D_Martin van Burden
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I think Reba is right too, but I think we're giving 18-year-olds a little too much credit. It was at that time that my sexual orientation was still very much in flux; I was just getting out there and sowing some wild oats. Most people at that age could probably tell you what feels physically good, but can't say all that much about where they emotionally stand in their relationships let alone have a comprehensive grasp of their multifaceted attractions to others.
Those years are designed to help you start answering some of those questions. While I'm well-aware that there are some people out there who know very early on how they swing sexually, others don't pick it up until later in life. Or they know but deny it. Or they don't know and can't figure it out. Or they know but think that the artificial labels we put on sexuality aren't good enough.
Maybe your friend thought you two were on the same wavelength -- that you could get off with each other as well as get off with the ladies. Sure, it's insensitive to do it in bed. But how else are you going to figure out, yo, are you bi or are you just outright gay?
Those years are designed to help you start answering some of those questions. While I'm well-aware that there are some people out there who know very early on how they swing sexually, others don't pick it up until later in life. Or they know but deny it. Or they don't know and can't figure it out. Or they know but think that the artificial labels we put on sexuality aren't good enough.
Maybe your friend thought you two were on the same wavelength -- that you could get off with each other as well as get off with the ladies. Sure, it's insensitive to do it in bed. But how else are you going to figure out, yo, are you bi or are you just outright gay?