Okay, so I've been around for a bit but haven't really posted much of anything and I need an unbiased opinion. Scratch that, advice. So today I was at work and my associate and I are watching people (he's girl-watching lol) and we're talking about his ex, what he's lookin for, etc etc. Anyway, he asks me if I have a gf, and I tell him no. He then asks if I have a bf. Again, I tell him no, but more sly & a grin on my face, so he knew. No biggie, doesn't bother me. I'll tell you if you ask.
Anyhoo. We talk about a few things, So my dilemma is this: I don't have a whole lot of friends, if any outside of my family...much less guy friends. This bonding thing we did all day is cool, cause like i said. No guy friends. The trick is, how do I avoid becoming attached? I know how it'll play out because I fell for a friend of mine in HS. He's straight, and i know it. But I feel like, the closer and closer we get; the more and more attached I become. And I don't want to develop this huge crush that's gonna tear me apart inside, ya know?
How do you avoid those feelings that are, in affect, being displaced onto him because there is a lack of 'gay man' to put it on? lol I don't want to make him uncomfortable and I don't want to be miserable. Plus we work together so...the more easy-going the better. Any advice?
Anyhoo. We talk about a few things, So my dilemma is this: I don't have a whole lot of friends, if any outside of my family...much less guy friends. This bonding thing we did all day is cool, cause like i said. No guy friends. The trick is, how do I avoid becoming attached? I know how it'll play out because I fell for a friend of mine in HS. He's straight, and i know it. But I feel like, the closer and closer we get; the more and more attached I become. And I don't want to develop this huge crush that's gonna tear me apart inside, ya know?
How do you avoid those feelings that are, in affect, being displaced onto him because there is a lack of 'gay man' to put it on? lol I don't want to make him uncomfortable and I don't want to be miserable. Plus we work together so...the more easy-going the better. Any advice?