I think that some body parts can't help but gather attraction or attention, like big cocks or big boobs. They're huge and people are going to look. The question is, at what point do you feel disrespected? I occasionally peek at others and I've been known to have to focus my eyes on a woman's face if she's got a nice rack. Some just brush it off and some get perturbed. Both are right to do whatever they do. It's
my job to respect those boundaries.
But hey, I think being polite but firm can get you a long way. Yeah, I'm probably more uncomfortable if some dude is trying to mentally undress me, but I figure I can approach him and ask him to stop staring if I feel uncomfortable. He's not going to do anything foolish after that, so why should I make a big scene?
In the meantime, I'll just kinda give an appreciative nod if a fellow big guy is checking out the goods. Funny thing is, I'm probably more appreciative of another big guy looking -- since we have that in common -- than someone average gawking away. In my experience, to the average dude, I'm all wrapped up in some fantasy/hero worship in which I don't want to be a participant. The big guy's as cool about it as me.
And then there are always those dudes who think they're massive as hell until you show 'em up...