Okay, so you gotta understand, the restaurant I work is pretty unconventional in that there are a ton of male servers on staff opposed to female servers. I joke about how it's a perpetual sausage fest in there. In addition, quite a few are gay as well; more are straight, but the gay ones are pretty open and upfront about their sexual orientation and no one seems to have a problem. This dude that works at Abercrombie started working there and his behavior tends to confuse everyone. He says he's straight, but -- hell -- even I don't pat my gay buds on the ass. Like a host told someone who told me, "Don't make promises you can't keep." Or, you gotta be really careful that your behavior doesn't come off as flirting if it isn't intended that way. So that kinda started the most recent firestorm about which guys are or aren't gay, especially the new ones that just finished training. He invited himself over to crash at my apartment because he couldn't stay in the dorm that night. I didn't have a problem with it. As I don't have much in the way of alternate sleeping quarters, I would've been fine if he slept on my couch or took up the other side of my bed. Alcohol flowing, and tired of people speculating behind his back. He said he's straight, but then he went off on this homophobic tirade afterward; it was really uncalled for, and while part of me thinks that if he really does have issues understanding his own sexual orientation (as he's only 18, away from home, venturing out in college, experimentation happens, etc.), he's certainly not someone you could just have a good conversation about it. Needless to say, he's a very strange guy and I don't feel comfortable talking to him any more than I have to. Plus, he's not very bright, doesn't have much to say, comes on too strong, sends way too many text messages, and he just gives off a bad vibe. Unlike him, my country hick bud at work is really cool. He drinks to excess, yeah, but... anyway... we hung out the other night too and drank a lot and for some strange reason, he asks if I think he's gay. I tell him no. Honestly, he doesn't really do anything to make me think he swings that way. He had since told me that some guy tried to make a move on him once (that he rejected) and that he has had a gay roommate before, but really, I think he was trying to prove to me that he's a pretty "with it" sorta guy. He seems really proud of being as open as he is despite coming from a closed-minded rural community, and I'm proud for him too. I don't remember what I said. Something about being at an age where I know I'm straight, but honestly, I don't give all that much a fuck about anything. No big deal. And with that, he climbed into my bed. He kept trying to talk and I wanted to sleep. He wanted me to give him a backrub and I offered an exchange. We exchanged backrubs (which felt pretty good). Nothing further (though he did kinda rub the top of my buttocks). I'm sure one eyebrow went up at some point, especially how at some point in the early morning, he ended up turning toward me and throwing an arm around me. I just kinda went with it. Straight or gay, I'm not really interested in his motivation. While the behavior seemed rather odd, especially since we talked way too much about not being gay, deep down, I think he's just trying to prove that he's open-minded and I appreciate him for it. Plus, it didn't feel too bad to kinda halfway snuggle as it was ridiculously cold that night and morning.