If your'e going to wear spandex, despite being somewhat overweight, yet in decent shape, wear them under outer clothing like shorts or jeans. Iv'e worn spandex style water polo swim brief that really fit nice and did give me a healthy erection from feeling the close and clinging material. If I do wear them other than swimming, I'll wear loose trousers or shorts over them during the summer months. and no one will notice. Those water polo spandex swim briefs feel so good when wet after swimming and take some doing, getting them off, especially having a hard on under the shiny clinging spandex that tickles so much, dry or wet. I really like wearing spandex water polo swim briefs in the pool or as underwear.