I've noticed that there are very few thread in this forum devoted to STDs, and I'm wondering why that is. Embarassment? Shame? I'll be honest, I've had clap twice (both times from other guys; one had it up his butt, the other in his throat!!). God, I will never forget the first time. I was 23 and scared as hell to tell anyone so I waited awhile. Geez, the discharge and I'll never forget how painful it was to piss. Fortunately, the second time I was 40 and knew instantly what it was and got the good ol' shot in the butt before things got out of hand. Secondly, at 25 I put my mouth on the wrong dick and wound up with genital herpes. Major drag. The first 5-6 years were the worst, but then my body developed an immunity to the virus and I didn't have an outbreak for 13 years. Out of nowhere, last summer, I had an outbreak and have since been taking Valtrex as a precautionary measure. So far, so good. Anyway, I get concerned from time to time about spreading it even though I'm symptom free (they say it's possible), but I'm not about to wear a rubber everytime I get blown or have unprotected anal intercourse with another dude who's HIV- (thank god I've been spared that; but then again, who knows what the person might have up there unless you know them really well; I guess the moral of the story is NO BB EVER, right? Has anyone else had these or similar concerns (male or female)? Am I being irresponsible? Am I duty bound to tell a prospective partner that I have herpes in the same way a person with HIV is honor bound to disclose that info to a potential partner? I'd really welcome some commentary. Also, I'd like to hear from some of the younger members of this group. What STDs do you fear the most or are the most rampant among teens/young adults? I know there are so many, but are your concerns the same as mine were (or should have been) 20 years ago? I guess I can finish this paragraph by saying, "Let this be a lesson to you." You can never be too careful. What a release. I feel like I've come out of the closet about having an incurable STD. I know I'm not alone. Anyone else out there care to field the ball? Peace.