straight but not afraid to admit...

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  1. str8bro1

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    I've never thought of myself as the most 100% "straight" guy around. But that is how i see myself straight - not gay or even bi. Just male. And i think that can mean we can find another man arousing. Lots of dudes get freaked out because they have sprung a boner from seeing another dude. Geeesh - Arousal Arouses...chill out. Anyway - I love women and no doubt attracted to them in a sexaul way. I'm married (for many years) and feel pretty dang confident in who i am. Yet i'm not the type guy that can't admit that...
    1. I check other guys out - their face and their body and if they are in the shower - sure ...their cock. I've often met guys and if a friendship is developing, wonder how big or small their cocks are. I've sorta just come to terms that all guys wonder this.
    2. Have, when younger (high school) jacked off in the presence of another guy as well as gave a helping hand. Interesting thing - i never initiated it...the other dudes did. Today both of them are also married and i know for certain they are "straight".
    3. Would have no problem jacking with a bud at this point in my life (I'm in my 40s)'
    4. One of my biggest fantasies is to fuck my wife with another dude...same time..same hole. Never have done this. But my wife fancies it - me and her dildo.
    5. Pussies are amazing to me...love the feel, taste, and look of them. Can't imagine sex without them but also think a cock is powerful, mascluline and the cum shot just....well.....bad ass. A cock is more of a toy and a pussy a gift.
    6. Can admit when a dude is handsome, good-looking or hot. No problem. I want to be just that - hot. I have eyes. I know what looks good in a male or female. Just because i can see something is attractive doesn't mean i'm attracted TO it.
    7. I can actually look at the times i've jacked with a buddy as a good thing. Something that was bonding and built even more trust. We can laugh about it now - and we do. It's just like an act among men that only men can understand. And i definitely view it as almost a "test" of sorts of the depth of brotherhood. Women would view it as gay i'm certain. Most anyway.

    Here's what i've noticed about all this - the older i become the less i worry about what is "gay" and what is not. The 40's are sorta freeing in that regard. Anyone else in their 40s seeing changes in their mindset on these things? If i could give some advice to the young bucks...an act doesnt' define you - relax.
     
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    I totally get what you are saying. Though I am female, I understand and appreciate your perspective. I believe with age (and exposure) comes maturity, wisdom and appreciate for sexuality. Labels are unimportant, trying to "define" your sexuality is unimportant...

    Enjoying sex and having people around you with like minds.... that's what is important.

    Those "young bucks" will eventually "get it" (or not if they continue to be narrow minded about sexuality), but like most all of life's lessons, we learn on our own...

    Enjoy the site... you sound like a cool guy with a cool wife....
     
  3. D_Jess_Kilme

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    Hey Bud

    Spot on man.

    People are so hung up on definitions! I think that the vast majority of men today have some sort of sexual hang-up or chip on their shoulder. And most of that can be traced back to the gender or sexual orientation mafia (many on here) who insists that all men MUST conform to one of three sexual stereotypes - ie straight, bi or gay.

    Now, in reality very few men do conform that strictly. As a result they become conflicted, unsure, confused and sometimes totally screwed up about their sexuality. People respond differently but many resort to homophobia to disguise the turmoil within. In fact, many of the worst homophobes are the product of the gender mafia's efforts to categorise every male into a strict category.

    The best would be just to leave men be. Don't make an issue of gender identification. Men are what they think they are and choose to be.

    And as Mebench said, sexual orientation is not defined only by a sexual act!





     
  4. bluemountain

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    Well said Mebench.....I agree with you.
     
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    Hey, you straight guys, stop stealing all the hot men from us gay guys.:biggrin1:
     
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    This is really great, but it also should be pointed out that a lot of straight and mostly straight guys currently in the teens and 20s are not waiting until their 40s to free up themselves sexually. They're doing it now.
     
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    Thanks for all the positive feedback...i'm a bit surprised! In the best way possible actually. Follow me for just a second. I think men have a FAR more difficult time in all this. Our society has put a tremendous pressure on us men to be a specific and very "defineable" way -- HYPER masculine even. I went through many years of freaking out inside because i got a boner from something other than a female (lolol shoot - i get boners from most things - wind, sun, animal mating, fruit, etc.). I thought something was terribly wrong. I hope you all caught that for most men..."Arousal Aroues". So true. That was the turning point for me to start being kind to myself in this area. And all while being very happily married to an awesome woman with a very fulfilling sex life and yet here i was...troubled...plagued since Jr.High that i wasn't quite "man enough".

    Here's a funny story that happened just yesterday taking a very close friend to the airport. He's very hyper masucline and married. We were talking and i said:
    "Listen I'd so watch you and your wife fuck and enjoy every minute of it...shoot i'd want to join you. NOt saying i WOULD...but i'd want to."
    he goes.."Dude you and my other friend say the SAME thing. You are crazy."
    "What you wouldn't want to watch me and my wife?"
    "No WAY!"
    "WHY NOT...we are best friends...all of us good looking!"
    "It seems a bit gayish"
    "Nay...listen your saying that if, suppose, you were flipping channels one night on tv and you came a cross a channel and it was my wife and i fucking you wouldn't watch it???"
    "Nope."
    "How insulting. Geeesh thanks. I know people who would pay money....and your other friend...at least he's honest...I like him already!"

    same guy during the same conversation admited that he'd suck himself if he could reach. I say..."And you've tried right? Who hasn't?" he goes..."Yeah". me: "Now you're finally being honest bro!"

    I've referred to this friend in another post of mine. I did finally ask him if he only watches solo girl or girl/girl porn. "No"...."So you choose to have a dick in your porn bro?"..."Well that's not the rea---" "But you chose to see a cock dude...why? and if that porn didn't have a good cum shot you'd be dissapointed." Him: "Well no...i....see.....shut up"

    Wanna guess his age?

    late 20s

    figures.

    Anyway...my rant today is more about this. Sex is just awesome...and I've actually done nothing outside of my marriage but deep inside...i've wanted to. And that does involve things like orgies, groups, gangbangs. Other cocks. That certainly isn't my focus. But the point of this thread is that though it's not the focus - they can be included and it not completely spiral me into self doubt, accusation and self loathing. I'm just trying to be honest these days.

    I simply can't fathom a man not getting COMPLETELY turned on from watching a woman...taking two dicks in her pussy....Obviously loveing every second of it - them pounding her into utter pleasure and then the eruption of cum splattering all of them as they fall into a pile of exhausted flesh. Damn.
     
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    I thought this was going to be some mess about you being straight but liking to go down to the bar and pick up leather daddy to pound you down to a puddle.

    This is a lot of respectable than I thought it would be. :smile:

     
  9. str8bro1

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    Yeah...no. Not me. Glad you got something more "productive" out of it all.
     
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    Well said man!!
     
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    that's a really good attitude, and that doesn't make you any less straight, it's good to know people think like that! ;) sometimes I feel that way for a women and I know I don't have a straight bone in my body.
     
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    Great thread.
     
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    wow, Mebench. I could not have described myself any better. I am in my 50's now and am pretty free with doing what I enjoy. My wife is still where my heart lies but nothing wrong with a buddy jerk. I only looked until about 10 years ago and then started doing a little more.
     
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    Some good, and honest words there bud!
     
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    impressive mebench..it not only takes someone mature enough..but also conceptually open to communicate..you get 1 cool point in my book
     
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    Well said Mebench. I feel exactly the same way, but it took me until my 40s as well. I think that, especially in the US, men are so repressed and are expected to live up to some Puritanical, theoretical image that is unnatural and doesn't actually exist in practice. Men are forced to pretend. We would all be much happier and much healthier emotionally if we weren't taught such crap by society.

    Most guys who force the label "gay" onto someone who wants to experiment are likely just trying to cover up their own sexual insecurities. But that's not totally their fault, because society has taught them to be insecure.
     
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    This is the same topic posted over and over and over again under a different name. *Please understand that I'm not attacking or I'm trying to come off as douche* But to me it says "I enjoy the sexual presence of other men, but I really want to identify as straight." Okay. If that's what you want to do, then fine- do it. As long as you can acknowledge that you enjoy engaging in homosexual activity, then I don't see an issue. It is what it is. And before someone says "it's not gay, I just like doing x, y, and/or z with guys sometimes," lets clear some things up.
    • Two guys masturbating with one another is a homo-erotic act. Masturbating in itself is a sexual act. The moment you reach over to stroke your friend, it become a homosexual act. It doesn't matter how you try to justify it- not all gay men do oral sex or anal sex. (I'm definitely not one of those men).
    • Double-Penetration is hot. It too can be considered a homosexual/bisexual act. It's less gay because you're in a vagina? How is it different from two guys fucking a fleshlight together? Either way, you're rubbing dicks. (It's hot!)
    • To the original poster. A vagina may be a gift, but a penis is not a toy. It's fucking awesome!!! Grab your penis right now, feel it's awesomeness. Now jerk off and think of me.
    Also, to the original poster, I think it's cool that your wife knows this about you. That's one of my biggest issues with straight men, really. The fact that you'll have married men who identify as straight, and yet step out of their marriages to do whatever with whomever and everything is okay like it never happened. There's not enough honesty, so kudos to you and I respect that. And I agree with Crescendo- these sexual explorations should definitely be done at a younger age- figure out what you like first before you say "I do" to someone who probably wouldn't accept certain things. And before you're too old to do anything about it. That would suck.
     
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    I can only Agree...I hope there are more guys in the San Diego area who think the same way...! If there are like minded guys in San Diego area hit me back so we can chat...
     
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    Maybe it's because I'm an artist, but I appreciate a man's physique on the artistic level as well. I'm not necessarily turned on sexually by it, but there is a part of me that feels the electric energy of a well sculpted body. And there are some guys with amazing looking cocks and I'll admit when I watch porn that seeing it working on a woman's beautiful body is almost as much of a turn on as the woman herself. I just have no desire to interact with it.
     
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