I don't think "too much" is the argument as far as women, as opposed to "not enough" as far as men. What I do suspect though, is during easier times they opted to overlook an obvious discrepancy in the amount of housework being performed, a decision that only intensifies the frustrations that have arisen out of this crisis. I find it really hard to believe that all of a sudden, men whom were adeptly handling an equitable portion of household cleaning responsibilities are simply now slacking off.
Maybe it was easier to not argue about it before because he was at work 8+hrs a day and the kids were out of the home daily so that things didnt accumulate that fast. Perhaps the income he was previously generating provided you a lifestyle that made you more willing to sacrifice a higher percentage of your time and effort towards a disproportionate chuck of household cleaning...whatever it was, the inability or unwillingness to be an equitable partner in household cleaning responsibilities, i almost guarantee it revealed itself prior to some level of commitment made(and accepted), and unless it was specifically addressed then, no amount of correctly labeling his immaturity and or laziness overrides the fact you accepted it for what it was.
Sure maybe some guy's wife goes out a bit too much and gets a bit wild with the girls, but you damn well if that's how he met her and committed to her without first specifying his desire to her curtail it, upon his subsequent complaint we'd kind of just collectively shrug our shoulders and ask how mad could he really be? Not that he wouldn't have a point about maybe it being in her and their best interests to mitigate her partying, but ultimately he would have served himself better by perhaps seeking partners who did not party so much....
Ive yet to hear in any woman's account of this "increased and disproportionate housework" being prefaced with just how meticulous and clean their husbands and significant others were on their own before they were together and it's very telling as to why this is a recurring problem.