sperm or egg donation

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  1. yman74

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    I am currently listening to a npr program about egg donation. This caused a weird thought in my head. If you were looking for a sperm donor would you want to know his cock size? Not for you of course, but if you had a son would you want him to be hung?
     
  2. ManlyBanisters

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    No.

    Next!
     
  3. B_Mademoiselle Rouge

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    Let me ask you instead: If you were hoping to conceive after repeated failing in this area- would you prefer an egg from a woman who had big tits and would you want your daughter to have big tits also?

    How does that make you feel? A little creepy. Well good, it should.
     
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    Well if that is true then your looks of your child shouldn't matter either. Yet many people choose sperm or egg donors based on looks.
     
  5. D_Sparroe Spongecaques

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    No!

    How perverse!
     
  6. B_Mademoiselle Rouge

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    They don't get to see what their donor looks like when it comes to sperm. They get to pick physical characteristics similar to their spouse for example, brown eyes, brown hair, etc. in order to have the child look like more of a possible reproduction of what they would create if they were able to conceive on their own.

    They don't pick the guy because he looks like Tom Cruise, they wouldnt know what the guy looks like. Sperm donors like to remain anonymous and they categorize sperm based on the physical characteristics of the man. If they didn't, a woman could have some randomly generation sperm sample.

    People who can't conceive don't go around thinking of their future sons dick size. You are happy to even become a mother at all. You don't even think about their genitalia until after they are born and if they are normal thats all that even matters.

    As a woman you'd probably hope your son doesn't have a real problem with his genitals like micropenis or something else dreadful to deal with. If people are thinking about breast size on their daughters and dick size on their sons when they are using donor sperm and eggs- they are stupid and its not likely this is even crossing their mind.

    I have lots of friends from my infertility years that used donor eggs and sperm- trust me these things are not even on the radar.
     
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  8. ManlyBanisters

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    Parents don't really think about the size of their children's genitals. Trust me - it doesn't cross the mind of the average pregnant or TTC couple.

    And even if they did there is no guarantee that a man with a big penis will have sons with big penises. So please take your creepy thoughts elsewhere.

    Good day, sir!
     
  9. B_Mademoiselle Rouge

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    I swear, there needs to be a category called "Stange thoughts only men have and secretly hope women have too"

    One of the weirdest questions i've seen asked here. My motherly instinct snubs her nose at this. Truly bothersome and leaves a bad taste in my mouth to be honest.
     
  10. D_Sparroe Spongecaques

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    Exactly!

    I've been a midwife for several years and seen many many infertile couples and all they wanted was a healthy baby.The only time they were bothered about the babies nether regions was to see if they had a son or a daughter.

    I too am infertile and had to rely on IVF,albeit with my husband and i wouldnt have cared less if my babies had come out sky blue pink with yellow dots as long as they came out.I know my husbands felt the same.As long as the baby can urinate then WTF would any normal parent care about the size of the babies genitals?
     
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    Haha, so true!
    Most threads men start here make me think: They really must think women are stoooooopid and only think of big dick all day and night.


     
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    This is one judgmental group. I was just asking a question. Parents who order "Designer" babies and pay big money worry about or sorts of weird things like what college they go to, what gpa they have there, are they an athlete. Does any of this stuff really matter? I was just asking a weird question. My personal feelings are that there are alot of needy children out there that need a loving home for adoption.

    Don't judge me unless you know me. I am sure there are people who would judge you for even being on this forum. I was hoping for a open-minded sounding board. Guess I was wrong.
     
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    Hmmm, honestly I never would have thought about it. I'm pretty sure you can go to speciality clinics and pick the father(sperm donors) eye color, hair color, ethnic background etc. I doubt it would cross my mind and is this something the donors even put on their application? And how would we know if he told the truth? Personally I would try to get a donor to be someone I knew in real life anyway, but to each their own I guess.
     
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    I'd think the IQ and health of a sperm/egg donor is more important than the length of his dick/her boobs.
    Or would you rather have a big dick than be smart or athletic/healthy/in shape?

     
  15. D_Sparroe Spongecaques

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    So do you really think these kids will only be chosen by prospective parents if the child has big genitals?

    A social worker wouldnt let anyone near a child that is up for adoption who was more concerned in the childs nether regions! It smacks of paedophilia.

    JMO
     
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    I'd suggest:

    "Strange thoughts men have when they are really, really horny, and there is no room left in their brain for cosideration of morality, ethics, humanity....."
     
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    Take your pitiful tripe elsewhere. You aren't going to get support for your supposed "designer" genital thoughts. That was something YOU thought about when you heard about donor sperm and eggs. Not us. You were hoping your pathetic thoughts were shared. But most of us are mothers and we find it very stupid that you'd place your own bizarre thoughts on our minds as a burden.

    You are judging other people in your posts in this very thread. Don't preach to us about not judging you. Stop and think for 2 seconds how stupid your question was and how it negates the actual thoughts and concerns of a couple trying to get pregnant and the priorities on the list.

    Wanting a person who graduated from Harvard is a more honorable and desired trait than a guy who fucked the deepest pussies in all of porn history.

    Have you ever set foot in a doctors office? These clinics that take these samples don't ask for things like "Penis length and girth" "Do you have low hanging balls" "Are your breasts large?"

    If they did they would be considered perverse and unprofessional. Many of us also have a medical background, a maternal background or even an background in infertility. So when you got your nuts handed back to you, you could have just moved on and realized you didn't put a semi-intelligent thought about the subject before asking about it.

    Your mind is what referred to the dick size, so maybe you are the one with the issues. Maybe we are the disappointed ones, not you.
     
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    Egg/sperm donation is nothing like making designer babies. Designer babies are illegal.

    I did however watch a tv show where people do go around meeting and visiting the donor, getting to know everything about them, what they have achieved in life, what they look like.
    They spend years finding the 'perfect' man in hope of passing on desirable genes and characteristic to their kid.

    It never focused on genetalia.... that's weird.
     
  19. B_Hickboy

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    I've seen this topic before. It's been discussed here on numerous occasions, maybe not in Women's Issues, but I've seen it before.

    I once dated a woman who selected her breeding partner in part because of his height, and in part because of his big cock. She knew the size of the man's other sons' (from his first marriage) genitals, too. I never asked her how she knew that, but I gleaned that she fucked at least one of them while their dad wasn't home. She "wanted her son to have a big dick". She also had him circumcised because she "didn't want the girl who gave him his first blowjob to be put off or laugh at him". Howzat for creepy? That shallow, narcissistic bitch and I did not last long, and I am glad.
     
  20. ManlyBanisters

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    I said, Good DAY, sir!!
     
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