donkeyboy: Need help guys.....Have a great sex life, but this week i managed to snog someone i've fancied for ages and although i was really 'worked' up, my dong kept big 'n' soft in my pants. Now arranged another date with this person next week....hoping to consumate the relationship!! - and i'm scared my thang just won't stay hard! I want my inches seen in all their beauty .. any ideas??
doghorn: You're in a difficult position now because you're already scared the same thing will happen again. Fortunately for you there's a magic pill that will solve your problem: Viagra. Get some before you see this person next. Eat one an hour before you want to be hard. Give a little extra time if you're going to have a full stomach (maybe 1 1/2 - 2 hours). Don't drink a lot, one or two drinks max. The little blue pill will take away all your fears because you will get rock hard. You can get it as a prescription from almost any doctor. I would wish you good luck, but with Viagra you will not need it! 
Ron
Ron
littlbigguy: I've had a similar experience to donkeyboy's recently, but the context was a little different. My current gf had a strong case of the hots for me from the very start, but it took me quite a while to decide that I wanted more than a friendship with her, i.e. that I wanted sex to become a part of this particular relationship. So I took things very slowly at first and only "made out" without "having sex" for what seemed to her a very long period of time. When she started to probe for my penis through my pants, and later started handling it under my belt while I was still fully clothed, my penis would be in a nice fat and juicy semihard state but by no means at its biggest and hardest. I wasn't ready psychologically to "let go" and get really sexually excited with her yet, that's why I had the self control to keep it at that level for the time. She was immediately impressed and overly pleased with what she felt, and kept injecting "your size" into ordinary conversations at every possible opportunity from that point on, referring to it in awestruck and unmistakably praiseworthy ways. (I might mention that I don't think I'm one of the guys who usually shows an obvious bulge, so the initial gropes generally provide the first strong indication to a gf of what she might be in for with me. This, despite the fact that when I'm sitting very "comfortably" most likely 7 or 8 thick inches of plump semi are sitting very comfortably there too, under the left pant leg alongside my inner thigh . My hypothesis: big dick but only average sized balls, slim little guy, very loose fitting trous with enough extra folds of material to camouflage the one special fold concealing the hidden treasure.) When after a few weeks' more time I finally resoved my inhibitions or reservations about going further and felt willing to become fully aroused with her, needless to say everything I've got finally unleashed itself too. Hers were by no means the first and only OMG's to have been uttered in my presence on such an occasion, but they provided one of the most memorable OMG-high experiences so far to me. I know that donkeyboy is describing a different type of situation, but I think the bottom line is still really the same: if she's gonna like what you've got and you wanna show and give it to her, then she's gonna get to see and have it, at the time and in the way that's right for your particular situation.
kyle: I had the same problem once. A girl I dated and liked very much just never seemed to melt my butter. After many sessions of making out without "raising my interest" I just accepted that the chemistry wasn't there. But we're still very good friends.
- Max,
Donkeyboy,
This can be one of the disadvantages of being more than well endowed. Getting a 100% erection takes more out of your system, and if you are like me there is a pretty wide range between the barely stiff, through the standard erection right up to the 110% humdinger. Make sure you keep fit and eat well, is my first offering.
You might also want to take Doghorn's advice about viagra. Personally I would wait a bit, and see what happens before you do so. The odd bit of nervousness is pretty well inevitable, unless you are a very unusual guy.
My nervousness way back was directly connected to my size. The advice I got (from a couple of experienced, but average-sized guys), was that I should begin sex with a half erection, to reduce the size and accustom my girl to the size gradually. That advice, which foolishly I took very much to heart, completely wrecked my confidence for a while.
In your situation I would just go with the flow; you should be fine, once the initial nervousness has worn off. If not, post here again ....
Littlbigguy ...
"after a few weeks' more time I finally resolved my inhibitions or reservations about going further and felt willing to become fully aroused with her"
You are a better man than me; no way have I ever had the self control than you describe, much less any way of stopping myself becoming fully aroused in all sorts of completely unsuitable situations. You'll have to tell us the secret of controlling our unruly middle legs.
This can be one of the disadvantages of being more than well endowed. Getting a 100% erection takes more out of your system, and if you are like me there is a pretty wide range between the barely stiff, through the standard erection right up to the 110% humdinger. Make sure you keep fit and eat well, is my first offering.
You might also want to take Doghorn's advice about viagra. Personally I would wait a bit, and see what happens before you do so. The odd bit of nervousness is pretty well inevitable, unless you are a very unusual guy.
My nervousness way back was directly connected to my size. The advice I got (from a couple of experienced, but average-sized guys), was that I should begin sex with a half erection, to reduce the size and accustom my girl to the size gradually. That advice, which foolishly I took very much to heart, completely wrecked my confidence for a while.
In your situation I would just go with the flow; you should be fine, once the initial nervousness has worn off. If not, post here again ....
Littlbigguy ...
"after a few weeks' more time I finally resolved my inhibitions or reservations about going further and felt willing to become fully aroused with her"
You are a better man than me; no way have I ever had the self control than you describe, much less any way of stopping myself becoming fully aroused in all sorts of completely unsuitable situations. You'll have to tell us the secret of controlling our unruly middle legs.
littlbigguy: "You'll have to tell us the secret of controlling our unruly middle legs."
I'm afraid i don't have any such secret, Max. Nor if i had one would there be as great a market for it as the viagra folks are enjoying for theirs -- not that I would charge you or any other lpsg member for it in any case! I probably wrote too glibly if I implied that I'd have the mind over matter to stop myself in a genuinely unstoppable situation at any time. I was actually in a situation more like kyle's where she wasn't initially melting my butter and it took some time for that butter to melt, which it eventually did. (As I've described on another thread, this was actually a perturbing situation for me.) Had I been very turned on sexually by her from the start, i'd certainly expect my middle leg to be no less unruly than Max's from the start as well. Meanwhile she got to spend some very sweet time with the less than 110% humdinger of which Max also speaks. Now donkeyboy's situation sounds a little different, more like a very natural initial nervousness and tension surrounding his strong desire to put everything out front and do it right away. For his (and very possibly also her) own comfort I wouldn't think that donkeyboy necessarily needs to take it that fast, but then I'm on the other side of the ocean and not completely sure what "to snog" means in the English language.
I'm afraid i don't have any such secret, Max. Nor if i had one would there be as great a market for it as the viagra folks are enjoying for theirs -- not that I would charge you or any other lpsg member for it in any case
! I probably wrote too glibly if I implied that I'd have the mind over matter to stop myself in a genuinely unstoppable situation at any time. I was actually in a situation more like kyle's where she wasn't initially melting my butter and it took some time for that butter to melt, which it eventually did. (As I've described on another thread, this was actually a perturbing situation for me.) Had I been very turned on sexually by her from the start, i'd certainly expect my middle leg to be no less unruly than Max's from the start as well. Meanwhile she got to spend some very sweet time with the less than 110% humdinger of which Max also speaks. Now donkeyboy's situation sounds a little different, more like a very natural initial nervousness and tension surrounding his strong desire to put everything out front and do it right away. For his (and very possibly also her) own comfort I wouldn't think that donkeyboy necessarily needs to take it that fast, but then I'm on the other side of the ocean and not completely sure what "to snog" means in the English language.Guyincognito: I've had this problem before.. It's mainly stress.. you need to slay the beast first!
dave
dave
fanjo: Been lurking for a while now, just feel I have to mention that in all my life I've never gotten hard before any session of sex! I've always had to be stimulated and worked up. It can be annoying but it can also be fun (as long as your partner doesn't get insulted, and if they really like you it shouldn't matter).
kilted_tiger: It happens... You're excited about this girl. I've been there before. Best advice I can give you is to stay cool and take things slowly. If she's any woman at all, she'll probably want that too if it's her first 'date'. Unless you have a real impotence problem (and I don't think you do), stay away from the Viagra. it could do more damage than help.
KT
KT
Gonzo: Viagra works well. I use it from time to time and cannot wait for the next phase. I hear they are working on an under the tongue liquid application that works in a few minutes. I was told my size was partially to blame for my difficulty in maintaining a full erection, HOWEVER...getting a good amount of excercise increases your hormone prodution and improves your heart's ability to "keep up" with "keeping it up". You may also want to try yohimbine although it made me jittery. I learned about Pinnacle's Horny Goat product a few months ago and have found that my 10 and 1/2 inches do much better with that than with Viagra. The goat stuff works well without having to take a pill so long before getting an erection. You take a couple of pills a day ($30 for a 1 month supply) and your body will react naturally when it needs to. It really makes a difference. I feel as hard as I did 15 years ago.
Difficulty staying hard is one of the drawbacks of being so big, but supplements, and excercise can help a great deal.
Difficulty staying hard is one of the drawbacks of being so big, but supplements, and excercise can help a great deal.
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"... my size was partially to blame for my difficulty in maintaining a full erection, HOWEVER...getting a good amount of excercise increases your hormone prodution and improves your heart's ability to "keep up" with "keeping it up".
Difficulty staying hard is one of the drawbacks of being so big, but supplements, and excercise can help a great deal.
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Ditto.
I believe and encourage Supps and exercise FIRST...
before Viagra.
I hestitate to resort to Viagra until the very last resort.
No need to possibly launch an "abuse" of that medication when there are other alternatives to try.
It's difficult at best to predict erection "strengths" for larger size guys...especially true when there is a stress factor involved. No point in worrying. It's a common situation that many of us deal with from time to time.
"... my size was partially to blame for my difficulty in maintaining a full erection, HOWEVER...getting a good amount of excercise increases your hormone prodution and improves your heart's ability to "keep up" with "keeping it up".
Difficulty staying hard is one of the drawbacks of being so big, but supplements, and excercise can help a great deal.
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Ditto.
I believe and encourage Supps and exercise FIRST...
before Viagra.
I hestitate to resort to Viagra until the very last resort.
No need to possibly launch an "abuse" of that medication when there are other alternatives to try.
It's difficult at best to predict erection "strengths" for larger size guys...especially true when there is a stress factor involved. No point in worrying. It's a common situation that many of us deal with from time to time.
BIGBOYDAVE: [quote author=donkeyboy link=board=sex;num=1039815981;start=0#0 date=12/13/02 at 13:46:19]Need help guys.....Have a great sex life, but this week i managed to snog someone i've fancied for ages and although i was really 'worked' up, my dong kept big 'n' soft in my pants. Now arranged another date with this person next week....hoping to consumate the relationship!! - and i'm scared my thang just won't stay hard! I want my inches seen in all their beauty .. any ideas??[/quote]
Hi donkeyboy
You originally started this subject back in December last year. I was wondering and I'm sure others are to did anything happen? Did anything help? or did your problem go away?
It would be appreciated to know that when one asks a question requesting helpful information from members of the group that the person at least acknowledges the in most cases well thought out and timly responses.
Hi donkeyboy
You originally started this subject back in December last year. I was wondering and I'm sure others are to did anything happen? Did anything help? or did your problem go away?
It would be appreciated to know that when one asks a question requesting helpful information from members of the group that the person at least acknowledges the in most cases well thought out and timly responses.
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