Spice up sex life

[Freeman]

Hello dear friends,
I'd like to ask the woman in this forum about what they would like to spice up their sex life in marriage.
I'm married for 5 years now, me and my wife have a regular sex life but i'd like to spice it up a little so it wont turn boring.
We're kinda open. sometimes we watch porn, i love to give her oral and she asks almost every night, sometimes i play with her using a bullet vibrator. sometimes we go and stay at a hotel with a big hot tub. i give black kisses which she loves too. i am really looking forward improving our sex life but i dont really know what to do but i'd love to come with new ideas so we can have more fun and enjoy more of each other.

Can you help me out, give me some ideas, some pointers or examples of what your husband or partners or even you have done to add something new?

 

[693987]

..what the heck are "black kisses"?

 

[LaFemme]

A little light bondage, ice and candle wax never hurt anyone.

 

[Freeman]

..what the heck are "black kisses"?

licking the anus. i do only if its very very clean!!

 

[693987]

licking the anus. i do only if its very very clean!!

Alrighty. I've never heard it called that. Rimming, analingus, yes, "black" kisses, no.

@LaFemme had some good suggestions. Also worth trying is going to an adult store together, to see if anything catches your eye, her eye, or both of your attention.

 

[MickeyLee]

Light bondage. Spanking. A lil dress up. Most things you can find with a trip to a couple's friendly adult site or emporium.

 

[Holly Doors]

As everyone has said maybe try a little bdsm or roleplay, you could have a go at having sex outside or in the car etc. My husband and myself lead a pretty freaky crazy sex life but depends how far you wanna go hunni.

 

[Freeman]

As everyone has said maybe try a little bdsm or roleplay, you could have a go at having sex outside or in the car etc. My husband and myself lead a pretty freaky crazy sex life but depends how far you wanna go hunni.

im open to anything new that could lead to a better sex life and a better relationship

 

[Scarletbegonia]

This is one of the most respectful, positive questions in a long time.

We play with pacing. Sometimes it’s not what you do, but how you do it.
Some interludes are quickies and others are full on reciprocal body worshipping sessions.
Even if the activity list looks the same, it certainly doesn’t feel the same, physically or mentally.

 

[Taya]

If we are talking about the two of you, I'll vote for roleplay, cosplay, VERY light bondage and definitely outside where the risk of getting caught elevates the libido.

 

[Betty_Cocker]

Maybe next time you are having sex, or right after, talk about some of your (and her) fantasies. Then without the sex talk about things that either of you would like to try that (1) are legal (2) are consensual and (3) are within both of your scopes of "within the relationship". If there are things, even as Holly suggested, as simple as having sex outdoors or in a pool or hot tub (your own, please..) or as out there as finding a third wheel (as long as you BOTH agree on ground rules.) What happens in your bed/bedroom between two consenting adults as long as it meets the 3 guides above, is only your business and no one else's.