1. PornForPatric

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    I've been single since April. I haven't put myself out there since then for various reasons. So, I threw caution to the wind and accepted an invite to dinner from a fellow I've know for a while. No call, no text, no e-mail. He just didn't show up. I feel a bit pissed off & maybe I was right to not want to date anyone until I'm 40. Just take two years out of the game and concentrate on myself, traveling and business.

    Why do people do this? If you're not actually interested, don't make plans to meet up! If you really have to cancel, doing it before the time your were supposed to meet is a good idea!

    I'm just sort of venting here. Since I'm already dressed and I'm hungry, I'm taking myself to Cheesecake Factory for a caipirinha & spicy chicken.
     
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    I think, you said it yourself that you are thinking. Give the guy chance, it is very possible that he had an extra good reason for not calling before hand to cancel. Then, put him on your "S" list if he can't give an excellent reason or doesn't bother to give one at all.
     
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    Some men are just fucking assholes, buddy. But not all.

    I took myself off the market for about 2 years back awhile back. Felt great: No dating, nothing serious. Just a bit of sex to keep things working and lots of me-time.

    When I decided to get back on that horse, boom... current husband showed.

    However, I have been stood up similarly before and it fucking sucks. Just ignore anything the guy says in the future; if he didn't even have the decency to sms (the lamest way of saying 'sorry' in our current society) then he isn't worth your while.

    There are great guys out there that will appreciate you and NOT stand you up.

    Now, get ye down to Cheesecake Factory, have a bit of culinary cuddling. Then BACK UP ON THE HORSEY!
     
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    What's a date? I forget.
     
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    That's one of those things you have to go through to get into a guys pants... NOT! :rolleyes:
     
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    Tee-hee:tongue:
     
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    Very sorry to read about your non-date. A little self-indulgence always helps when facing such apparent rudeness.

    If he does contact you with a reason, post it here because it better be really good.
     
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    The guy is a jerk. Who would tolerate that kind of rudeness?

    Double check all your messages and make sure he didn't contact you to cancel then call him up and give him a piece of your mind. You need to let him know that he's a rude obnoxious worthless fuck. Don't feel sorry for yourself because you did nothing wrong. Don't let this one incident stop you from going out on dates. Most guys are pretty decent.
     
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    I think he either can't really be bothered....or expects you to call him and chase him....in which case DON'T!!!!!

    If he calls and makes an exuse tell him to "Fuck off" (or words to that effect) there is no excuse for such blatent rudeness!!!

    Don't give up on dating all together though...not ALL men will be such arrogant assholes!

    Enjoy ur meal hon!! :smile: X
     
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    You sure the logistics didn't just get fucked up somehow... or a bad/worse-case scenario didn't happen.

    Speakign of... was on the phone with a colleague this morning. Mid conversation, he screams in the phone... connection drops. What thu... 3 hours later. Car accident. New 63AMG total'd. Broken arm... but the "surgery required" kind.


    Anyways... sounds like a blow-off... but keep the slight possibility open.
     
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    Isn't that a primary qualification for being gay?
     
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    It's natural to be angry if you've been stood up. Not being angry is sort of like putting a happy sticker on your face if you've been slapped. You tell the mother fucker he's a dick since he slapped you, and then vent it off, and move on.

    But of course, It's not worth it to be angry forever, so after you've vented it off, let it go (grin).

    Please know I don't think it was right for this guy to have dumped you, but we tend to attract romantic partners that parallel how we feel. And I think right now, you're not ready for a serious relationship. If you really were, you wouldn't be so open to taking anything off the market. There's are varying types of meat our there in the market, and you don't have to take the cheapest one out there because you're hungry. Cheap meat gives you a cheap feeling when you taste it, but good meat takes good when you find it.

    So how do you find good meat? Well (and this going to sound and old and trite, but it's true) you have to work on yourself first before you can attract a guy that matches how you feel. And if you want to attract decent guys, you got to feel you deserve them.

    So let that be your dominant work, I will FEEL I deserve a decent guy, and when I feel it's true, a decent guy will come. But until that feels real, I'm going to back off the market, until I can attract decent meat.
     
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    Silly. If I'd meant that I would have written 'Some men are MADE for fucking assholes'...not BEING assholes.

    Unfortunately, assholienss seems to be pretty much go across all genders and sexual-preferences. Pity
     
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    Ugh....sorry to hear man. Looks like you got JAFFed (Just Another Flakey Faggot). I dont understand why or how people could do that but whatever, its part of the game....slow and steady always wins the marathon bro. Enjoy your caipirinha & spicy chicken...hopefully the waiter is cute *grins*

    Please do not forget to share what the excuse is!
     
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    Thanks for all the input. I tried a new restaurant since it was a bit chilly (70F) to walk all the way to Cheesecake Factory. ;-) I heard from him. He apparently was working on a case and just lost track of time. He wanted to reschedule and I just told him no, that won't happen. I mean, how the hell do you "lose track of time" for 3½ hours?!?!

    Anyway, my belly is full and I'm nice and warm. I sat next to an interesting couple from Germany. Fun. Although, a date would have been slightly more fun.

    Again, thanks for all the posts. I was really just venting and wasn't expecting the responses.
     
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    Hmmm...aren't you supposed to NOT talk while driving???:rolleyes:

    PS I just read Porn's last post after I posted this one...You did good, young Jedi!
     
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    Poor baby :rolleyes:

    I just got in from a Christmas party and am dressed like a f*ing Eskimo. Its 9 here. :mad: Glad you did not catch your death in that frigid 70F.....venting is good for the soul.
     
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    BiItalianBro,

    I'm with you man. It's been in the teens here in Mass. 70 degrees I would have had a tank top on!!
     
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    Well done for making the best of a bad situation, PfP. Sounds like you had a reasonable evening anyway. And kudos for turning down the re-scheduling.

    I was dating last year after a spell of reclusiveness and got stood up a few times. At first I would give them a second chance. But it turned out to be pointless. Anyone who didn't make the first date wouldn't make the second one either. Either they had confidence issues, chaotic lives, or were just selfish cunts - whatever. Their loss, not mine.

    I'd say from the way you've handled the situation you're ready to try again. Don't give up yet, man.
     
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    I was stood up by a guy a few months ago. After two weeks of ignoring me, he made this stupid excuse about his aunt dying (uhhh huh. . .), said he wanted to make it up to me by going out to the buffet at Pizza Hut (lol) and stood me up again. The thing is, I saw him walk right past my house to go to fuck another guy, according to his profile online.
     
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