Straight but curious revolution

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  1. bigbrisguy

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    I'm finding that at uni (college for the Americans) there is a huge number of the "straight but curious" group, are any other guys finding this to be an experience?

    Don't get me wrong, I love it, but it's turning into quite a phenomenon, and I wasn't sure if other people are experiencing the same thing
     
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    College is a place of experimentation so its not surprising.

    I'm in college now, as well. I've always been "curious" but it wasn't until college that I even considered acting on my curiosity. For one thing, I think its more socially acceptable to experiment in college. You can experiment now, and in the future, if anybody questions your actions, just blame it on the alcohol..lol.

    Also, I think (for me at least) it seemed more safer to be "curious" here...and more discreet. I come from a smaller area (metro ~450,000 people) where everyone seemed to know everyone else, particularly in my immediate surroundings (neighborhood, school, city, etc) so being discreetly curious wasn't even an option in my mind. If I let some guy blow me, the whole city would find out (or so I thought). Now im in a bigger area (metro ~1.2million) at a decent sized college (30,000+) and I'm playing in a bigger pool so to speak.

    After college I can move on, to a new city, new grad school, new life and, if I want, I can completely leave the "college years" behind me and never look back.

    I guess its the same reason why a lot of girls become lesbians for four years before settling down with a husband and kids.
     
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    Yep I'm still that way
     
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    It seems to have become a typical excuse in certain parts of the world. Some people already consider it perfectly natural to be "curious at that age". I don't know, I'd wish it'd just be ok and normal to be bisexual
     
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    I found that at college a few years ago. I went to a small Jr. College then onto a major university. At the small Jr. College it was more reserved and hidden than it was in Athens
     
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    If you ever run for President of the USA the media will find out all about it....
     
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    What he said.
     
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    Its probably dumb but I seriously think about that when I join websites (such as this). Thats why I never use too much revealing info and never post my face. I always think, "What if I want to run for office one day?"
     
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    Yeah, with a mind and body like yours, you woukld get a LOT OF VOTES!
     
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    I experimented back in college... I'm still experimenting. :p
     
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    I know this is a little OT, but I can't wait for the day when the US would be okay with someone being in the oval office who is qualified, competent, and capable, regardless of their history with other men's cocks.
     
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    They could still link you with this webiste account by looking through your interent history, and probably your email which will be assoicated with this website. Unless you have used a temp/false email that is not associated to you.
     
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    Its not a fake or temp email, but its definitely an email that I ONLY use with adult sites (lpsg, craigslist, a4a, etc).
     
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    Well you know, something like this depends.

    If you were going to let me blow you, I don’t think it’s something you should worry about. Otherwise, I think you’re really smart.
     
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    I've noticed that too. I think that times are just more open than they used to be. Men are now able to discuss what they used to keep hidden. People are now demonstrating that sexuality is a continuum.
     
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    i think people are finally coming around and just enjoying sexual experiences and not worrying about gender or labels.
     
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    I'm a late bloomer in this category. I'm 39 and had my first bi encounter the other day. I am a LPSG pretender as I am only about 5.5", but I am cut and have always been curious what it is like to be uncut and hence my interest in this forum. Here in Canada, both cut and uncut are plentiful and the difference isn't discussed much nor is it as contraversial as down in the States. THe other day I placed an ad in Craigslist looking for an uncut guy for mutual masturbation and nothing more. I got the usual flood of replies from obvious freaks, but one guy seemed level headed and perfect for an encounter. I met up with him yesterday. He is 10 years younger, a few inches less in stature and carrying some extra weight (like me). He is also very curtious, clean and discrete. We met at an apartment owned by a friend of his that is currently furnished but unrented (I was able to verify this by catching the name on some mail on the table and doing a few web searches). He claims to be married, bi and to never to have gone further than mutual masturbation. I am not married and haven't had a LTR in a long time. He answered the door in his underwear, asked me in and asked what I wanted to do. I immediately dropped trou and replied that I wanted us to jerk each other off. He already had a towel laid down on the couch and some porn running on the TV (gay porn doesn't interest me). I was hard right away, he took a while. I played with his foreskin as that was my primary objective of the encounter. He had surprising length and girth. His hardon kept getting thicker and thicker. He claims to be 7.5 X 6 and I am inclined to believe it. He also has a perfect foreskin, not overly long, veiney or wrinkly. I did notice that his balls were very small and didn't retract to the extent mine do when I am aroused. Anyways, the jacking went great. He rubbed my nipples a few times and spit on my dick for lube a few times as well (which I didn't like). I was the first to cum by about a minute. After the deed was done, he offered me the washroom to clean-up, which we both did. I then asked him if he was up to another round, to which he replied he wasn't because he had to be home with his wife by a certain time. To his credit, I was about 45 mins late showing up so that could be true. He then asked if I was into threesomes as he knows another guy into jacking. I said maybe and then left. Since, I have sent him a few emails saying how much I enjoyed the experience and if we could make it a regular thing. He hasn't replied, but that could be due to being married.

    I have a few questions and am looking for advice. 1) Am I heading down a dangerous path? This is a curiousity that I need to satisfy, but I am afraid of enjoying it so much that it will ruin my attraction to women. I have been obssessed with the enounter since it happened. THis could be because I have more curiousity to explore or it could mean that I like men more than women, which in itself isn't a big deal. 2) I don't want to put his marriage in danger, but he seems to have that under control. 3) What if he doesn't reply? Could that mean that he thinks I am creepy? The only things I did that could be considered that way were I asked him if he had ever tried docking (he said he wasn't into it), I rubbed his head so hard once he politely asked me to back off, he looked at my face several times during the experience and I am sure I had some weird ecstatic expression (he did as well) and finally, he finished himself off as I quit jacking him while I was cumming. He seemed really into the experience, especially playing with my balls which are far larger than his. I am unsure what to do: delete the email account and pretend it never happened, place another ad on CL and risk being disappointed, or wait a few more days to see if he replies.

    In terms of my own orientation, I am most likely bi according to most definitions (rather than bicurious). I am attracted to the male body mostly out of admiration of guys who are leaner than I and uncut. I have never had attraction to a cut guy nor fanatasized about one. I am attracted to women, would only consider a LTR with a woman and definately want to start a family. I feel that I need to get this curiosity out of my system and move on. How weird is it for someone my age to be experimenting like a college kid? The one thing I am thankful for is that I think I have found the perfect situation to continue the experimentation if I that is my choice.
     
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    What I said re running for office was a bit of a joke.
    I can still see Bill Clinton saying: "I did not have sex with that woman!"
     
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    didn't the kinsey report say that 30% of men they interviewed reported having had at least some sexual relations with other men for a period of three years or more? of course, that was after world war 2, with guys who had been in the service and in combat, unable to be with women for long periods of time.

    but men who do have sex with women will occasionally go for a guy, sometimes when younger, sometimes under the protective coloration of str8 marriage when a little older.

    i think a lot of men find it hard to say no to sexual pleasure, regardless of whether it's with a woman or another guy.

    my guess is that guys who are indoctrinated to some extent with homophobic ideas are the ones who can resist sex with other guys the most, out of shame or guilt or whatever. as homophobia wanes in society, it stands to reason more guys are less averse to playing around with buddies, epecially where there is a close emotional bond and no exclusive commitment to another person.

    the idea that str8 is normal was strange in ancient times. they assumed that most men were attracted to both sexes, and would find our either/or notions of sexual orientation strange. the lucky guy back then had a wife for procreation and economic reasons (whom he might also love as an equal, but men and women weren't equal back then in social terms), and a friend with whom he had a deep emotional attachment, and very possibly an intimate sex life as well.
     
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