Going through it now :/The story of my life! It took a long time for me to figure out that there was no way a straight guy was ever going to turn gay and love me the way I loved him. It was a brutal lesson to learn. I lost one VERY good friend over this too. It was losing him that made me come to an understanding that I had to be ok with just being good friends and never anything more.
I am really sorry to hear that - it is very difficult and even confusing especially depending on the vibes that friend is giving - hang in there - it will get betterGoing through it now :/
The story of my life! It took a long time for me to figure out that there was no way a straight guy was ever going to turn gay and love me the way I loved him. It was a brutal lesson to learn. I lost one VERY good friend over this too. It was losing him that made me come to an understanding that I had to be ok with just being good friends and never anything more.
THIS. this was pretty much my experience of falling completely for a straight guy in my early 20s.
there's an odd disconnect between some gay guys knowing that they're born gay and that being gay isn't a choice no matter what bible-thumping fuckwits say, but simultaneously thinking they can convert straight guys if they just try hard enough. it doesn't happen. you are who you are, he is who he is. confessing all and attempting to cop a misjudged feel will no more make him abandon a lifetime of chasing pussy than the misplaced affections of a loving woman will make you give up cock. unrequited love is SHIT, but there we are. there are people you just can't have, whether you're gay or straight or whatever, people who will never feel for you what you feel for them, and you have to learn to deal with it and move on with your life.
I think every gay man has had a crush on a straight man at some point in their lifehas anyone ever dealt with it? Meaning have you developed strong feelings for a straight guy and now you got over it?