Str8 Guys Only...

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by 1989, Aug 1, 2008.

  1. 1989

    1989 New Member

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    whats up everyone... i wanna ask all straight guys if u ever did anything with ur other str8 friend lol i know its kinda weird but i have a friend dat got hard watching porn at my house and we ended up doing some frottage and grinding on each other but with clothes on lol now i feel weird hanging out with him.... and we are both str8
     
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    I'm gay but hope you don't mind me answering. If you and your friend are very close friends, and you celebrated that with frottage, why do you feel weird? It is one of the most intense friendships that a str8 guy can have. A friend like that is hard to come by I would think (it is a MOST intimate part of unusual str8 male bonding). My guess is he may also feel a bit weird about it, like you do also. The problem is how the "head above your shoulders" handles it.
     
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    thanx dude
     
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    I have masturbated with three friends of mine while looking at porn, pants down and our erections in display. We still are good friends and hang out together.
     
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    ive done it with countless straight friends. and you just have to have a relaxed attitude
    its just for fun.
     
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    You probably do feel a bit strange about it. In reality you probably shouldn't. Your mate is probably feeling strange about the experience as well so you should probably talk about it and clear the air.

    It was a bity of fun, it happened, you both got caught up in it and you both participated.

    Just talk it through, you are obviously pretty close, and for the sake of your friendship should clear the air. I don't think you will find it feels werd at all once you talk about it. Even if you decide you got carried away and didn't enjoy it after all maybe you just need to say it was good you tried it with as good a friend as he is and your pleased if you are both ok about it.

    If you are both cool about it and enjoyed what you did then do it again if you want - it doesn't change what you are or make either of you any less straight.

    Good luck to you anyway.
     
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    It happens WAY more then you think dood. For some guys, its just part of being close friends.
     
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    Curious - were you the biggest? :biggrin1:

     
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    If it feels uncomfortable to talk about right away, that's fine. Call him up to hang out somewhere neutral. Go see a movie or go bowling, or go watch a sporting event. Just chill out. If you're still feeling weird around him or if you feel like he's dodging you, then try to talk this out.
     
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    I'm straight but have one other straight friend, my best friend, who i've seen naked dozens of times, although we've never touched each other.
    But skinny dipping, watching porn, changing, streaking, w/e. It's just fun and we've never been weird about it.
     
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    What is "frottage"? :confused:
     
  12. MarkLondon

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    Frottage is French for "rubbing". It means humping or rubbing your cock against the other person (do straight couples ever do this?), usually their belly, but according to Wikipendia Non-penetrative sex - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia can be any body-part that doesn't involve penetration.

    It's a safe practice that I think is greatly underrated amongst gay men nowadays. The greeks had a separate word for when it was performed between the thighs, and apparently historically it was a common practice between men that way.

    My first experience with a guy involved us frotting between our legs and it was great. The perinuem (the bit between your balls and ass) is an often overlooked erogenous zone and it feels good for both partners, especially if you use some oil or lube down there.
     
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    It would seem to me that rubbing your penis against another man's body is by default a gay activity. But then that's just me.
     
  14. MarkLondon

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    But, ironically, you won't find many gay men interested in something so "tame" or even "gay" in the new youth-speak sense, lol.
     
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    When I was young I did it plenty of times. Not rubbing but masturbating each other. Don't mean you gay. I like looking at other penises quite a turn on. But don't see myself kissing another dude though. Enjoy it. Its normal.
     
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    The expectations which our society imposes on us have a way of being set aside given the right circumstances. At age fifteen I thought of myself as a pretty "regular guy" and I expected that one day I would find the right girl, fall in love, get married like most of the older "regular guys" I knew did. Then I met the new guy in our small town, we became good friends and more than good friends the summer before our junior year in high school. We had the privacy and that made it possible for us to give expression to the depth of our regard for each other. It all seems so right and natural. We had no mentors; we had no adult models; we learned by doing and over a period of two years we became acquainted with a part of our sexuality which we had never considered before. We still considered ourselves very straight and have never had sex with each other since. I later had two long-term relationships with men in college and in my first years of employment and I had two long-term relationship with two dear ladies before I finally married. In short, my journey into the fullness of my sexuality has been a very happy one. All of my former partners are still very dear friends. The partner of my teen years is still my dearest friend and when we meet we know that "that old feeling" is still there and we agree that the two years we had together were very important to our outlook on relationships and sex throughout our lives. I can honestly wish that others could have the kind of growing up in sexuality which I had. And, I know that I would be dishonest if I claimed to be 100% straight even though I have been a happy and faithful husband for many years. At the same time I am happy that I feel no need to deny the fact of the six years of intimacy which I enjoyed in relationships with three dear men.
     
  17. mplsingleguy

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    friendships come too infrequently to let something like that come between you dude

    as someone else here said, sure he's wierded out too- probably in part because he senses that you are wierded out and that makes him that much more uncomfortable. Ignore the elephant no longer.

    Talk to him about it man- let him know that you are cool about what happened- and that you *own* the experience- no regrets.

    If he wasn't interested he wouldn't have done it. He was, you were. The stars aligned and you boys decided to whip them out together.

    We're sexual beings man don't kill yourself for giving in to a little fun with a buddy who was interested in the same thing.

    Again- you can both be flattered that you *both* considered each other sexy and worthwhile to take that risk and pleasure yourselves and each other. Just let it go.

    And as for your sexuality man- don't think that this act defines your life choice- it was what it was, and it is what it is. If you got wood, use it or lose it.
     
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    It's very common, trust me Consider yourself lucky.
     
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    This is perfectly normal bro. I did this when I was a teenager with my best friend and it never changed anything between us. We watched porn together, rubbed each other, and even "finished" while sitting next to each other. Its just an usual way us guys "bond".

    Enjoy it.
     
  20. inside_us

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    why should be weird ? if someone of you were weird, im sure one you should be a gay at least bi. just my opinion brow :D
     
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