Str8 friends "guilty" by association?

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  1. Lynx

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    When out with my straight friend, I often feel that others assume he's gay as well since he's with me (we often joke and laugh together - as friends do). I'm not a queen, but, most people figure out I'm gay realtively quickly. I think he is beginning to resent me for it and I don't know what to do to keep his friendship. Any thoughts?
     
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    include his girlfriend in your outings with him, ... be sure to mention his girlfriend in your conversations about him ... other than that ... not much that comes to mind immediately
     
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    My first thought.....If your friend is going to resent you for being gay......is he really your friend?
     
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    Thanks Nick! I try to drop her in conversations when I can but it can seem almost like overkill sometimes. Plus, I don't like her...lol By the way, i love St. Antonio - Riverwalk rules :)
     
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    Hi Industrialize! Sorry, I may not have been clear, what i meant is that he seems to resent the snyde comments and offhand remarks he gets from others. He's never said anything, but I can feel it.
     
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    Sex him up and then he wont fear the comments as they will be true :p

    Um, maybe just try chatting with him about it, see where his mind is at about it. Maybe you're reading too far into it, but there is only one way to find out.
     
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    Doing stuff with your str8 friend will ruin your friendship. Also makes things really wierd and fucks with your head and his head so I wouldn't wanna do that. As you can see i have been there done that. lol Stick with lesbians there a gay guys best friend.
     
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    I agree having sex with a gay guy, when you're not gay yourself does fuck with your head.... cause now they are the only males I want. There was some humor in what I said, but I disagree. Straight girls are usually a gays best friend.
     
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    My best mate is straight and people assume hes gay. Ive chatted with him about it and he says it does'nt bother him. Hes not like other guys around his age and is v.different.

    And yeah if he is resenting it then he must have an issue with it . And is he really your friend atall ?
     
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    LOL Think_Kink, thanks for the joke! You are right, but we had a chat tonight and that's when I realized his feelings. Just trying to move forward...
     
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    No, i would never do anything sexual with him - he's straight and above all my friend. Just wanted to mention he seems to resent the "labeling", not my sexuality. I hope.
     
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    Thanks Roscoz, good to know that str8/gay relationships can actually work! I was having doubts.
     
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    You may just have to leave him alone if he gets too resentful. There are plenty of potential friends out there that will like you for who you are.
     
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    Yeah it does work, we argue all the time though haha
     
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    Why do people figure out you're gay relatively quickly?
    If you and your friend are just out eating, at a mall, the movies, a club, or whatever, it doesn't mean anything other than two people enjoying their friendship. Now if you two were holding hands, had your arms around each other, or kissing, I would suspect he was gay.
     
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    Dude ! if your friendship is that strong labeling by association shouldn't matter.Unless he's got his own insecuritys about his sexuality.I have gay/bi friends and when we hang,I don't give a flying fawq ! what ppl think because I know who I am and who my friends are. Good luck and FAWQ ! the world ! JUT !
     
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    Hi Invisible, thanks, but I would like to try to keep our friendship if possible.
     
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    Hey Roscoz, sounds familiar! lol
     
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    Hi Italian! Don't know, guess I'm just not very butch. You are right, but not everyone is as open-minded as you seem to be.
     
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    Hey Jason, you are right - who cares what they say!
     
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