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I have read sooo sooo sooo many posts on here that read like this.
"Straight men don't have sex with other men" or
"Straight men don't find other men attractive" or
"Straight men don't look at other men"
and to be totally honest every time time I take a break from this sight its posts like these that prompt it. Every time I hear a comment like this I just want to cry at the sublime ignorance of some people who take it upon themselves to think they can make such broad sweeping assumptions about a part of the human psyche that teams of scientists have been studying for over 3 decades and have still not yet found any clear definitions for.
So on that note let me add my opinion, and it is only that an opinion, based on my observations and life experience but still only an opinion.
I realise that I may cop a fair amount of flaming from this on both sides of the fence but this is how I've always seen things.
The body is hard wired to respond to stimuli. Smells, sights, tastes, sounds and touch .. Touch how does it work.
Well the skin comes into contact with some sort of stimuli then passes the message to the brain then the brain interprets the stimuli and directs the rest of the body to respond appropriately.
So does the skin differentiate between genders? No it doesn't. This is why men both straight and gay can sometimes get an erection while receiving a massage from a male masseur, because the skin doesn't car that its another male doing the touching the only thing it knows is that something brushed up against the inner thigh and stimulated the surrounding nerves.
It is also why heterosexual men sometimes get erect during a prostate exam
and is also why victims of male on male rape regardless of their sexuality quite often become sexually aroused during penetration.
There are no words to describe how abhorrent rape is or how devastating it can be for the victim. Let alone how confusing it can be for the victim if they find themselves aroused during it. Which is part of the reason why quotes like the ones i mentioned at the start of this post really really get my goat.
Imagine you were raped and you found yourself being aroused at the same time. how much damage would that do to the concepts you have of your own sexual identity? Would you be able to cope? A lot are not.
A huge number of male on male rape cases are not reported because of the shame men feel at having to admit they were raped.
A lot of this shame is due to narrow minded beliefs about what "REAL MEN" or "STRAIGHT MEN" are supposed to think, act, feel.
The worst part of this is that its not just heterosexual men who are doing this this to themselves.
These posts I'm reading are coming from all sectors of society. Hetero men, Homo Men and Women.
I can't speak to the women because I'm not a female so hopefully some women will help me out on this one.
But as a man I will say to the Hetero men. I have known hetero men who, enjoy looking at men, enjoy touching men, enjoy kissing men, enjoy sucking men, enjoy fucking men, enjoy being fucked by men. I have also known hetero men who enjoy Cuddling other men, holding hands with other men, sharing their feelings with other men and just being in the company of other men.
and to my Homo friends who have made similar comments . Shame on you!
you of all people should know better than to make such narrow minded comments. Do all homo men like to wear dresses and make up? do all homo men dance well? do all homo men talk with a lisp and have limp wrists? do all homo men like to take it up the arse? Do all homo men like to suck dick?
HOW DARE YOU?
in a world where we are trying to fight for equality and fight against outdated stereotypes that classify us as less than "REAL MEN" .. HOW DARE YOU apply those outdated stereotypes of what a "REAL MAN" or a "STRAIGHT MAN" is onto our fellow brothers. WAKE UP TO YOURSELVES.
If were ever going to get equility were going to need the help of every STRAIGHT man there is regardless of whether or not he likes to look at cock suck cock or whatever and trying to apply outdated cliches will only serve to alienate us from them as much as some gay mens beliefs about bisexuality has also alienated us from the bisexual community.
So after my big rant a quick sum up.
"Straight men are turned on by whatever turns them on and quite frankly its not your place to decide whether or not they are str8 thats their decision and no-one else's"
"Straight men don't have sex with other men" or
"Straight men don't find other men attractive" or
"Straight men don't look at other men"
and to be totally honest every time time I take a break from this sight its posts like these that prompt it. Every time I hear a comment like this I just want to cry at the sublime ignorance of some people who take it upon themselves to think they can make such broad sweeping assumptions about a part of the human psyche that teams of scientists have been studying for over 3 decades and have still not yet found any clear definitions for.
So on that note let me add my opinion, and it is only that an opinion, based on my observations and life experience but still only an opinion.
I realise that I may cop a fair amount of flaming from this on both sides of the fence but this is how I've always seen things.
The body is hard wired to respond to stimuli. Smells, sights, tastes, sounds and touch .. Touch how does it work.
Well the skin comes into contact with some sort of stimuli then passes the message to the brain then the brain interprets the stimuli and directs the rest of the body to respond appropriately.
So does the skin differentiate between genders? No it doesn't. This is why men both straight and gay can sometimes get an erection while receiving a massage from a male masseur, because the skin doesn't car that its another male doing the touching the only thing it knows is that something brushed up against the inner thigh and stimulated the surrounding nerves.
It is also why heterosexual men sometimes get erect during a prostate exam
and is also why victims of male on male rape regardless of their sexuality quite often become sexually aroused during penetration.
There are no words to describe how abhorrent rape is or how devastating it can be for the victim. Let alone how confusing it can be for the victim if they find themselves aroused during it. Which is part of the reason why quotes like the ones i mentioned at the start of this post really really get my goat.
Imagine you were raped and you found yourself being aroused at the same time. how much damage would that do to the concepts you have of your own sexual identity? Would you be able to cope? A lot are not.
A huge number of male on male rape cases are not reported because of the shame men feel at having to admit they were raped.
A lot of this shame is due to narrow minded beliefs about what "REAL MEN" or "STRAIGHT MEN" are supposed to think, act, feel.
The worst part of this is that its not just heterosexual men who are doing this this to themselves.
These posts I'm reading are coming from all sectors of society. Hetero men, Homo Men and Women.
I can't speak to the women because I'm not a female so hopefully some women will help me out on this one.
But as a man I will say to the Hetero men. I have known hetero men who, enjoy looking at men, enjoy touching men, enjoy kissing men, enjoy sucking men, enjoy fucking men, enjoy being fucked by men. I have also known hetero men who enjoy Cuddling other men, holding hands with other men, sharing their feelings with other men and just being in the company of other men.
and to my Homo friends who have made similar comments . Shame on you!
you of all people should know better than to make such narrow minded comments. Do all homo men like to wear dresses and make up? do all homo men dance well? do all homo men talk with a lisp and have limp wrists? do all homo men like to take it up the arse? Do all homo men like to suck dick?
HOW DARE YOU?
in a world where we are trying to fight for equality and fight against outdated stereotypes that classify us as less than "REAL MEN" .. HOW DARE YOU apply those outdated stereotypes of what a "REAL MAN" or a "STRAIGHT MAN" is onto our fellow brothers. WAKE UP TO YOURSELVES.
If were ever going to get equility were going to need the help of every STRAIGHT man there is regardless of whether or not he likes to look at cock suck cock or whatever and trying to apply outdated cliches will only serve to alienate us from them as much as some gay mens beliefs about bisexuality has also alienated us from the bisexual community.
So after my big rant a quick sum up.
"Straight men are turned on by whatever turns them on and quite frankly its not your place to decide whether or not they are str8 thats their decision and no-one else's"