Why is it that some men wont take no for an answer?.I tell them Im living with my guy and they sill keep coming on.One guy said.Hey I wont tell anyone.Geesh.
Anyone else have this happin to them??:smile:
Hi, Jason. I think I am of the same generation as you are. What is interesting to me is how many articles, including one recently published in the NYTimes, suggest that the gay 20-somethings, have more in common with their straight peers than they do with older gay men in regards to social/moral values. For instance, guys of our generation are more likely to enter into monogamous relationships than our older gay counterparts. 'No, I am in a relationship already' is heard as a 'no' instead of 'I am just playing coy, so keep bugging me.'
This has been true in my experience. I am in a monogamous relationship, which seems to be a trivial point to older gay guys, who are of a generation where open relationships were, and still are, the norm. Psychologists suggests all sorts of reasons for this, but my take is that older gay men were rebels at the time they came out and experimented, as opposed to when we came out, which was largely after homosexuality had a wider exposure in the media. In other words, the world of homosexuality was much less taboo for us than for them. Another reason may be due to the fact that when you and I were growing up, the spread of HIV/AIDS was very much discussed. It was drilled into my head that abstinence and/or monogamy would be the only way to survive.
The only wild card on all this, is late bloomers and/or men who grew up in small, rural towns, where it is still like growing up in the 50s in regards to the social/moral values impressed upon them. They seem to be much more willing to mess around with lots of partners, perhaps because of the taboo-nature of the act.
My final thought on this matter is that it seems to me that the more a person truly excepts their sexuality (of any kind) and the more comfortable they are in their own skin, the less they will be seeking multiple partners. People who try to suppress their sexuality in any way seem to have sex-related issues. To play devil's advocate with myself, I should also say that I frequently envy friends of mine that are much more free with their sexuality. I often wish I did not feel so inhibited. Maybe, I am the one who has not come to terms with his sexuality!? This is food for thought anyway!