I wrote about this in another thread but probably could do with some advice or general thoughts. My best friend (straight when sober, but told me he was bi when drunk) and I (bi but don't really believe in labels) for some time now have had various fairly intimate experiences. To elaborate, we have made out on a few separate occasions (always after drinks on a night out) and each time it becomes a bit more intense. We have spent the night in the same bed, hugging and showing affection to each other, but have not done anything else beyond. The last time this happened, he said he wanted to do more (but we weren't in an appropriate place for that). He was sexually very suggestive and kept slapping my bum. We ended up going to sleep in our own beds after some more making out.
The next day, he did the usual thing - claiming to be fully straight and talking about how he becomes a different person after a few drinks, and how our little drunken moments can't happen again. To be honest, this would be totally fine with me and I want to preserve the friendship...but we've been around this merry-go-round before. I've put some boundaries in place (e.g. only having a few drinks maximum when we're together) but I want to get to the root of why we've been becoming more and more intimate after drinking - how should I broach this with him? Should I just leave it and wait until he maybe brings it up? It feels a bit like he's using me to explore his sexuality but then backing away when he feels guilty/unsure or wants to label himself as a typical straight man (which I'm ok with but he needs to be up-front when sober too).
The next day, he did the usual thing - claiming to be fully straight and talking about how he becomes a different person after a few drinks, and how our little drunken moments can't happen again. To be honest, this would be totally fine with me and I want to preserve the friendship...but we've been around this merry-go-round before. I've put some boundaries in place (e.g. only having a few drinks maximum when we're together) but I want to get to the root of why we've been becoming more and more intimate after drinking - how should I broach this with him? Should I just leave it and wait until he maybe brings it up? It feels a bit like he's using me to explore his sexuality but then backing away when he feels guilty/unsure or wants to label himself as a typical straight man (which I'm ok with but he needs to be up-front when sober too).