Straight guy but loves cock?

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So I’m a regular run of the mill guy, in a relationship with a loving female partner.

But I find myself going through these phases of where I watch gay porn or try to hook up with guys, mind you I only ever want to hook up with guys with large cocks!

These phases come and go every other month or so.

I have slept with two guys the first was about 9x6/7 (ouch for my first time) and the most recent is very thick maybe 7+ and pretty long at around 7.5 or 8”

The first time I didn’t consider it cheating because I don’t find men attractive in anyway, I have never kissed a man either but I have taken two very large thick cocks in my ass and I love to suck dick

I find this very confusing and odd.


Any thoughts of similar experiences?
 

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welcome to the complicated part of bisexuality, where you're conditionally desiring specific traits in same sex partners, primarily for sex.
does this make you not straight? In my eyes yes, but... since you still prefer being in a long term relationship with women, you're still "stealth" and would pass as straight most of the time.
 

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So I’m a regular run of the mill guy, in a relationship with a loving female partner.

The first time I didn’t consider it cheating because I don’t find men attractive in anyway, I have never kissed a man either but I have taken two very large thick cocks in my ass and I love to suck dick

Cheating is cheating, regardless whether it is with another woman or a man. Period. If you are okay with cheating, then carry on.

Is your loving female partner aware of your extra-curricular activities? If not, I would suggest you do some introspection. About the how can/would you handle the worst case scenario--she finds out--I suggest you have a lot of thinking to do about that potential What If.

You may wish to take a look at this link to this thread for some perspective. While different, it's kinda similar to your current situation. Regardless, I do wish you well. Good Luck.

Relationship ended thanks to being bi.
 

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Life is short and we need to stop labelling everything all the time. If you enjoy the physical aspects of being with another man then own that. If you enjoy the company of women own that too. You don't mention anything about having sex with women which, I have to assume, you are including "long term relationship" aspect.

My question to you would be: Have you ever made a connection with another man or allowed yourself to? You might find that the attraction happens once you get to know the person. You have opened yourself up to experiencing physical pleasure with another man and have to decide whether you're open to the idea of trying to make a connection at a deeper level. When you have another man's cock inside you you are sharing the most intimate part of yourself with him and he you. How do you feel afterwards? Guilty? Satisfied? Empty?

Personally, I think you should explore your feelings and desires more (without the need for a therapist). Don't worry about what people think or how you would be labeled. As I said at the beginning - life is short and if we live our lives for other people we will end up dying from regret.
 

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Life is short and we need to stop labelling everything all the time. If you enjoy the physical aspects of being with another man then own that. If you enjoy the company of women own that too. You don't mention anything about having sex with women which, I have to assume, you are including "long term relationship" aspect.

My question to you would be: Have you ever made a connection with another man or allowed yourself to? You might find that the attraction happens once you get to know the person. You have opened yourself up to experiencing physical pleasure with another man and have to decide whether you're open to the idea of trying to make a connection at a deeper level. When you have another man's cock inside you you are sharing the most intimate part of yourself with him and he you. How do you feel afterwards? Guilty? Satisfied? Empty?

Personally, I think you should explore your feelings and desires more (without the need for a therapist). Don't worry about what people think or how you would be labeled. As I said at the beginning - life is short and if we live our lives for other people we will end up dying from regret.

This is one of the best posts about your situation. I have found that it is the deeper emotional connection that counts in life, once that connection is established and nurtured the physical aspects of a relationship expand, and sexual adventures become more intense. I think that humans evolve emotionally and you have recognized that evolution within yourself. Like Hvdude said, when one lives for others, we short our own lives and carry that regret. I have been there and had the experience.
 
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So I’m a regular run of the mill guy, in a relationship with a loving female partner.

But I find myself going through these phases of where I watch gay porn or try to hook up with guys, mind you I only ever want to hook up with guys with large cocks!

These phases come and go every other month or so.

I have slept with two guys the first was about 9x6/7 (ouch for my first time) and the most recent is very thick maybe 7+ and pretty long at around 7.5 or 8”

The first time I didn’t consider it cheating because I don’t find men attractive in anyway, I have never kissed a man either but I have taken two very large thick cocks in my ass and I love to suck dick

I find this very confusing and odd.


Any thoughts of similar experiences?

Man I feel pretty much in the same way. Not actually attracted by masculinity but very very attracted by a big nice cock
 

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Man I feel pretty much in the same way. Not actually attracted by masculinity but very very attracted by a big nice cock

But I would ask you: What is a cock if nothing more than a symbol of masculinity? When you look at a well-endowed man with a full hard on aren't you impressed? Don't you think "whoa, that's one virile guy!"? When you see, touch and taste the guy's dick you're tasting the essence of who he is. So don't say you aren't attracted to masculinity, because a man's penis is the full expression of it.
 
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But I would ask you: What is a cock if nothing more than a symbol of masculinity? When you look at a well-endowed man with a full hard on aren't you impressed? Don't you think "whoa, that's one virile guy!"? When you see, touch and taste the guy's dick you're tasting the essence of who he is. So don't say you aren't attracted to masculinity, because a man's penis is the full expression of it.

I'd say you are right but also I'd say you are wrong. I guess I'm still trying to understand myself.
 
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I'd say you are right but also I'd say you are wrong. I guess I'm still trying to understand myself.

Trying to find yourself is part of the wonder of life. Just don't box yourself into a pigeonhole. Be open minded and willing to try new things and experiences, whatever they may be and you may find that you discover new things about yourself.
 
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Trying to find yourself is part of the wonder of life. Just don't box yourself into a pigeonhole. Be open minded and willing to try new things and experiences, whatever they may be and you may find that you discover new things about yourself.

I complete agree
 

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How the hell are you meant to say no to this lol?

My "no" would sound pretty garbled with that nice cock in my mouth! Gosh, I love a girthy cock like that!
 

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It makes one difference, if a person is in a monogamous relationship with another person, this one happens to be male / female they owe it to that person to either end that monogamous relationship or some kind of mutual understanding between the two in the monogamous relationship that these sort of escapades are ok. If not enough thought is given to person someone is in a monogamous relationship it is very wrong and is cheating. You don't even want to know what I think should happen to a person who cheats on his partner being in a monogamous relationship. I read so much of this cheating going on with one excuse or another, and that is truly all it is is an excuse that someone justifies cheating with in a monogamous relationship. It has nothing to do with labels or any of that horseshit that if brought up. See post #12 that man is correct with what he says!
 
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I'm in the phase where I want to try everything with genuine and like minded people because that's when I'll know what i truly like and enjoy. Also I wouldn't stay commited to somebody and not have them know what I'm doing as it would be wrong from my part. And if I ever find myself liking both guys and girls equally then I'd rather be single or be in a relationship with a guy/girl with full transparency and letting them accept me as I am.