Sos!! I need help! Please!!!! I'm an addict

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  1. D_Connor Condompopper

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    Guys,

    i need your sincere help. i'm addicted. i'm a sex addict. i'm addicted to porn. it's killing me. i sit in front of the computer all day masturbating, then chasing girls online on dating sites. it's a struggle to get motivated, to get work done, to live life.

    i feel like i'm letting my life pass me by. i spend and waste countless hours in front of the computer, chasing the rush of porn and immediate sexual gratification, ie dating sites, etc.

    it's effecting personal relationships, business and worst of all my own self fulfillment of life.

    can anyone offer help? suggestions? relate?

    i'm very serious about this. please help.

    thank you.
     
  2. invisibleman

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    well with a cock like that I would be busy all the time too
    turn off the computer spring is here what else do you like to do?
    get outside
     
  4. D_Connor Condompopper

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    i know. but the computer is a black hole. and thank you. you're right. i'm not sure how many people really understand. thank you.

    i've been thinking of just throwing out the computer. ugh...

    it's terrible.
     
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    I also watch a lot of porn and love wanking, try different things, different situations like outside or something, in public places make the experience more pleasurable and more healthy?, lemme know if u wanna try
     
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    DO NOT engage this member if you are serious about wanting to break your addiction. He is an enabler who will get you into riskier and riskier situations, classic addict behavior. DO seek professional help.
     
  7. D_Connor Condompopper

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    thanks. but i think you're going in the wrong direction of my intention.

     
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    Thank you Altered. i love your quote too. :)

     
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    Are you currently in a relationship or single?
     
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    single of course.
     
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    Well not necessarily.. I know a lot of guys in your situation who are in relationships. One such guy who I used to chat to a lot told me the only way to deal with it was disabling MSN and any other means of chat. Also coming off the dating sites and not logging into his computer late at night. He was forever chasing the buzz of talking to anonymous women but always felt guilty afterwards.

    He seems to be sorting himself out now and is a lot happier although I think he needs to address underlying problems in his relationship still..
     
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    um. ok. well i said of course because no relationship could sustain my behavior. i relate to "chasing the buzz" of women and having sex with them.
     
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    Do you want to have a serious relationship or do you just want to sow wild oats at the moment?

    I suppose this will be the deciding factor in whether you alter your behaviour.

    Do you have any other interests that can distract you?
     
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    heyya, there's a lot of men in your situation. you're not the only one. it's just an obsessive compulsion disorder (OCD) behavior. I used to chat with a guy, he was 100% straight, cool fellow, and he cammed. His cock was like 9x6, huge dick. just a fascination to watch him stroke. But... said he used to advertise on craigslist for women to cam with, he didn't care whether they cammed back or not, he just wanted women to watch. I think he had more than 500 people, mostly women and some guys he cammed for on his msn/yahoo. He told me it was a real problem for him, just couldn't stop, and the porn and sex stuff. He was in a relationship, said she was an awesome girl, but she didn't know what he was doing. I guess it makes you think, yeh, this could ruin an awesome relationship. He was debating on telling her. Said he'd be in counseling, taken meds, the whole nine yards, but I really wonder if maybe you need to have someone you can confide in, a close friend, someone that could help with some accountability that you can seriously trust and willing to help you. Maybe if you found someone, a friend, he or she could 'start' by putting parental controls on your pc. It's a start, and maybe close your memberships on those sites where you're chasing women, dump whatever chat friends on messenger that encourage it, or even completely close your msn/skype/yahoo to keep yourself out. there's probably a ton of stuff that chains you to it. maybe you even have it downloaded on your pc??? dump that too. Do some serious housekeeping and dump it all. If you're really serious and really want to quit, you gotta start somewhere, some kind of step. You asked for help in starting this thread.

    I think the stuff wraps itself so tightly in your head and controls you. But you're probably gunna have to find a way that works for you in letting loose and regaining control of your life. I think too, it begins in your own mind. It's a real addiction for sure, but you're not the only one. If you still can't break free, you gotta realize it will ruin every real relationship or chance at a real relationship and many other things in your life as well seeking the sex gratification. I know there's meds out there for O.C.D., just depends on the individual and their individual body chemistry in how effective it is. It's no more worse than being treated for depression, they prescribe meds to treat that too, and sometimes it takes a few different tries of this or that until it's arrested or under control. Sex is a powerful thing, a good thing, but when it causes an imbalance in your life and you see you're out of control, at least it is good that you recognize you have a problem, don't be afraid to seek out someone who has the ability to help you.
     
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    Best of luck to you. Unlike many others, I believe sex addiction is real and I think you've taken the most important step of acknowledging that it's causing an imbalance in your life.

    I'm not certain where to point you other than outside to try another activity you enjoy (hiking, running, working out perhaps?) that will allow you to focus the same energy you put into satisfying your sexual hunger on something else. The first site posted seems a good resource as well, as it has listings for local meetings for others battling your addiction as well.

    Keep us update on how it goes. Those of us who take you seriously, will continue to support you here - make sure you find support elsewhere as well.
     
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    Thechuck: have you been seeing anyone to help you deal with the feelings? I would hire a shrink to be able to speak with, who can give you the exact advice you need. You can clean off your computer but you should really dig deep to where the addiction comes from and fulfill your needs otherwise.

    Go on dates instead of just hooking up. Try to find some friends or go out more with the friends you have. Most importantly, go see a professional at least a couple times to help you sort through some of the feelings.
     
  17. D_Connor Condompopper

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    thanks guys. i just think if i do something like spyware or something, i'll always have the key. i'll find ways around it. ive created a very comfortable lifestyle and it's so easy for me to get online and in a second you're on some porn site.

    the other thing is, i just love women. i love them. i'm addicted to them. nothing makes me feel so good as a beautiful woman and having sex.

    i think i just need to literally throw my computer out. it's just a crutch. it's much of the environment. it's like having junk food around the house and going on a diet. if i keep cookies in the cupboard, i'm going to eat them. so i don't keep them there. and consequently i don't eat them.

    i think everyone's different and has their own triggers and weaknesses. this is mine.

    it's in some ways the burden of having a really big cock. it's a bit addicted to it.

    i appreciate you who left real legitimate responses. thank you. i welcome them.
     
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    Hey, congratulations on admitting that you have a problem, that is the first step of 12 to take in recovery. Now you need to get on and do something by seeking professional help. Stop looking at different situations that are being presented here, it will only delay what you most desire.

    People like dknybedelicious are as alteredego and you have realised are enablers and controllers. Actually they are just jealous that you are going to succeed where they cannot be bothered to seriously try.

    You don't have to get rid of your computer, just look at other websites - healthy ones, such as walking, hiking swimming etc., and build up a hobby. Join a gym get fit, there are lots of things that you can do to fill the time - positive things that do no involve porn, wanking or sex.

    Good luck and let us know how you get on, here's a link to various sites Google

    sex addiction recovery - Google-Suche

    All the best
    Brinz
     
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    You know yourself best, so do what works, even if it means staying away from us too! Not forever, but until you have the hang of managing yourself better around the internet.

    Best wishes.
     
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    You know, I really don't have any advice for you, only encouragement. You sound so very serious about breaking the cycle of addictive behavior that just has its hold on you. I hope you'll find new, healthier patterns, and be able to live a balanced life. I hope you'll be able to get assistance when you are ready for it, and find the underlying problem. I also hope you'll be able to come back some day, and tell us how long you've been "clean". I understand, though, if you can never come back again.
     
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