Anal sex is certainly not the be-all to same-sex sexual passions. A lot of guys don’t enjoy anal sex, topping or bottoming. A lot of guys prefer giving/receiving blowjobs, frotting, mutual masturbation. That’s especially the case for guys who are more a-sexual or who contend with a lot of fluidity and contradictions and paraphiliacs or who aren’t inherently sexually homo-leaning.
Once again, we’re taught that “gay” and same-sex sexuality and passions is mostly about anal sex, which is not the case. And we’re taught that same-sex preference, love, investment, partnership, commitment is mostly about sexual preferences, which is definitely not the case. And this is partly why shit remains so messy and why so many people are either full of confusions or full of shit in how they present themselves.
(But I wouldn’t be hyping up getting with someone under 18).