Straight/Gay/Bi ?

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by alotofthetime, Feb 25, 2009.

  1. alotofthetime

    alotofthetime New Member

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    I need some advice on figuring out what I am. Back in middle school I had a couple interactions with friends of mine, we did like "dares" and just did stuff like jerking eachother off, and a little oral. It has been 12-14 years since I have done stuff with guys. I cant say I really enjoyed it then, but we just did it in an exploring type way.

    I have always been quite the ladies man, Ive always had a steady gf since HS, Ive had maybe 4 relationships over 2 years in length each. During each relationship I cheated with multiple girls. Id say all in all ive had sex with 15 different girls, and done lesser things with more like 30. Most of my action was when I had a gf, and I was cheating on her.

    I currently have a gf, and I have great mind blowing sex with her, and I love it. Latley I have started to watch gay porn and like solo men porn. I find a mans cock attractive and is a huge turn on. I get off on watching another guy get off, and I like watching a man cum. I do not find a man over all attractive though, I just am interested in their cock.

    I have started to do a few things with men via craigslist, Just little stuff such as jerking eachother off, and oral. I in no way want to kiss, makeout, or do anal with a guy. Infact I actually dislike giving or reveiving oral from a man. I do how ever really like jerking off with a guy, or jerking a guy off. I really like it when they blow their load on my body.

    I am just confused as what is going on with me. I would never think about having a relationship with a man, and I dont find men attractive.. I guess I am just obessesed with cock. All along I have been having great sex with multiple girls though.

    What do ya all think?
     
  2. MisterMark

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    You have to define yourself.

    There are TONS of guys like you who are intrigued by other men's cocks but who are primarily heterosexual. Sexual orientation and sexual interests don't have to be an "all or nothing" deal. You like whatever you like.

    You clearly have interests in both men and women. Whatever you choose to do with those interests is totally up to you. Don't let society make you feel like you have to choose one or the other.
     
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    id say your bi ...
     
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    i would personally say don't worry about fitting under a certain "label". Classifications are not always concrete with easily defined boundaries. You should become comfortable with yourself, and let life guide you. You are you, and that is special and unique. It might be hard to define yourself right now, but it will become clearer a little further down the road. All in all, accept the uncertainty, knowing that it will sort itself out. hope this helps
     
  5. Hockeytiger

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    First off, I'm not sure if I were you I'd worry about the formal labels all that much. It doesn't necessarily fit you, or anyone else, all that well.

    Second, only you can determine your own sexuality. A lot of controlling people like to tell other people what their sexuality is, but honestly, they are full of shit. Only you can really know. You may or may not be in denial about it, but in the end, only you can really know. None of us can read your mind.

    Third, why do you really care? Would your behavior change if you believed you were bi. How about straight? Gay? I doubt it.

    Fourth, you like what you like, period. You get turned on by cock, but apparently not men in general. Okay, that seems odd to me. But again so fucking what? You don't need to justify your sexual feelings and desires to anyone.

    Fifth, are you sure about your feelings? really? Part of what I see in your post might be labeled as overcompensation. You talk about all the women you have fucked and almost brag about the fact that you have cheated on every girlfriend with multiple women. I uderstand that you are pointing out your years of unabashed heterosexuality. But all you had to say was that you had multiple long-term relationships with women and over two dozen female sexual partners. It came across to me that you had something to prove and by saying you had fucked lots of women and cheated on all your girlfriends. It was like you were trying to "prove" your heterosexuality. I guy isn't any less a heterosexual if he has never cheated on his girlfriend. Are you trying to prove something to yourself? But as I said, only you can really know. I just bring this up to make you think about it. I honestly have no idea what your sexuality is, and I can never really know.

    Best of luck in discovering who you are, whether that be straight, gay, bi or something else.
     
  6. D_Fowlmouth Chickenchoker

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    I don't worry about labels either. They are kind of silly if you ask me. Sexuality is somewhat complicated and involves so much of our senses, fantasies and urges that it is impossible to create a few boxes to define it.

    Surprisingly, I find myself 'defined' by your post. I'd rather have sex with a female most all the time, but sometimes I gotta play with a big dick (besides mine). lol.

    Just roll with it, keep an open mind and don't worry about the outside noise. Most people in life don't understand themselves, so don't let them try and define you. :biggrin1:
     
  7. MisterMark

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    I think you might be describing the majority of straight guys here: Mostly hetero, wanting to have sex and relationships with women, but with an underlying interest in cocks - especially big ones. :smile:
     
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