Straight but love watching gay porn

[englad]

Neither I nor anyone else on the site owns a crystal ball to peer into the deepest chasms of your mind and drag out every fantasy going through your head. Therefore, I can't answer the question. This is a very personal journey, one that you can only work out on your own.

 

[LVCB77]

I've lived my entire life as a straight man and now get off on gay porn about 97% or more, of the time. Not at all saying this is anyone's else's path or trajectory, but I can recall the evolution of this.

I've enjoyed a long time sex life with many women and have been married to one for many years now. However, from the very beginning, my mind wandered. It started out with randomly focusing on males in straight situations and a fascination with the male physique. For example, in sex scenes, focusing on the man and his body over the woman or having a real curious eye for images of men in underwear or any signs of male nudity.

After that I went thru a phase and fetish for trans porn and realized my fascination was with the cock. I then started getting off on solo male stuff and then straight porn where the situations bordered on gay like double penetration where cocks were touching or circle jerks.

Cut to now, and nothing gets me off more than hardcore gay porn albeit with masculine men involved, but I still live my life as a straight man and still enjoy hetero sex.

 

[hvdude]

You have an itch. When you choose to scratch it is up to you.

If you check out the Bi forum you will find guys that are so trapped by labels they suppress their same sex attraction until, for some, it affects them both psychologically and physically. It's like trying to hold in a sneeze - eventually it is going to come out.

If you are attracted to a man and you feel it is mutual, act on it. Allow your natural self to be expressed without any guilt or shame and see how you feel. As the expression goes, "You'll never know unless you try."

Just my opinion.

 

[slaterfl]

I've lived my entire life as a straight man and now get off on gay porn about 97% or more, of the time. Not at all saying this is anyone's else's path or trajectory, but I can recall the evolution of this.

I've enjoyed a long time sex life with many women and have been married to one for many years now. However, from the very beginning, my mind wandered. It started out with randomly focusing on males in straight situations and a fascination with the male physique. For example, in sex scenes, focusing on the man and his body over the woman or having a real curious eye for images of men in underwear or any signs of male nudity.

After that I went thru a phase and fetish for trans porn and realized my fascination was with the cock. I then started getting off on solo male stuff and then straight porn where the situations bordered on gay like double penetration where cocks were touching or circle jerks.

Cut to now, and nothing gets me off more than hardcore gay porn albeit with masculine men involved, but I still live my life as a straight man and still enjoy hetero sex.

I find this curious, based on what you said now, you prefer gay porn almost exclusively? No judgement at all, just never heard of someone who identifies as straight wanting to watching only gay porn, or anticipating seeing guys naked. I mean you said you still enjoy hetero sex, well coming from someone who has had both, its not really hard to enjoy it, I mean if you stick your dick in a hot warm place, and move it around its going to feel good. I know for me when I was with my first girlfriend at the time, even thou I loved her emotionally, I always felt like something was missing, or I would find myself fantasizing about men in some way. For me I didn't feel like it was fair to her or me, without talking to her, and eventually I embraced who I always felt I was, but afraid to say. Maybe gay sex is just a fantasy for you? but do you have the typical straight fantasies as well? Not to be nosy hehe

 

[3790721]

I'm gay and I watch almost exclusively straight porn. I have absolutely zero attraction to women though. Don't let people try to fit you in their labels, only you can know what you like, what you want and what you can do.

 

[LVCB77]

I find this curious, based on what you said now, you prefer gay porn almost exclusively? No judgement at all, just never heard of someone who identifies as straight wanting to watching only gay porn, or anticipating seeing guys naked. I mean you said you still enjoy hetero sex, well coming from someone who has had both, its not really hard to enjoy it, I mean if you stick your dick in a hot warm place, and move it around its going to feel good. I know for me when I was with my first girlfriend at the time, even thou I loved her emotionally, I always felt like something was missing, or I would find myself fantasizing about men in some way. For me I didn't feel like it was fair to her or me, without talking to her, and eventually I embraced who I always felt I was, but afraid to say. Maybe gay sex is just a fantasy for you? but do you have the typical straight fantasies as well? Not to be nosy

I find this curious, based on what you said now, you prefer gay porn almost exclusively? No judgement at all, just never heard of someone who identifies as straight wanting to watching only gay porn, or anticipating seeing guys naked. I mean you said you still enjoy hetero sex, well coming from someone who has had both, its not really hard to enjoy it, I mean if you stick your dick in a hot warm place, and move it around its going to feel good. I know for me when I was with my first girlfriend at the time, even thou I loved her emotionally, I always felt like something was missing, or I would find myself fantasizing about men in some way. For me I didn't feel like it was fair to her or me, without talking to her, and eventually I embraced who I always felt I was, but afraid to say. Maybe gay sex is just a fantasy for you? but do you have the typical straight fantasies as well? Not to be nosy hehe

Not being nosy at all and it's very enjoyable and fascinating to discuss. I do have the typical straight fantasies as well but they are less frequent as my gay ones for quite awhile now. Porn is a similar gay to straight ratio for me. Admittedly all signs point to gay based on this, but I don't like the limitations of being labeled one thing and I don't want to totally dismiss my hetero side either. I still have enjoyable sex with my wife as infrequently as that is and describe it as enjoyable not in the sense of putting my dick in any warm hole but an actual indulgence in a sex with a female. Sure I have occasionally fantasized about fucking a man while fucking her but I have also fantasized about fucking other women while fucking her and I've fantasized about fucking her while fucking her. I also think I've been fixated on sex with men more and more because I have never acted on homosexual fantasies in my life and wonder what it's like. The unknown makes it mysterious and intriguing for me and the thought and nature of my gay fantasies seem to satisfy a carnal desire in me that differs from my fantasies about women. Also, when I got married and stopped seeing other women I kind of suppressed and minimized my thoughts about other women and men seemed to step to the forefront in my mind and in a pure physical sense. I say this because I've pondered and just don't find a romantic or emotional connection with men in my mind and heart. Then again, maybe it's because I've never fucked or been fucked by one!

 

[Inputpower1]

Hi,
I'm new here (first post I think) and I have a small question
Im a straight guy (engaged and super happy with my straight sex life).
The thing is that I love porn (really, like Sami addicted) and sometimes I switch from straight to gay porn ("straight" guys in gay porn).
I just love the seduction (yeah yeah I know it's fake, it's still hot).

Also when I'm watching straight porn, I'm more turn on on stuff like BJ, big cocks, big balls and rimjob (of course that the hot female that endorse this has a big part of this).

So.. my question is:
Is that means that there is a gay side in me that I'm unaware of?

Need to clearly: never had any gay experienced and don't like something like that in real life (maybe in fantasy).


Thanks for listening (reading) this, great site BTW

@Shyboy44044, it looks like you found the perfect website forum. You can feel safe about different types of porn, fantasies, and more. No need to be worried about a “gay side” in your or anything. We are all sexual people and attracted to different things and people. Welcome to this safe space!

 

[bigboaster]

Not being nosy at all and it's very enjoyable and fascinating to discuss. I do have the typical straight fantasies as well but they are less frequent as my gay ones for quite awhile now. Porn is a similar gay to straight ratio for me. Admittedly all signs point to gay based on this, but I don't like the limitations of being labeled one thing and I don't want to totally dismiss my hetero side either. I still have enjoyable sex with my wife as infrequently as that is and describe it as enjoyable not in the sense of putting my dick in any warm hole but an actual indulgence in a sex with a female. Sure I have occasionally fantasized about fucking a man while fucking her but I have also fantasized about fucking other women while fucking her and I've fantasized about fucking her while fucking her. I also think I've been fixated on sex with men more and more because I have never acted on homosexual fantasies in my life and wonder what it's like. The unknown makes it mysterious and intriguing for me and the thought and nature of my gay fantasies seem to satisfy a carnal desire in me that differs from my fantasies about women. Also, when I got married and stopped seeing other women I kind of suppressed and minimized my thoughts about other women and men seemed to step to the forefront in my mind and in a pure physical sense. I say this because I've pondered and just don't find a romantic or emotional connection with men in my mind and heart. Then again, maybe it's because I've never fucked or been fucked by one!

Very interesting situation for sure. A couple of things. I'm about to describe something but This isn't to insinuate that you're just bisexual in denial or anything. Are you familiar with the term hetero-romantic?

It's basically used to describe certain bisexual people who only have romantic feelings towards their opposite gender even while they do have sexual physical interest in their same gender. (ie. A guy who has sex guys sometimes but only has relationships with women)

I am bi myself and I have sexual/romantic interest with both sexes. But from my experience most other bi guys I've met fall into this category of hetero-romantic (or homo-romantic too but less so) where they often don't seek relationships with their same gender, just sex.

All this to say maybe you're a straight man with some expected romantic interest in women but some latent sexual attraction to men? Just something to ponder on

 

[Leedsmarriedjerkbro]

I think so many people just love to whack a label on it and think you’re in denial if you even glance at someone’s dick. I wouldn’t worry too much man, we all do wild shit when we are horny. I consider myself straight but enjoy wanking and swapping pics with other straight lads. It’s just a kink. To be you’re only bisexual if you see yourself in a romantic relationship with a man or a woman. Take sex out if it. We all just want to get our end away where we can.

 

[tabana]

I am bi myself and I have sexual/romantic interest with both sexes. But from my experience most other bi guys I've met fall into this category of hetero-romantic (or homo-romantic too but less so) where they often don't seek relationships with their same gender, just sex.

I can't help wonder how much of that is due to biphobia and also just because it makes life so much simpler.

I don't know many openly bisexual people in real life as I keep my sexual and romantic life pretty private. On Grindr however, I got a lot of hits when I changed my user name to include bisexual and many messages from (mostly married) men who wrote to say, actually I'm bi too but I live a straight life. I'm just here to suck cock / because all the action is here.

I haven't met any who are attached to another man. It could be by chance but while considering the younger generation is proving more resistant, it's probably got more to do with conforming to oppressive societal norms and expectations than a personal choice or interest.

 

[Delrosi]

I can't help wonder how much of that is due to biphobia and also just because it makes life so much simpler.

I don't know many openly bisexual people in real life as I keep my sexual and romantic life pretty private. On Grindr however, I got a lot of hits when I changed my user name to include bisexual and many messages from (mostly married) men who wrote to say, actually I'm bi too but I live a straight life. I'm just here to suck cock / because all the action is here.

I haven't met any who are attached to another man. It could be by chance but while considering the younger generation is proving more resistant, it's probably got more to do with conforming to oppressive societal norms and expectations than a personal choice or interest.

My own take as a gay man, first disclaimer, I am very open minded and I'm just sharing my opinion, I find this topic incredibly interesting as a more "conservative" gay guy trying to look for a estable monogamous relationship. I hope I don't hurt any sensibilities.

I think that if I were bisexual and had sexual/romantic interest in both women and men, I would love the sex with men and the relationship with women. At first I deeply questioned myself to see if the blockage could come from deeply rooted internalized homophobia, but in my own experience, and looking at the life of my gay guy friends, I got to the conclusion that it is quite hard dating guys in the long run. Obviously I can only speak for myself, and can't speak for all bi/gay guys, but I see many more lesbians having successful longterm relationships.

I think relationships get nurtured by bringing at least 2 different kind of energies that balance and complement each other and the problem could be linked to gender expectations, women tend to embrace gender non-comformity more widely than men do, so they balance themselves way much better. But I see many gay guys dating "themselves" and when you both bring the same thing into the table, it is quite harder to build a personal project like a home. Let alone testosterone and the hardships that men face embracing intimacy and vulnerability that usually are key to maintain relationships longterm.

From what I have seen on my circle of friends, only few gay guys are in commited long term partnerships and most have opened up their relationships to subsist in time (I don't condone it at all, but it is not something I would like to rely on to maintain my relationships) while lesbians, even though they break up and get back together often (in my circle, at least) they remain together longer.

Now, obviosly it can be toxic to be attached to the same person just for the sake of commiting to someone longterm. People change, relationship change, etc that is why divorce rate is quite high. But anyways, it is besides the point.

Tl;dr The conclusion is that I think it is easier to have a estable relationship with a girl longterm than with a guy because of intimacy and vulnerability, and the often men's rejection of gender non conformity.

 

[slaterfl]

I can't help wonder how much of that is due to biphobia and also just because it makes life so much simpler.

I don't know many openly bisexual people in real life as I keep my sexual and romantic life pretty private. On Grindr however, I got a lot of hits when I changed my user name to include bisexual and many messages from (mostly married) men who wrote to say, actually I'm bi too but I live a straight life. I'm just here to suck cock / because all the action is here.

I haven't met any who are attached to another man. It could be by chance but while considering the younger generation is proving more resistant, it's probably got more to do with conforming to oppressive societal norms and expectations than a personal choice or interest.

I don't like to judge, but I think society pressure plays a big role there, about what is expected. So i

My own take as a gay man, first disclaimer, I am very open minded and I'm just sharing my opinion, I find this topic incredibly interesting as a more "conservative" gay guy trying to look for a estable monogamous relationship. I hope I don't hurt any sensibilities.

I think that if I were bisexual and had sexual/romantic interest in both women and men, I would love the sex with men and the relationship with women. At first I deeply questioned myself to see if the blockage could come from deeply rooted internalized homophobia, but in my own experience, and looking at the life of my gay guy friends, I got to the conclusion that it is quite hard dating guys in the long run. Obviously I can only speak for myself, and can't speak for all bi/gay guys, but I see many more lesbians having successful longterm relationships.

I think relationships get nurtured by bringing at least 2 different kind of energies that balance and complement each other and the problem could be linked to gender expectations, women tend to embrace gender non-comformity more widely than men do, so they balance themselves way much better. But I see many gay guys dating "themselves" and when you both bring the same thing into the table, it is quite harder to build a personal project like a home. Let alone testosterone and the hardships that men face embracing intimacy and vulnerability that usually are key to maintain relationships longterm.

From what I have seen on my circle of friends, only few gay guys are in commited long term partnerships and most have opened up their relationships to subsist in time (I don't condone it at all, but it is not something I would like to rely on to maintain my relationships) while lesbians, even though they break up and get back together often (in my circle, at least) they remain together longer.

Now, obviosly it can be toxic to be attached to the same person just for the sake of commiting to someone longterm. People change, relationship change, etc that is why divorce rate is quite high. But anyways, it is besides the point.

Tl;dr The conclusion is that I think it is easier to have a estable relationship with a girl longterm than with a guy because of intimacy and vulnerability, and the often men's rejection of gender non conformity.

I want to disagree with lot of what your saying, but find I cant I would like to point out thou, that not all gay men are looking for serious relationships, or monogamous relationships, that doesn't mean they dont have or aren't capable of intimacy, our relationships may look and be different, cause we don't always follow the traditional path of heterosexual norms. I think women are nurturers by nature, so perhaps that is why it is often easier to have relationships with them. I consider myself gay now, but I was in a relationship with a woman for three years, I have yet to have a relationship with a guy that long.. That doesn't mean I don't think its possible or that I haven't shared intimacy and closeness with men. Lets face it, Men are obviously genetically different then women, we tend to have a stronger sexual drive, and they tend to be more about emotion and connection. I think what the other posters were pointing out, is sometimes society plays a role on what is expected of men, and it influences and conditions us to think that Men are all about sex, and that relationships, vulnerability and intimacy are more difficult or not possible, but that doesn't make it true, and its not how it has to be. I realize I used lots of generalities, so I can handle the flames that come my way lol, but this just how I feel and see it.

 

[bigboaster]

I don't like to judge, but I think society pressure plays a big role there, about what is expected. So i

I want to disagree with lot of what your saying, but find I cant I would like to point out thou, that not all gay men are looking for serious relationships, or monogamous relationships, that doesn't mean they dont have or aren't capable of intimacy, our relationships may look and be different, cause we don't always follow the traditional path of heterosexual norms. I think women are nurturers by nature, so perhaps that is why it is often easier to have relationships with them. I consider myself gay now, but I was in a relationship with a woman for three years, I have yet to have a relationship with a guy that long.. That doesn't mean I don't think its possible or that I haven't shared intimacy and closeness with men. Lets face it, Men are obviously genetically different then women, we tend to have a stronger sexual drive, and they tend to be more about emotion and connection. I think what the other posters were pointing out, is sometimes society plays a role on what is expected of men, and it influences and conditions us to think that Men are all about sex, and that relationships, vulnerability and intimacy are more difficult or not possible, but that doesn't make it true, and its not how it has to be. I realize I used lots of generalities, so I can handle the flames that come my way lol, but this just how I feel and see it.

I don't think you're much wrong generally what you said. I think most of it rings true. I think there are lots of people in monogamous relationships gay or straight that simply aren't suited for that but due to our highly religiously influenced and sex negative culture we have put strict monogamy on a pedestal and people feel pressure to adhere to that.

I think there are some people who are suited for monogamy though and when they find each other. Of course things work out nicely long term. Compared to couples where one or both people are simply not wired for strict monogamy.

 

[Munchy]

I'm going to drop a bombshell, it's a hidden reality that a lot of people watch porn opposite of their orientation/preference. Believe it or not most gay men watch straight porn, it's the hidden secret in the gay community. So don't feel conflicted about watching gay porn.

 

[Delrosi]

I'm going to drop a bombshell, it's a hidden reality that a lot of people watch porn opposite of their orientation/preference. Believe it or not most gay men watch straight porn, it's the hidden secret in the gay community. So don't feel conflicted about watching gay porn.

Interesting. Well, I know it is almost a fact lesbians love gay guys porn. I once heard it was because they empathized with the passion of the gay porns stars. While girls fake to be into each other, men tend to "really like" each other or fake better I guess.

 

[Delrosi]

I don't like to judge, but I think society pressure plays a big role there, about what is expected. So i

I want to disagree with lot of what your saying, but find I cant I would like to point out thou, that not all gay men are looking for serious relationships, or monogamous relationships, that doesn't mean they dont have or aren't capable of intimacy, our relationships may look and be different, cause we don't always follow the traditional path of heterosexual norms. I think women are nurturers by nature, so perhaps that is why it is often easier to have relationships with them. I consider myself gay now, but I was in a relationship with a woman for three years, I have yet to have a relationship with a guy that long.. That doesn't mean I don't think its possible or that I haven't shared intimacy and closeness with men. Lets face it, Men are obviously genetically different then women, we tend to have a stronger sexual drive, and they tend to be more about emotion and connection. I think what the other posters were pointing out, is sometimes society plays a role on what is expected of men, and it influences and conditions us to think that Men are all about sex, and that relationships, vulnerability and intimacy are more difficult or not possible, but that doesn't make it true, and its not how it has to be. I realize I used lots of generalities, so I can handle the flames that come my way lol, but this just how I feel and see it.

Fair enough. I think that alone could explain why bi guys end up in relationships with women rather than men.

 

[bigboaster]

Interesting. Well, I know it is almost a fact lesbians love gay guys porn. I once heard it was because they empathized with the passion of the gay porns stars. While girls fake to be into each other, men tend to "really like" each other or fake better I guess.

Eh.... This seems a bit too over Simplified and generalized to me but I am not looking to argue. So moving on . Lol

 

[bigguy7]

probably not the most woke thing to say but i fkn love chatting and camming with hung, genuine straight/married blokes who get into cock... be it mine, their own or other hung members or porn models etc... In fact my best bate sessions have been straight blokes, usually on the DL wanting nothing more than having a horny mate to hang with and get into some dirty verbal cock talk and play.

probably doesn't hurt that I Fkn LOVE hearing whatever they wanna share... about how hung they are, fucking pussy or any number of curiosities they got the balls to explore...or not.

 

[bigguy7]

For a bit more substance on the topic:

Hetero Guys Open Up About Their Gay Porn Fetishes With Each Other

 

[angelonyc]

I think that if you're actively seeking gay porn, then you are bi. I think that maybe you are afraid that your wife won't approve, so that's why you get extra turned on when a woman is encouraging it?

I've already made a few loooong posts about why I don't like when guys call themselves straight but keep doing gay things... that's my personal feelings on the matter but I don't want you to be against your own urges.

You like gay porn... who cares? Only you should care about what turns you on about it and why. I would try to think about WHY you get so turned on by big cocks... maybe you're forgetting someone you used to be attracted to? Someone that had a huge bulge? Or maybe a gay guy came on to you and you werent ready to do anything with a guy and it left you traumatized?

I just don't think that continuing to try to call yourself straight will help you. You're into gay sex. I recommend exploring that. Maybe watch porn where the scenario isn't "straight guy gets seduced" Or maybe even watch MORE of that if it helps you come to terms with what you like. Something is mentally blocking you from saying that you are bi, so that is definitely something that you will eventually have to deal with, and pretty much everyone here (me too) will help you through that journey, whenever you're ready.