Some unpopular sex and/or LGBT opinions

[coordinatedchaos]

- A man who has sex with another man is never straight. to get aroused and enjoy the act isn't straight by the very definition of the Kinsey scale. This is just edgy bs made by far West Americans, and said as copium. The Kinsey scale cited heterosexuality as only ever having attraction to the opposite sex, and there are people like that. Possibly, most people in the world are such at any time.

- Size matters to some. Shaming people for saying they like size isn't on. Provided they're not bullying men with tiny dicks, they should be free to like what they want without appeasing the feelings of tiny-dicked guys.

- Most into race play are either closet racists or just Uncle Toms, but lack the balls to be openly racist or say they are sellouts.

- People who baulk when one merely says "I don't like x sex act, it's not for me" are cringe. Stop being so fucking sensitive and babies. People are entitled to their tastes and opinions, and the mere utterance of such doesn't stop you from enjoying what you do. Merely citing they don't like x act is not the same as saying "people into x act are scum and should be publicly hanged in the city square". One is an expression of taste - the other is a provocative statement advocating for murder. Note the difference, people..

- Kink does belong in Pride, and anybody who says it doesn't is ignorant of history and the roots of Pride parades. The solution is to have dual parades, with a kinky and "safe" celebration running concurrently. It's a retarded "debate" that occurs nearly every year and has no real merit since people who are ignorant of the historical facets push it.

- If a guy is into curvier ladies, so what? he likes what he likes. It's more cringe if he gets shamed for that as an adult. It's fine as a teen to only want the hottest, but then maybe as a 30 or 40-something, he doesn't really care that much what others think or has decided the baddest and hottest looks aren't everything.

 

[FaveBlue1]

- A man who has sex with another man is never straight. to get aroused and enjoy the act isn't straight by the very definition of the Kinsey scale. This is just edgy bs made by far West Americans, and said as copium. The Kinsey scale cited heterosexuality as only ever having attraction to the opposite sex, and there are people like that. Possibly, most people in the world are such at any time.

- Size matters to some. Shaming people for saying they like size isn't on. Provided they're not bullying men with tiny dicks, they should be free to like what they want without appeasing the feelings of tiny-dicked guys.

- Most into race play are either closet racists or just Uncle Toms, but lack the balls to be openly racist or say they are sellouts.

- People who baulk when one merely says "I don't like x sex act, it's not for me" are cringe. Stop being so fucking sensitive and babies. People are entitled to their tastes and opinions, and the mere utterance of such doesn't stop you from enjoying what you do. Merely citing they don't like x act is not the same as saying "people into x act are scum and should be publicly hanged in the city square". One is an expression of taste - the other is a provocative statement advocating for murder. Note the difference, people..

- Kink does belong in Pride, and anybody who says it doesn't is ignorant of history and the roots of Pride parades. The solution is to have dual parades, with a kinky and "safe" celebration running concurrently. It's a retarded "debate" that occurs nearly every year and has no real merit since people who are ignorant of the historical facets push it.

- If a guy is into curvier ladies, so what? he likes what he likes. It's more cringe if he gets shamed for that as an adult. It's fine as a teen to only want the hottest, but then maybe as a 30 or 40-something, he doesn't really care that much what others think or has decided the baddest and hottest looks aren't everything.

Men who aren't physically or sexually attracted to men of other races are a red flag for me. On another note, it was Sambo who was the grinning, carefree figure who sang, danced, and was entirely devoted to his white master.

 

[FaveBlue1]

Men who aren't physically or sexually attracted to men of other races are a red flag for me. On another note, it was Sambo who was the grinning, carefree figure who sang, danced, and was entirely devoted to his white master.

Or worse...men who aren't attracted to guys to men of THEIR race!

 

[NickFox]

Yes, those are very unpopular opinions.

 

[Noahbody1]

Men who aren't physically or sexually attracted to men of other races are a red flag for me. On another note, it was Sambo who was the grinning, carefree figure who sang, danced, and was entirely devoted to his white master.

You might want to look up the history of the term Sambo, “Little Black Sambo”, and how the term was used and changed over time (especially by whites for blacks).
And while the book was written by a Scottish author the term was a derogatory term for people of color but of course white American and Brits just felt the book was so fun it didn’t matter. Same for the restaurant chain in America.
Good Times!
An interesting post. Someone may have needed to get some stuff out without their friends and colleagues getting upset.

 

[bigboaster]

Do we add our own unpopular opinions too or just comment on the ones OP provided?

 

[fmbttm]

Jojo Siwa isn’t and never will be a gay icon.

 

[Equus49712]

If you put most guys in open relationships under the bright lights at least one of the two will admit that they really wish the relationship was monogamous and that they feel pressured into being open by their partner/other gay men/gay culture. You know, "because men are pigs and will cheat anyway so might as well just be up front about it".

 

[Mm77]

If you put most guys in open relationships under the bright lights at least one of the two will admit that they really wish the relationship was monogamous and that they feel pressured into being open by their partner/other gay men/gay culture. You know, "because men are pigs and will cheat anyway so might as well just be up front about it".

I don't understand open relationships - never have, never will. Personally, I'm completely against them. To me, if you're with someone, it should be about commitment and building something together, not hooking up with others on the side.

Unfortunately, open relationships do seem very common among gay men. Yes, you could argue they exist in heterosexual relationships too, but from what I see (and from what statistics suggest), they're far less common among straight couples.

For me, a relationship means loyalty and exclusivity. Anything else just isn't a relationship in the true sense of the word.

I'm not ashamed of my sexuality - I'm a gay man and I love men. But because of how difficult it can be at times, I'd be lying if I said there weren't moments I wished I was straight.

 

[Fummer43]

Men who aren't physically or sexually attracted to men of other races are a red flag for me. On another note, it was Sambo who was the grinning, carefree figure who sang, danced, and was entirely devoted to his white master.

What are your thoughts about gay men who aren’t attracted (or rule out) the female to male transgender individuals? Is that wrong?

 

[BLBoi]

I don't understand open relationships - never have, never will. Personally, I'm completely against them. To me, if you're with someone, it should be about commitment and building something together, not hooking up with others on the side.

Unfortunately, open relationships do seem very common among gay men. Yes, you could argue they exist in heterosexual relationships too, but from what I see (and from what statistics suggest), they're far less common among straight couples.

For me, a relationship means loyalty and exclusivity. Anything else just isn't a relationship in the true sense of the word.

I'm not ashamed of my sexuality - I'm a gay man and I love men. But because of how difficult it can be at times, I'd be lying if I said there weren't moments I wished I was straight.

I get it but you can have loyalty and exclusivity in open relationships. sex is just sex and nothing more in these relationships and they dont see it as something that should be tied down to just one person. The more emotional aspect of the relationship is typically monogamous. A relationship doesnt gave to be two people only "in the true sense of the word". A monogamous relationship is a typical relationship but not the standard.

 

[aoin_uk]

I'll put my head above the parapet and say that kink and fetish have a part in Pride, it's a protest, yes, but it's a showcase, too.

A recent story for you all. My partner and I visited [city in the UK] Pride recently. Amongst the drag, bands, local clubs, charities, and NO political parties because of the nation-wide ban, was a single marcher in full fetish gear, head to toe shiny leather.

Over on Facebook the day after, a photo of this person had generated QUITE THE RESPONSE. People vehemently opposed, people broadly supportive, people rather disinterested but happy to join in a social media argument, you name it. The response which stood out for me was a man explaining that LGBT+ protests aren't just family friendly dancing and rugby players in short shorts: it's supposed to be a way for all sides and facets to feel brave enough to march through a town, facing down any criticism or abuse. There has to be some discomfort, to give a taste of what it feels to be different.

I understand the opposite view, that kink is sexual and Pride shouldn't be that way. I'm very cautious of the consequences. If Pride is made palatable to a wider audience, who amongst our own community do we silence?

 

[Mm77]

I get it but you can have loyalty and exclusivity in open relationships. sex is just sex and nothing more in these relationships and they dont see it as something that should be tied down to just one person. The more emotional aspect of the relationship is typically monogamous. A relationship doesnt gave to be two people only "in the true sense of the word". A monogamous relationship is a typical relationship but not the standard.

I know everyone has their own views when it comes to relationships, but for me commitment isn’t about control — it’s about choosing to build something meaningful with your partner.

I understand that sex can be “just sex,” and ive heard this before but when love is involved, I don’t get why it’s so hard for some people to commit fully or at least be open about kinks and desires. If you’re constantly hooking up with others or getting stimulated by other people, it stops being a true partnership and feels more like friends-with-benefits — you may care deeply for one another, even love each other, but that’s not the same as being in love.

Of course, we all notice others and find people attractive, but acting on that is different. That’s where porn (used in a healthy way) can play a role without damaging the relationship. The more someone looks outside the relationship or acts on those urges or fantasies, the stronger those desires become and the weaker the connection with their partner gets.

I’m not ashamed of being a gay man, but I do wish relationships in the gay community mirrored what’s more common in heterosexual couples - building together, staying loyal, and finding fulfilment in each other. That’s just my opinion and I respect others may feel differently, but for me commitment is the foundation of love.

Curious to hear others opinion and why people genuinely believe you can love someone and still sleep around?

 

[FaveBlue1]

What are your thoughts about gay men who aren’t attracted (or rule out) the female to male transgender individuals? Is that wrong?

I appreciate their aesthetic beauty, but I don't have a sexual attraction to them.

 

[curtain_swoosh]

im a bi guy, also i guess ud call it straight acting or wstever, and when i tell other gays that im not into the whole scene, the clubs events or prides, they are so offended, especially when i say that im not sexually attracted to trans people.

like .. i dont quite understand how im not allowed to do my own thing ha.

being bi or gay or trans comes with such a pressure to like certain things, to act a certain way, ifs ridiculous.

i guess its the same for straight ppl but damn.
for all the "love is love" movements, you are surely judged heavily for not fitting into t heir idea of being gay ha

 

[aoin_uk]

I know everyone has their own views when it comes to relationships, but for me commitment isn’t about control — it’s about choosing to build something meaningful with your partner.

I understand that sex can be “just sex,” and ive heard this before but when love is involved, I don’t get why it’s so hard for some people to commit fully or at least be open about kinks and desires. If you’re constantly hooking up with others or getting stimulated by other people, it stops being a true partnership and feels more like friends-with-benefits — you may care deeply for one another, even love each other, but that’s not the same as being in love.

Of course, we all notice others and find people attractive, but acting on that is different. That’s where porn (used in a healthy way) can play a role without damaging the relationship. The more someone looks outside the relationship or acts on those urges or fantasies, the stronger those desires become and the weaker the connection with their partner gets.

I’m not ashamed of being a gay man, but I do wish relationships in the gay community mirrored what’s more common in heterosexual couples - building together, staying loyal, and finding fulfilment in each other. That’s just my opinion and I respect others may feel differently, but for me commitment is the foundation of love.

Curious to hear others opinion and why people genuinely believe you can love someone and still sleep around?

I agree with much of this. If open relationships are just your euphemism for wanting to sleep around, just admit that you want to sleep around.

Open relationships need structure and rules, surely? You have to genuinely love someone, desire them, and know that they're *the one*. I can't see how that works if you have a part time lover and a string of alternatives.

 

[AsherStClaire]

*Most People of Color who engage in raceplay are (whether or not they realize it) are trying to process racism-based trauma they've experienced. They're victims trying to process their trauma in the most backwards way possible, but they're still victims of systemic and societal racism and I'm not going to judge them. The YT people who participate in it though are opportunistic monsters who should be put on a list. They're legit dangerous.

*Queer Men who say "they're not into the whole scene" are 9x10 dealing with various levels of internalized homophobia and they don't realize it or refused to acknowledge it. There is so much queer culture that exists out there but they always reduced it to hookups and club culture. There are gay sports leagues, gaymers, TTRPG players, book clubs, etc. It's weird that they use the same lame stereotypes that straight people use when they describe queer culture.

*Same note: masc men who refuse to engage the community because they think they're above it, yet complain that they have no gay friends. You're not too good for drag night at the local gay bar Derrick, get over yourself and let loose a little. Going to a drag show once in a while isn't going to turn you into Carson Kressley.

*Queer guys who shamelessly thirst over str8 men are fucking pathetic. And I mean that in the most severest way possible. Y'all are truly the weakest link. I'm not talking about just appreciating a man because he's hot. I'm talking about those pathetic, guttersnipe queens who refer to straight men as "real men". Those queens make me fucking vomit. Like, have a basic level of self-respect for fucks sake. Ugh, those people make me fucking sick.

*The way I've seen and heard a lot of bi men talk about gay men has made me super wary of ever taking one seriously as a romantic or sexual partner. Some of y'all (notice how I didn't say all?) talk about gay men like the only value we have in this world is helping you bust a nut until you work up the nerve to find a straight women who will tolerate you despite your proximity to queerness, or who you'll lie to so you won't threaten how she perceives you as a man. And then the bunch of you who treat gay men like used condoms, wonder why you don't have the biggest fan-base in the community. Don't get me wrong, bisexuality is totally valid, but a lot of y'all act really fucked up to other people in the community.

*Lastly, fellow PoC Queers, shit is getting very, very, VERY weird. Please keep both eyes open and do whatever you can to foster community wherever you can. The Gay Community (especially the palm colored demographic) has become VERY complacent over the past decade and there are too many of us who are not taking the threats from this admnistration seriously. When shit hits the fan (and there are already farts in the wind) the privileged among us won't hesitate to throw us under the bus or abandon us to suit their own ends. They've done it before and they'll do it agian. Please don't get caught slipping.