I was three years junior in university, when my cousin came to my dorm and demanded sex from me. Before that, we had only jacked off (I think twice) and I never knew he had any interest beyond that. So this was a surprise! I laughed at him, he became violent and I gave him sex just to get him out. The next time I gave in with no fight. Things have continued this way for many years until he moved to the West Indies-it has been a month without him and I miss him terribly. Only when he was especially cruel, insulting to me, did we fight, but most of our sex was very good. I've had two opportunities for sex since he left, but took neither because the men were too gentle. Don't you think a man should be a strong man if there's to be attraction? How many here feel this way?