I've never thought of myself as the most 100% "straight" guy around. But that is how i see myself straight - not gay or even bi. Just male. And i think that can mean we can find another man arousing. Lots of dudes get freaked out because they have sprung a boner from seeing another dude. Geeesh - Arousal Arouses...chill out. Anyway - I love women and no doubt attracted to them in a sexaul way. I'm married (for many years) and feel pretty dang confident in who i am. Yet i'm not the type guy that can't admit that... 1. I check other guys out - their face and their body and if they are in the shower - sure ...their cock. I've often met guys and if a friendship is developing, wonder how big or small their cocks are. I've sorta just come to terms that all guys wonder this. 2. Have, when younger (high school) jacked off in the presence of another guy as well as gave a helping hand. Interesting thing - i never initiated it...the other dudes did. Today both of them are also married and i know for certain they are "straight". 3. Would have no problem jacking with a bud at this point in my life (I'm in my 40s)' 4. One of my biggest fantasies is to fuck my wife with another dude...same time..same hole. Never have done this. But my wife fancies it - me and her dildo. 5. Pussies are amazing to me...love the feel, taste, and look of them. Can't imagine sex without them but also think a cock is powerful, mascluline and the cum shot just....well.....bad ass. A cock is more of a toy and a pussy a gift. 6. Can admit when a dude is handsome, good-looking or hot. No problem. I want to be just that - hot. I have eyes. I know what looks good in a male or female. Just because i can see something is attractive doesn't mean i'm attracted TO it. 7. I can actually look at the times i've jacked with a buddy as a good thing. Something that was bonding and built even more trust. We can laugh about it now - and we do. It's just like an act among men that only men can understand. And i definitely view it as almost a "test" of sorts of the depth of brotherhood. Women would view it as gay i'm certain. Most anyway. Here's what i've noticed about all this - the older i become the less i worry about what is "gay" and what is not. The 40's are sorta freeing in that regard. Anyone else in their 40s seeing changes in their mindset on these things? If i could give some advice to the young bucks...an act doesnt' define you - relax.