to 190 (varies from week to week) (W34 jean size). So it's not like I have not been the fat person before.


Well If you did not know I was sexual assaulted, by a guy when I was younger and it happened on a bus.(school bus) and it more then an ass grabbing.


That must be very hard for you. You have handled well the insensitive jerks who have placed their own subjective opinions about the incident and judged you without knowing much of anything. I assumed as soon as I read the OP that you had been a victim of abuse. I feel for you. Don't let the hecklers get to you. You are a good person, remember that, and try to keep your chin up! One day you may grow to realize that your experience unfolds based on the thoughts you continue to think. Don't let the past haunt you forever, perhaps the person you spoke of in the original post accidentally bumped you because it was a crowded bus and your subconscious took over and you made this person into what you needed him to be because of the thoughts you continue to have about the past incident. Be mindful of your thoughts; our minds can oft lead us astray.
 
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Well If you did not know I was sexual assaulted, by a guy when I was younger and it happened on a bus.(school bus) and it more then an ass grabbing.

Then why is it okay if a woman grabs you like that? I've been sexually assaulted more than once (by both sexes) and I don't understand why it would be okay for one gender to do it but not another. I'm sorry that it happened to you, I just don't understand how you could be violated by someone and then be okay about anyone else doing it for any reason. That's why I assumed that you had no experience with this kind of stuff...people who have been sexually assaulted are very much not okay with anyone touching them intimately against their will in any way. It triggers those memories while being assaulted again, trauma is not gender selective.
 

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OK. I can understand where the OP is coming from in some ways.

1, not wanting to be sandwiched between two obese people....Not the kindest choice of words, but...yeah, being between two big people, whether it's big built like linebackers, or simply overweight, can be kind of uncomfortable.

2, I can even understand the having his ass grabbed, but not being bothered by some one grabbing his shoulder or his neck or whatever. Not polite, but in close quarters, stuff happens. It's not right for either a man or a woman to do that to someone else, and it can bevery shocking.

3, Anything below the belt by a stranger, either a man or a woman, for me, would give me pause. that's an invasion of personal space.
However, unfortunately, people are assholes. They think they can get away with everything, especially in a crowded environment.

Still, that's where you have to either give a dirty look, and say "Do you mind?" or "Excuse me?!"

I can understand not being comfortable with someone of the same sex grabbing them intimately like that, but there's got to be a better way to handle it.

As far as being uncomfortable with attracting both men and women, that's something you have to work on yourself. Perhaps a therapist would be a good idea. That could be a great way to explore this in a safe place. Although sometimes the best way to deal with this is just to lighten up on things; as it appears you still have some issues with self esteem, and being looked at in a sexual manner.

Best of luck; and welcome to adulthood
 

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Then why is it okay if a woman grabs you like that? I've been sexually assaulted more than once (by both sexes) and I don't understand why it would be okay for one gender to do it but not another. I'm sorry that it happened to you, I just don't understand how you could be violated by someone and then be okay about anyone else doing it for any reason. That's why I assumed that you had no experience with this kind of stuff...people who have been sexually assaulted are very much not okay with anyone touching them intimately against their will in any way. It triggers those memories while being assaulted again, trauma is not gender selective.

Thats something I want. there is a difference between some I do want and I do not want.
While I was at the concert I did have a mix drink on a empty stomach.

It actually reactivated my social anxiety. I have not locked up in conversation in 7 months tell a few days ago..