1. D_Foscurinus Ambrosine Freedicke

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    Hey Guys,

    I don't know if it is a very weird topic to start, but personally I have some trouble with being among men in for instance dressingrooms or public showers. I always feel a bit weird when I am among nude str8 guys...this because I feel that they could feel offended by a gay guy watching them (allthough I am not watching, but they might feel like this?)...
    It sounds a bit weird and maybe it is just my personal problem, but do str8 guys (in general) actually bother what a gay might think of him?

    I really wish I could be more relaxed among guys, but I am always affraid they think I am hitting on them...

    Ciao!!
     
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    I used to jerk off with my best friend who's straight. We'd watch straight porn together, sometimes I'd put in gay porn to eff wit him. Can't really generalize straights, just like you can't generalize gays/bis/trans/black/white/hispanic/asian/purple/greens/etc

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  3. D_Foscurinus Ambrosine Freedicke

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    Yeah, I'm not trying to generalize anything...it is just that I would expect an overal feeling to exist? You are so lucky with that friend! Give me one like that:p
     
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    I take absolutely no offense if a gay or straight man takes a look at my package in a public shower. I'm straight, but there's also a certain curiosity that leads me to glance down when another naked guy walks by, just wondering what he's got between his legs.
     
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    You are probably safer keeping your homosexuality to yourself in such situations since your attention would probably be unwelcome. Only Str8 exhibitionists will enjoy your admiration.
    If you want to feel more comfortable around naked men why don't you go a gay saunas, hammams etc.
     
  6. D_Foscurinus Ambrosine Freedicke

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    Well...you don't want your entire life to be gay orientated...and I go to a normal gym...so that's where I come in this particular situation..
     
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    Well, if they don't know you're gay then you don't HAVE to tell them. You're not trying to get with them and they aren't trying to get with you. The less attention you bring to a hang-up the more people wont care about them. If you're naked when they're naked then oh well...don't make a big deal about it.

    Don't stare at them either. Staring is disrespectful, if that's your question. They didn't come to be stared at so unless they say, "Hey, look at me!" don't violate their privacy.
     
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    Generally speaking, I really couldn't care less...:rolleyes: as long as the person in question isn't being pushy in any way... he may look as long as he wants, he may even masturbate at my image in his head when he comes home for all I care... I would prefer it to be a female straight person, though...:biggrin1:
     
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    Long ago, I stopped caring what straight people thought about me, with or without clothes.
     
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    Back when I was straight (long story short I never considered myself gay until recently...complete repression is fun) I never really had any awkard times in the locker room or anything along those lines. There was one time an old guy kept looking my way which just creeped me out, but that was about it.

    Currently, I don't work out and then end up in the locker with any of my straight friends, so I don't have any reactions. It could be a bit awkward, but as long as you don't treat it as awkward or broadcast that you're gay to everyone else there; it shouldn't be much of a problem.
     
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    And if they know you're gay, you still don't have to tell them. :wink:

    Like others have said, don't stare. You can get your glances if you want (and, IMO, you'd only remember the good parts from a glance; staring only lets you see the flaws and ruins any fantasies), but just don't be creepy.
     
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    x2, except i was the straight guy and he was the gay guy. If gay guys like my package, who am I to deny them their fantasy - just so long as they realize that it won't go as far as they like.

    I don't care if guys look, just don't be obnoxious about it. (Of course, I'm a super-grower not a shower so there's not much to see usually LOL)
     
  13. D_Foscurinus Ambrosine Freedicke

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    I personally wouldn't care if a gay guy and I were in a locker room together. I don't see that it would be an issue unless you came onto me, and after being turned down continued to push yourself on me.
     
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    I was really careful when I was younger...especially in high school. I would avoid showering with my roomates just so I would not see them naked. I was head over heals in love with my best friend, who went from girlfriend to girlfriend, and was so careful not to be caught looking when he dropped trou. Remembering all the ways I tried to keep myself out of situations where I would have the opportunity to "get in trouble" makes me dizzy.

    So ya, I can understand your hesitation and concern that you could be interpreted as crossing the line.

    Turns out, my best friend who I avoided checking out had no problem letting me check him out, got married and now has three kids (one is named after me). Years later, I don't really care what anybody thinks...its more in their court than mine...but I still have a hard time "crossing the line" in reality. I'd rather be the guy who doesn't openly flirt than the guy who does.
     
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    I get uncomfortable some time. I play sports and whenever someone pat's me on the butt, i feel weird.
     
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    I personally wouldnt feel uncomfortable if a man, straight or gay would glance at me in the shower, provided that he is not making it blatently obvious or is openly coming on to me. Other than that, i'm flattered when someone thinks that my body deserves that kind of attention.
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    Sounds logical to me.
     
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    I don't have a problem with anyone who's gay and I feel for them because I see and hear a lot of ingonrance towards them from others. I sometimes like hanging with them more actually.
     
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    I do too. I have had some straight guys become uneasy around me (after finding out that I am gay.) I used to have a public gym membership. (The worst money I have ever spent.) I could've gotten me a set of weights. And a bunch of other things. I later bought me a set later on.

    Now, I don't worry much about whether I am getting hard on (Will a straight guy get freaked out?) Sometimes during and after I work out I get so horny. I don't worry about guys flipping out. I can concentrate more on my workouts working out at home.
     
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