I had an experience when I was a senior in high school that's stayed with me for years. I had a good male friend who I made love with occasionally during the school year. We both played baseball together and ended up spending a lot of time at either his parents' house or my house. We both admitted we had strong feelings for each other. After one particular long and intense night of love and sex, he started casually talking about girls and how attracted he was to them. So here we are cuddling, having some pillow talk, and he keeps telling me how much he's hot for women, like he was comparing our being together with being with females. I asked him why he was with me if he preferred being with women? I mean, was he trying to assure me that he still had all his heterosexual credentials even though he was sleeping with a boy? The whole thing made me crazy. While I didn't care who he slept with, I felt really denigrated in that relationship and ended it. I also told him why. He basically didn't understand why I broke it off, and was pissed at me for months. I learned a lot from him about how we guys can disassociate from our actual experience. Sad but enlightening for me.