ack4678: For teh last year or so, my girlfriend and I have had sex only very rarely. I didn't think I was that big, about 7 inches long, and 2 inches wide. But it has been a big problem. It was a contributing factor to us breaking up. Sicne then she has slept with another guy, and said it was more enjoyable because he was smaller. She could actually concentrate on enjoying herself, instead of grimacing through pain. (We couldn't use many positions, because she was so strained) We're getting back together, but I don't want to have that frustration again. But what can she do so that it won't hurt? Is it as simple as using larger toys to loosen her up? Or am I just stuck?