straight guy into male body and dicks?

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  1. Eric87

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    Just wondering if it is a normal thing for a straight guy to like male body and dicks. I am straight (though sometimes feel leaning towards bi) and never imagine myself fucking or getting fucked by other man, but a well defined male body like that of an athelete somehow turns me on. This makes me guilty and also because of this feeling, I becomes uncomfortable when with other good looking guys... Can a normal guy be attracted to other guys but with no sexual fantasy about men?
    Thanks in advance!
     
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    It will probably take you awhile to sort this out. The leaning toward bi part is what you should think about. Eventually you'll have a sexual connection with a guy and you'll be able to see what works. Sexual connection can be so many things other than anal. Just cuddling in the nude works for some men. Others like mutual masturbation, cock to cock. The possibilities go on and on. What's most important is that you see it as sexual variety and not sexual deviance. You can be str8 most of the time but want a guy once in awhile and you don't have to go into labels and definitions. That is of course, as long as no one is getting hurt. Hurting people is out of bounds.
     
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    It's perfectly normal, but it means you're not completely straight.

    The correct answer is 'B'.

    Buttfucking is not required to be a card carrying gay or bisexual man, or even a predominantly straight man with homosexual tendencies.

    See where this is heading?

    Why do you feel guilty? It's your social conditioning that makes you uncomfortable, and your self-imposed identity in conflict with your true orientation. Your attractions are perfectly normal. Come to grips with that, and you can enjoy your attractions, even explore your curiosity without guilt.

    But you do have sexual fantasies about men, and it's perfectly 'normal'. What's not normal is perpetuating a rigid straight identity in conflict with your sexual attractions.
     
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    Good replies guys. And, agreed, don't feel guilty about perfectly normal feelings.
     
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    The last thing you need muddying the waters as you explore your sexuality is guilt.
     
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    I think that it is normal to have an appreciation for a male with a well-built body without being gay or bi. As you said, you have never imagined yourself sexually involved with another male. There are lots of threads on here about guys having more respect for others that are hung or more muscular. The male brain is difficult to figure out. There are dominant alpha males that tend to rule the local population. Others tend to look up to them.

    I worked on a farm where there were all kinds of animals when I was a teenager. There were a couple of incredibly strong horses both male and female that I thought were beautiful. There appearance just commanded respect. That doesn't mean that I am into beastiality.

    Don't get excited, you're straight. It's cool to have close male friends.


     
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    Sounds perfectly normal to me. Why would anyone not admire nice physiques of other people, regardless of gender? Just like the comedian says, even straight guys want to see big hard dicks in straight porn.

    I wouldn't worry about it at all. Sounds perfectly normal.

    As for gay men all doing anal, I'm bi and yet not a big fan of anal. Never really liked it much either giving or receiving. So I don't think that liking anal would classify you as either straight, bi or anal in and of itself.
     
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    I respectfully disagree with musclebare, as I don't think you're completely straight. Although "completely straight" varies tremendously for different people.

    More than likely, you are bi and the guilt that you are feeling usually comes when you first start thinking about it. But only because society has taught us that for some unknown reason, it's wrong and we should feel guilty about it.

    It's ok. "Bi's" are completely normal too :wink:

    No one thing determines how far you act on it. Ya know how far ya go? However far YOU are comfortable with. That could be anywhere from just admiring and fantasizing about it, to engaging in some sort of sexually activity with another male. Jacking together, mutual jacking, oral, etc.

    Feel good about yourself and let your own feelings tell you who and what you are, not others :smile:
     
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    wow, thanks a lot guys! guess i need to learn to be more confident expressing my own feelings without guilt. thanks again for the help and support!
     
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    Everything you're feeling is 100% normal, and you should feel excited and exhilarated by the sexual odyssey you may be embarking on, certainly not guilt :wink:

    Explore what turns you on and don't fight it, as long as everyone is consenting, whatever you get up to is up to you. Don't be overly concerned about what to call yourself at this point, if you've never had any sexual interaction with another man then right now you're just curious and exploring your own sexuality. When you're more confident about what your sexual identity is and have a clearer understanding of what your into and what you're not then you can think about other issues.

    Right now just remember, exploring your sexuality is fun and being attracted to or turned on by other men is completely natural and beautiful. :wink:
     
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