Straight Guy Asks Me for Blowjob!

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  1. gcbenji0

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    I don't know how to feel about this. Remember my other post, I'm coming out of the closet.. Well, that same friend has asked me for oral sex. Let me explain, he didn't ask me for a date. He doesn't really even want to have sex. He doesn't want to kiss and anything, because the thought of kissing a dude creeps him out. Here's the worst part: he wants to put a hat over his face and pretend I'm a girl. He has no interest in me. He's straight but he's "on a dry spell", so he just wants to get a blow job.

    He thinks I'll just show up, drop to my knees, blow him and swallow then walk out the door. What does he think I am? Some sort of random craigslist cruiser? I don't know whether to feel incredibly insulted or feel pity for him that he would make such a pathetic request? I'm going to tell him to take his little un-sucked cock and go to hell!
     
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    Am worried that this is a situation that might be round the corner for myself, lol.

    Oddly, I'm a little flattered, I think.
     
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    hmmmmmmmmm

    I think the title of this thread should be "Self-professed Straight guy asks me for Blowjob!"
     
  4. Infernal

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    Tell him you're not running a service station and if that's what he wants, then to look somewhere else.
     
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    Accept and bite his schlong off. But seriously, you need to talk to this friend of yours. First off, he's got some horribly skewed perception of gay people. And secondly, perhaps even worse, he's completely undermining you as a person. Totally devaluing your friendship.

    Do it, puppy!
     
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    How did he get the impression that you'd be willing? Some might consider it an odd assumption, but I've had straight friends mention similar things to me.
     
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    If you're intrigued enough to have started this thread, then you're probably curious enough to at least attempt it and see where it goes. Non-reciprocal blowjobs have never been very high on my must-do list, myself, though.
     
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    He's making you an object ... very very explicitly ... and wondering if you'll be self-abasing enough to play your half of the game.

    You won't enjoy the act ... and you certainly won't enjoy the aftermath.
    I don't know if I'd "tell him to take his little un-sucked cock and go to hell," but I'd certainly not accept.
     
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    Politely tell him you aren't interested in him that way and decline his offer. Some people think all gay men are attracted to all men in general, which most of us here probably know is not true. It is time for your friend to know this as well.
     
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    he's a loser, forget him

    let me blow YOU instead :tongue:

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    Let me bottom-line this: what an asshole.
     
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    That is the correct response. :angryfire2: The nerve of him, you are not a whore! :mad:
     
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    Ah a cock's, a cock's, a cock :biggrin1: It sounds to me like the two of you are in some kind of dance of lust-type back and forth. He wants to pretend he's still totally 100% straight while busting a nut in a guy's mouth and you sound like you wouldn't mind that if he was offering you a big slushy romance. :wink:

    If a mate of mine ( straight or gay ) asked me to do this, and I wasn't even remotely interested in him, I'd laugh in his face and tell him to f*** off. End of story. It sounds to me like your considering this more than someone who is totally uninterested in the proposition. :confused::eek:
     
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    Some people think all gay men are attracted to all men. Not true. I would decline his offer.
     
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    As you're just coming out you definately need advice. Take this one from me: if you don't do it now, you'll look back in a couple of years and regret it. So go for it and enjoy.
     
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    first off, he is no friend. secondly, he is quite typical of married men who need oral sex on Friday or monday..before the weekend with the wife or after the weekend with the wife..go to any adult porn shop where videos booths have glory holes, this is common place and i think gay guys have added to this problem by putting up with the blow and go..i guess if u need a reason to feel de based or ur not worthy or just ever so grateful that some man shoves his cock thru a hole and ready for u to suck...your in more trouble then u realize.
    as for you benji0, ask this guy what on earth compels him to make an asshole out of himself asking such a debasing question? what he thinks you need practice on cock sucking? at best, buy him some boy butter, ask him if he is right handed or left handed and place the tube of boy butter in that hand...and proceed to explain the fine are of beating one's own cock until sperm shoots out all over his mid section of his body...or to avoid the mess, beat off with the use of a condom.
    and then LOOSE this GUY as FAST AS U KNOW HOW
     
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    ugghhh whateva! like you'd let that one go :wink:
     
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    Is he hot?


    LOL . . . no, seriously. You've got badly mismatched aims and expectations here. I agree that the way this has been presented to you is totally a power play, one in which you're going to come out the loser. At least that's my first reaction.

    On the other hand, if this is strictly an FWB thing, maybe, just maybe you could treat it as no big deal. You're getting cock (maybe put it to him as "I could use the practice") which you want. And he's getting head, which he wants. If you can keep it exactly that simple, where it's a benefit to both of you, cool. But things are rarely that simple, unfortunately.

    Key question: do you care whether he remains your friend long-term?
     
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    I agree with those who advise you to politely decline. Do you really want to be disrespected in that manner? I'd have no problems being oral with a friend, however a "friend" is not going to want to pretend that you are not you.

    It can be difficult enough during the transition of being open with yourself and your friends. Do you really want to do it without any self respect to go along with it?
     
  20. BigDallasDick8x6

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    If he were hot, I'd do it. But then again I've got VERY high self-esteem -LOL- and it wouldn't bother me. We'd each be getting what we want. BUT...do what makes you feel comfortable. If you decline, just do it without the drama. You'll respect yourself more in the morning.
     
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