I am older than any of you guys. When I was in college, I had sex with three straight friends. It started out sort of like your situation. In every case, our friendships were ruined. They were either ashamed or embarrassed about having gay sex and slowly quit being my friend. Also, it was hard for me because when we were together after that, I pressed them for more sex--to a point. Gay sex and a straight friendship never works. Trust me. Have gay sexual partners. Have gay friends who are sexual partners. Have straight friends, but don't have sex with them.
Sorry for the bump... I know it's been a long time. Just thought I'd update you guys.
Lately, things fizzled out. He didn't say anything really dirty-minded, but did IM me occasionally saying things like "your mom" and asking me for advice on his homework. Today, however, he IMed me something totally random and a bit unexpected, but in a good way. There was this sexual orientation dialogue at my school, and I had my away message "adveriste" the meeting (what time, location, etc). Well, he IMed me and said "Pimp! Go gay Andrew! Be proud of yourself hah". It was so random and unexpected because I didn't think he exactly was FOR me being gay, if you know what I mean, and it just struck me as kind of odd in a way. I hope I'm making sense and not reading too much into this? What do you guys think?
the only thing worse than U reading between his lines, and making mountains out of molehills, is having 20 random annonymous guys on here--who don't know either of you--adding to ur paranoia. the constant need for affirmation is at best a character flaw, and at worst a disorder.
only u know ur friend, only u have the tools to unwrap his messages. be confident.
Whoa, back up a minute. My paranoia? I don't have a paranoia at all. And, constant need for affirmation? How? All I'm asking for is your opinion of what he said... that's all. Since he keeps sending mixed signals.
the only thing worse than U reading between his lines, and making mountains out of molehills, is having 20 random annonymous guys on here--who don't know either of you--adding to ur paranoia. the constant need for affirmation is at best a character flaw, and at worst a disorder.
only u know ur friend, only u have the tools to unwrap his messages. be confident.
Go easy on the guy, dude! These can sometimes be really painful situations. Haven't you ever been in one?!
He's definitely playing with you. I'd bet one of my cats on it...and I love my cats.