str8 man, gf has doubt due to his experimental past.

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now the woman has doubts, she fierce that he will stray gay again, should she stay or go?

Would she have had an objection if he'd had straight flings in the past? Entering into a relationship with someone who doesn't have a past is a sure sign that the relationship won't have a future.
 

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I would have a problem dating a guy who had been with 3 or 4 men in the past. why? I have issues even getting with men who have had many sexual partners. I joke about my boyfriends experience but sometimes his past does bother me. I have had only 2 longer relationships in the past and they were both virgins.

I have played around with many people but rarely go past using hands and very very rarely go down on people and i don't have sex with just anyone (under 10 so far)
 
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I would have a problem dating a guy who had been with 3 or 4 men in the past. why? I have issues even getting with men who have had many sexual partners. I joke about my boyfriends experience but sometimes his past does bother me. I have had only 2 longer relationships in the past and they were both virgins.
You are 70% gay & a hypocrite.
 

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You are 70% gay & a hypocrite.



i don't have an issue that they were male partners. the issue is the number of past partners. I was raised very religious and I still have hang ups from that time. I am enough of a person that I don't lie about it.
 

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I think the truth is that sex between men is hotter than sex between a man and a woman. No wonder she has an issue!
I'm actually just being flippant here. I do think that it's tough to tell the truth to women, even when they insist, because they don't want to know certain things. Of course, that may be just as true of men. There's a bit in "Othello" where he says he wouldn't mind if Desdemona, his wife, were "topped" by the entire army, as long as he himself didn't know!
 

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It really does depend on the individuals involved.

I've dated several bisexual guys and have had no problem whatsoever with their past or their sexual identity. If I were in a committed love relationship with a man and he wanted to bring another man into our bedroom, provided we were all comfortable together, why not?

I fall in love with a person, not his sexuality. If he's been with men in the past, that's part of the story that makes him who he is.
 

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If your partner can't accept you 100%, and you both set the parameters of your relationship, call it a day. The small amount your partner can't accept, will form cracks in the relationship, and eventually everyone will get hurt, as well as the possible offspring.

There is no shame in being who you are, only shame in being who you aren't.

I speak from bitter experience with first wife.

2nd wife has no problem - it's my relationship of my lifetime.
 

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i was listening to the radio this morning, when a woman called up cause she needed help with her relationship. here is the story.

she has been with her bf for over a year and to celebrate them moving in together they throw a house warming party. during the party one of her boyfriend's mates joked with her about how its great that her bf was with a woman again.:eek: she was confused about the comment so she confronted her bf the next day.

cause they were in a trusting relationship he told her everything about his past 4 gay experimental flings. he told her that it was in the past before they know each other and that he loves her and nothing will ever change that now, he wanted a family with her.

but now the woman has doubts, she fierce that he will stray gay again, should she stay or go?

but what im asking is, why is there a double when a guy has a gay experience as suppose to when a girl does? it's almost like it more socially acceptable when girls have a leso moment.

can guys not have a gay experience without being labelled as once a gay also a gay.

i mean no wonder why guys are scared of coming out.

is being faithful to your partner worthless if you had a past? shouldn't she fear any form of unfaithfulness regardless with a man or women? does having gay tendencies make you more promiscuous?

what do you think?

There are a lot of risks in a relationship. I think that you should let the ones you love into your life know so they have a forewarning. They have a right to know. And any bull shit you have in your life will come out one day. You may as well be upfront about it.

You have to deal with the outcomes of what they may do.