Stays hard forever

[madame_zora]

Okay, so this is not as unusual as I would have thought- I just hadn't met many guys like this until the last couple of years.

I feel certain that drugs are not the issue, especially for the ones in their twenties. They have indicated to me that this is normal for them (and it's great for me) and aren't losing interest in the act. The orgasms are fantastic after such a long time and it's amazing to me to see someone still some degree of hard after that. Also, I'm not running into them accidentally, I have an ad on a dating site asking for marathon men, I just didn't really know what I was asking for until I got it. Some have actually seemed apologetic that it took them so long, one even asked if I'd stay with him till he was done, it kind of made me sad thinking he was used to girls leaving him alone to finish. I'm of the opinion that the only thing better than a big dick is a whole lot of a big dick. Everyone gets a prize!

Actually, I just sat down and made a list, it's been more than I thought. I think I'm just getting what I asked for and I've met some real sex fiends.

 

[Aplus]

I think sex is mostly a mental act. So if a guy can really put his mind to it, he can literally last as long as he wants or ejaculate when he wants. I've heard many guys talk about it over the years. Then there are techniques like start and stop, or kegels than can also extend orgasms way beyond the normal 5-10 minutes.

A much more interesting and somewhat troubling one is delayed ejaculation. Now this can indeed come from different medicines, but guys can unknowningly cause this to happen by themselves. And its basically caused by guys masturbating way too much, especially using some kind of external visual stimulation. Porn, various films, erotic or explicit magazines and pics are the usual suspects. Their penises become so used to the guys own hands, that no other thing can recreate it. No pussy, ass, mouth, or other hands could possibly recreate the intense grips guys hands use during masturbation. And no situation can recreate the intense visual stimulation they are used to seeing. They've trained their penises to cum from their hands only, usually without even knowing it. The "cure" is very simple though. No masturbation and visual stimulation for about a week or 2, and the mind & body will adjust and the penis will ejaculate more naturally with whomever they are with. m

 

[BobLeeSwagger]

And its basically caused by guys masturbating way too much, especially using some kind of external visual stimulation. Porn, various films, erotic or explicit magazines and pics are the usual suspects. Their penises become so used to the guys own hands, that no other thing can recreate it.

This is what many male porn stars have done, trained themselves to only climax with the stimulation of their own hands. It's why so many scenes end with the guy jacking off on her. Sometimes he often takes it away from her while she was jacking him. All I can think is it must really mess with their private sex lives.

 

[SurferGirlCA]

Ok, MZ, don't look a gift horse (pun intended, if it fits - wow, double entendre, too) in the mouth... or in this case, the crotch. It seems as if you're happy and they're happy, so what's not to like? Yes, it could be the li'l blue pill (and I know some young people who take it just to enhance their sexual pleasure/longevity, not because they "need" it - even some women) OR it could be that they have actually studied tantric sex (all I want for Xmas is more guys to do THAT) OR it could be your own influence.

As long as they're not meth-heads and you're being safe, it sounds like every one comes out on top (so to speak)!

 

[Duo187]

Well, I know its late for the response, but I've always had a long hard on, usually way after the girl has came (more then once) and wants to move on to something else. Sadly though, with that it takes me a long time to ejaculate. I've had a few times when I never got to ejaculate before she was worn out.

 

[Matthew]

MZ - Echoing Hickboy & Paul V, my sexual response was exactly like you described when I used to take paxil.

 

[madame_zora]

Yeah, I can see where it might look like similar circumstances, but I made a list of the guys I've met like that in the last two years, and it's been a lot- some of whom I know for sure are not taking meds. I think it does have a lot to do with frequent and rough masturbation techniques and actually even their pride in being able to last for that long. I think when I've asked for marathon men, they're pleased to be able to provide that because I'm sure there are plenty of women who wouldn't consider that a good thing. I think it is like trained wood for porn stars, once you get to the point of edging for very long times, it just becomes natural for your body to do that.

Any guy that thinks he takes too long, just hold on for the girls that think that's the greatest thing on earth. You'll find them.

 

[rob_just_rob]

I can be like that, sometimes. Definitely on round 2 and up, it can take too long. I also have found that I often "peak" early, get really close to climaxing and then back off... and after backing off it takes me a long time to reach the peak again and climax.

Re: party drugs like Cialis... I was offered one and tried it, and I can say that, at least for me, it didn't inhibit my ability to climax. All it did was reduce my refractory period to nil. Have sex, climax, stay hard, have sex again, climax, repeat. That was a fun weekend. Felt like I was 18 again (if you get past the fact that I wasn't having sex at 18!).

Sorry for the ramble, but perhaps there are some insights hidden in it.

 

[rope9839]

Okay, I haven't posted a sex question in a long time, but recently I've met several guys who had what seemed like eternal erections. Now, I'm not complaining, mind you, but it does seem odd. I was wondering if any members here on the board are like this. They get very hard easily, stay hard for as long as I want sex, then when they want to get off, the have to jack off really hard.

Now, none of this is a problem, quite the opposite, I was just wondering how many guys are like that consistantly?

Stamina has alwasy been one of my strong suits. And yes, I think there is a big mental component. I can generally take as much time as my partner needs in a given situation before I switch focus to myself. Of course, there are the occasional slip ups where I last a nanosecond and apologize all over the place.

I have also been through bouts of what you describe - almost an inability to ejaculate. It can be fun at first, but ends up being very frustrating. I chalk it up to the vagueries of the male plumbing. If it doesn't seem to bother your new guys, I might wonder. My own experience is that this type of delayed response bugs both partners at least a bit.

There is also the possibility that these guys have simply conditioned themselves with extremely vigorous masturbation and that's the only way they can get off. I once watched a show with a girlfriend about sexual oddities. There was one guy who learned to masturbate by humping the carpet, rather than with his hands. Even as an adult, he had to withdraw and finish himself by dry humping a low pile rug. Damn shame and not the most impressive finish to his partners. He was in a sort of sex therapy to decondition himself to react to more "normal" levels of stimulation.

 

[bigguy8565]

Yeah...the antidepressants have a big influence on erections and how long it takes to cum. I agree tho with the above comment - paxil is the absolute worst in this case - certainly the worst medication i've ever taken for depression, apart even from sexual side effects.

 

[Cyrano]

Just to add my two cents about antidepressants, Paxil more or less saved my life. It really relieved my depression. Everyone's body chemistry is different. Delaying ejaculation is just a great side effect. I don't have to rub myself raw to come, but it takes a bit of mental effort.

None of the women I've slept with have complained about it taking too long for me to come. I love the feeling of being able to enjoy myself without having to worry about coming too soon. I used to have to think about baseball (specifically, trying to define the conditions for a "balk" -- try it, it works) to keep from coming too soon.

I do have one female friend who complained about a guy she slept with taking too long to come. However, his penis was so thick it was wider than her wrist. She was so sore the next day she had trouble walking. She vowed never to sleep with him again. Of course she did a year later, and she was just as sore the second time. I don't know if she's slept with him since.

I am able to stay hard after I come as well, but I was like that before the Paxil.

 

[Aplus]

Stamina has alwasy been one of my strong suits. And yes, I think there is a big mental component. I can generally take as much time as my partner needs in a given situation before I switch focus to myself. Of course, there are the occasional slip ups where I last a nanosecond and apologize all over the place.

I have also been through bouts of what you describe - almost an inability to ejaculate. It can be fun at first, but ends up being very frustrating. I chalk it up to the vagueries of the male plumbing. If it doesn't seem to bother your new guys, I might wonder. My own experience is that this type of delayed response bugs both partners at least a bit.

There is also the possibility that these guys have simply conditioned themselves with extremely vigorous masturbation and that's the only way they can get off. I once watched a show with a girlfriend about sexual oddities. There was one guy who learned to masturbate by humping the carpet, rather than with his hands. Even as an adult, he had to withdraw and finish himself by dry humping a low pile rug. Damn shame and not the most impressive finish to his partners. He was in a sort of sex therapy to decondition himself to react to more "normal" levels of stimulation.

I'm glad you brought up the frustration part, because can set in with the partner or the guy sometimes. A lot of females kind of like to be able to make the guy cum, or actually watch him ejaculate. This can lead to frustraton on the guys part, because he'll then feel pressure to ejaculate, which will make it even tougher believe it or not. No matter how happy a guy is being able to hold off and basically have sex for as long as he likes, most still actually wanna ejaculate. And this can lead to pressure from himself. This is a kind of frustration that both sexes can relate to. It can be very tough to be having sex and being able to practically feel that orgasm there, but not quite being able to have it. It can also be a problem if couples are trying to have children. It can make getting pregnant very tough. So it can definitely have its plus and minuses. For the most part, I think its a great "problem" to have though.

 

[Lex]

This is what many male porn stars have done, trained themselves to only climax with the stimulation of their own hands. It's why so many scenes end with the guy jacking off on her. Sometimes he often takes it away from her while she was jacking him. All I can think is it must really mess with their private sex lives.

Are you sure about that? My understanding is that scenes end with guys jacking off because the viewer places a premium on the "money shot" (that is, we all want to SEE the cum). Also, after watching "PornStar: The Legend of Ron Jeremy" it's pretty clear that it can take 10 hours and multiple (off screen orgasms) to make a 9-12 minute scene. Today's stars use ED drugs to stay hard (which really pisses the original woodsmen off since they never use that stuff and it did not exist when they started).

 

[Aplus]

Are you sure about that? My understanding is that scenes end with guys jacking off because the viewer places a premium on the "money shot" (that is, we all want to SEE the cum). Also, after watching "PornStar: The Legend of Ron Jeremy" it's pretty clear that it can take 10 hours and multiple (off screen orgasms) to make a 9-12 minute scene. Today's stars use ED drugs to stay hard (which really pisses the original woodsmen off since they never use that stuff and it did not exist when they started).

I suppose it could be a little of both depending on the male performer or type of movie. I have heard more than a few pornstars say that some performers have a tough time either pulling out to ejaculate or getting the female to get them off by hand or blowjob. I've heard that the condom use can play a role also by desensitizing some guys. I've never heard of a scene talking 10 hours to shoot, but I've heard that 4 hours isn't out-of-the-question. I think all the facial scenes are a by-product of it, but not the reason guys are always doing facials.

 

[BobLeeSwagger]

Are you sure about that? My understanding is that scenes end with guys jacking off because the viewer places a premium on the "money shot" (that is, we all want to SEE the cum). Also, after watching "PornStar: The Legend of Ron Jeremy" it's pretty clear that it can take 10 hours and multiple (off screen orgasms) to make a 9-12 minute scene. Today's stars use ED drugs to stay hard (which really pisses the original woodsmen off since they never use that stuff and it did not exist when they started).

If it were a matter of needing a money shot, then she could jack him off on her face, right? But that's usually not what happens. It's almost always his hand that finishes it.

 

[Monstermanuk]

Could they be using a sex drug!?

Generally when I have found it hard to come it is when I have been on a one night stand type situation or I am "not into the girl"

Usually I also find I am like this when I am first with a girl but as I get to know her I can come more easily.... maybe anxiety!?

This may sound rude but what are you like in bed!? Do get well involved or do you let them take the lead! Try and find out what their fantasies are maybe tell them back to them when you f*cking them works for me big time

 

[Lex]

If it were a matter of needing a money shot, then she could jack him off on her face, right? But that's usually not what happens. It's almost always his hand that finishes it.

Tell me-can another person bring you more manual pleasure than you bring yourself? Anyone else know your spots better than you do? I've been studying the porn business since I first saw one nearly 20 years ago. The scenes are the eay they are because of the feedback the business gets about what's hot and what's not. To think that alll these guys have trained themselves to only orgasm from their hands is a bit far-fetched. Sorry, I'm not buying that one.

 

[Aplus]

Tell me-can another person bring you more manual pleasure than you bring yourself? Anyone else know your spots better than you do? I've been studying the porn business since I first saw one nearly 20 years ago. The scenes are the eay they are because of the feedback the business gets about what's hot and what's not. To think that alll these guys have trained themselves to only orgasm from their hands is a bit far-fetched. Sorry, I'm not buying that one.

Well I can only go by what I see, and I'm starting to consistently see the male pornstar remove the females hands so he can finish. Don't know what else to call it.

 

[B_HappyHammer1977]

Tell me-can another person bring you more manual pleasure than you bring yourself? Anyone else know your spots better than you do? I've been studying the porn business since I first saw one nearly 20 years ago. The scenes are the eay they are because of the feedback the business gets about what's hot and what's not. To think that alll these guys have trained themselves to only orgasm from their hands is a bit far-fetched. Sorry, I'm not buying that one.

Only once has a woman come close to giving me the same intesity of pleasure I can give myself. Not that it's a bad thing, you've just had all those years of experience to know what you like. It doesn't mean I'm not enjoying it. And it certainly doesn't mean I'd rather be on my own! I suppose in theory, if you've been with a partner for many years they should be able to please you to same extent as yourself.

 

[Lex]

Well I can only go by what I see, and I'm starting to consistently see the male pornstar remove the females hands so he can finish. Don't know what else to call it.

You SO missed my point. They are not doing it because it is the only way they can cum. They are doing it because that is how they are TOLD to do it. I know guys (and girls) that have done porn. Trust me.