Stay friends or clean break?

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Hey everyone,

Looking for peoples thoughts on a situation. I am gay and developed a very close relationship with a friend who is two years younger than me. We had some ”intimate” moments and once he told me he wanted to try to make out with a guy (there were lots of these signals) that he might be gay too but thats neither here nor there.

Anyway, I have very strong feelings for him, and it causes me a lot of pain. I have read here and elsewhere that its best to not say something and cherish the friendship you have, but otherwise have heard it is best you should make a ”clean break”.

I feel awful about losing a friend but not saying something is really hurting me and the hope that he might come out and probably string me along. I just dont know what to do.

Thanks in advance,
 

Phil Ayesho

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Tell him you have to break off Association with him and when he asks why, tell him you have feelings for him and its just too painful...

Explain to him, and to yourself, that you can still be deep friends with someone that you have to keep at arm's distance. That, if they are ever in serious need, they can always rely on you... but that unrequited affection and desire is incompatible with hanging out.
 

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These guys are both right on. I walked away from a very close friendship years ago for the same reason. I didn't provide him with any explanation and it has bothered me for nearly 30 years. I should have been honest with him.