Staying hard during sex...

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  1. GentJack

    GentJack New Member

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    When engaged in sexual activity with my significant other, I have a bit of trouble keeping it up. I don't know why it is. I have a few ideas myself.

    Never used condoms up until her (I know, I've learned), the act of putting them on is a bit awkward to me, not as fluid. Also feels a lot different.
    She's very quiet, like barely even moans when she orgasms, I don't find it attractive like a girl who's letting me know what's going on.
    Poor diet? I don't eat too well, though my weight stays the same along with energy levels.

    Does anyone have any ideas about this? I have no problems staying hard for an hour or more when I'm by myself. I cant really remember if it's been an issue in the past, but I'm really noticing it now.
     
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    Same thing with my new girl, and shes the prettiest one I've ever been with. I just don't get comfortable until further on into the relationship. I would communicate with her and ask her to just be more vocal if she can.
     
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    condom too tight? based on your age, might be time for a physical? medication side effects? fatigue?
     
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    Maybe you're thinking about it too much? Negative feedback loops will do that. Have a drink, smoke a joint and forget about the negs.
     
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    Don't think so much...it sounds like a stress issue or that your worrying about your performance and there for your not staying erect. It's the "self-fulfilling Prophecy"! Don;t think so much...just do it! ;)
    Poor diet...? Care to explain? Are you depressed? Depression will kill an erection almost immediately.
     
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    Poor diet just like a lack of eating. I didn't eat today, I was too busy. Not too depressed, and I'm 21, with a great libido. It's just a little disconcerting since I want to perform for her. She has no complaints, and says I'm amazing and i know she's telling the truth. I want to show her what I really can do then. ;)
     
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    anyone else?
     
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    happens to me, but if it does its usually only after around an hour or so. Or the 3rd round. But it still happens.

    I've noticed that when my gf is on top I can get softer after a while. So I'll switch and go on top, I seem to always get harder and back to normal when I'm on top.
     
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    Putting on a condom can be a passion-killer. Try to eroticise the act by having her put it on for you as part of foreplay.

    It sounds like more responsiveness from her would help too.
     
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    Yeah a bit more enthusiasm would help a lot. I've talked to her about it but I'm thinking of calling it off with her just because I cant perform and it hurts me.
     
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    I am married and have been for 15 years. We started swinging with this other couple. The first several times I had failures with her. We were using condoms, it was a new partner, I wanted to perform etc. I never have had problems with my wife. The girl and I talked about it some, we stopped using condoms, I started taking some supplements. Now it has been working just fine for months. Hope this helps.
     
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    Ironaddict69 Cut out the Finnaplex or run more test with your Decca. It was a joke bro-don't freak out.

    Anybody who says that they've never had this problem is lying! It happened to me when I was 19. I had some normal condom they were giving out at the health center on campus and it was way too small, plus fatigue from basketball season, next thing you know TIMBER! I freaked out-it still messes with my head. Get a physical, talk to your Dr. I got everything checked out and they told me it's all mental which is worse because to me it's not tangible; it's hard for me to understand how I'm doing it to myself. The mental aspect makes it a self-fulfilling prophecy-it happens because you think about and you think about it because it happens. You just have to put it out of your mind. Just my two cents.
     
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    Like someone said earlier condom too tight? A rubber cock ring would keep it up too. On the quietness talk to her on it, with time she might open up more.
     
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    The condom. I had a boyfriend some time ago with a similar problem. I am very oral with my partners, and very attentive to a man's cock. This made him nervous for some reason, although he shouldn't have been. Wearing a condom seemed to make him uncomfortable throughout extended sex, especially when i would play with his cock. He performed much better without it. Try a larger condom, and try to forget that it's there. Good luck.
     
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    hahahaha, actually you made me smile, I like your humor ;-) I NEVER run fina anymore. shit is bad news if i want to stay out of prison.

    Good advice though to the poster. I think try some Arginine AAKG dude, that will get more blood flow down there.
     
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    That could do it....not eating right! Self-fulfilling prophecy is a BIG thing....though! Don't think about it...think more about the moment and not about staying hard.

     
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    Honestly, I've been an up-and-down guy all my life. It has nothing to do with the attractiveness of the partner nor condom issues (though I concur that they blow goats). It's yet another difference between real-life sex and porn.
     
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    I'll agree with this.

    Sexual desire and function ebb and flow over the years for both sexes.The key is to move with it relax and have fun!:smile:
     
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    i agree its all in your head. i had the same problem with the first 3 girls i ever tried to be with. so i convinced myself that i must be gay. so after experiencing the same thing with men, i realized i just have to feel really comfortable with the person, and im fine.

    im now engaged to be married in june to a gorgeous girl that im madly in love with. it is definitly a self fullfilling prophecy. just dont think so much.
    curt.
     
  20. D_Beau Nerr

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    LOL. One time I took NO-Xplode before having sex...

    At Gent... I have been getting a low energy vibe just reading from your post. Maybe you're stressed and think on a lot of things.
     
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