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I work in a professional office in the U.S. with about 85-90 people where there are at least a few good-looking guys.
About two weeks ago, two new young guys, recent university graduates, began work in the department in which I work. They both sit behind me within a section of six cubicles, three in each of two front to back rows, with an aisle in between. One sits directly behind me, the other diagonally across and behind, with front and back walls about five feet high.
We had the usual welcome lunch on their first day, at which I just happened to sit informally next to one of them, with other colleagues around the pushed together small tables at the cafe. I guess I was in good form that day, as a few of the things I said drew laughs, including from the new guy.
Next morning, I come into the office after the two new guys had arrived. I guess I said good morning to the one visible to me (seated diagonally), and the other guy (to whom I had sat near at lunch the previous day) stands up to say good morning to me with the most UNUSUALLY SWEET and SOFT expression on his face while doing so, and with a sort of loose wave that I would not exactly describe as hyper-masculine.
The same day, a good portion of the office was attending a late afternoon offsite drinks party in a closed-off section of a large restaurant. When the tray with my second drink arrived, I happened to be standing with my back to the waitress, and the same new guy, of the sweet morning greeting, informed me that he thought my drink had arrived. In alerting me, he did not just tap me on the shoulder, but traced his hand from the top of my right shoulder all the way down to the bottom of my shoulder blade. This is from another man whom I had met less than two full days previously.
Last week, this same guy made a visibly accelerated effort to come and sit next to me at a meeting taking place at a very large conference room table that had at least a few empty seats closer to the door than where he did sit, and away from where it might have made more sense for him to have sat given the pattern in which people had already been seated. At a previous meeting from across the same conference room, and on one or two other occasions in our area of the office, I either looked up or turned to see him looking right at me. I also think I saw him checking out my crotch area when passing by him in an area away from our desks.
Yesterday, I was sitting turned sideways away from my desk toward the cubicle aisle, which this same guy must pass whenever he leaves or goes to his own desk, happened to turn my head when he was going back to his desk, at which time he looked me directly in the eye with a rather serious expression on his face, but said nothing. My reflexive reaction was to turn my head away from his gaze.
Later yesterday and today, I was testing out this situation, looking casually in his direction a couple of times when the opportunity presented itself, and by looking up quickly and casually at him a couple of times when he passed my desk, and he has been much less willing to make eye contact than before, or if doing so, to be more distant in his expression. I swear that yesterday, when I was coming into an area (with a couple of other people through an exterior hallway door) near where he was standing talking at another person's desk, that he looked up when he heard/saw me/us but looked away noticably quickly.
Would anyone care to comment on what they see as going on here, if anything? Is this just the behavior of a straight guy who happens to like me, for whatever reason, or possibly something more?
I should add that we exchange the usual daily pleasantries, chat (just a little) and that he has come over to my desk to ask me work-related questions on a few occasions (one of which was after I had turned away from his direct gaze as he was passing my desk yesterday).
I'd be particularly interested in the perspective of straight guys on this kind of behavior from another man, but would be happy to know what others think as well.
Please excuse the extreme long-windedness of this post.
About two weeks ago, two new young guys, recent university graduates, began work in the department in which I work. They both sit behind me within a section of six cubicles, three in each of two front to back rows, with an aisle in between. One sits directly behind me, the other diagonally across and behind, with front and back walls about five feet high.
We had the usual welcome lunch on their first day, at which I just happened to sit informally next to one of them, with other colleagues around the pushed together small tables at the cafe. I guess I was in good form that day, as a few of the things I said drew laughs, including from the new guy.
Next morning, I come into the office after the two new guys had arrived. I guess I said good morning to the one visible to me (seated diagonally), and the other guy (to whom I had sat near at lunch the previous day) stands up to say good morning to me with the most UNUSUALLY SWEET and SOFT expression on his face while doing so, and with a sort of loose wave that I would not exactly describe as hyper-masculine.
The same day, a good portion of the office was attending a late afternoon offsite drinks party in a closed-off section of a large restaurant. When the tray with my second drink arrived, I happened to be standing with my back to the waitress, and the same new guy, of the sweet morning greeting, informed me that he thought my drink had arrived. In alerting me, he did not just tap me on the shoulder, but traced his hand from the top of my right shoulder all the way down to the bottom of my shoulder blade. This is from another man whom I had met less than two full days previously.
Last week, this same guy made a visibly accelerated effort to come and sit next to me at a meeting taking place at a very large conference room table that had at least a few empty seats closer to the door than where he did sit, and away from where it might have made more sense for him to have sat given the pattern in which people had already been seated. At a previous meeting from across the same conference room, and on one or two other occasions in our area of the office, I either looked up or turned to see him looking right at me. I also think I saw him checking out my crotch area when passing by him in an area away from our desks.
Yesterday, I was sitting turned sideways away from my desk toward the cubicle aisle, which this same guy must pass whenever he leaves or goes to his own desk, happened to turn my head when he was going back to his desk, at which time he looked me directly in the eye with a rather serious expression on his face, but said nothing. My reflexive reaction was to turn my head away from his gaze.
Later yesterday and today, I was testing out this situation, looking casually in his direction a couple of times when the opportunity presented itself, and by looking up quickly and casually at him a couple of times when he passed my desk, and he has been much less willing to make eye contact than before, or if doing so, to be more distant in his expression. I swear that yesterday, when I was coming into an area (with a couple of other people through an exterior hallway door) near where he was standing talking at another person's desk, that he looked up when he heard/saw me/us but looked away noticably quickly.
Would anyone care to comment on what they see as going on here, if anything? Is this just the behavior of a straight guy who happens to like me, for whatever reason, or possibly something more?
I should add that we exchange the usual daily pleasantries, chat (just a little) and that he has come over to my desk to ask me work-related questions on a few occasions (one of which was after I had turned away from his direct gaze as he was passing my desk yesterday).
I'd be particularly interested in the perspective of straight guys on this kind of behavior from another man, but would be happy to know what others think as well.
Please excuse the extreme long-windedness of this post.