How could I get offended from someone finding me attractive.
How could anyone? I take any compliments that I can get... :biggrin1:
hi men. I am Gay. I have occasionally expressed my interest in a man who I later learned to be straight. The best reaction I received of those came from someone who I now count among my closest friends. He replied simply, "Thanks, sorry but I'm not interested in you. Do you have a sister?" That was so cool, confident, and comfortable that I replied no and bought him a beer.
You owe me a beer; that's exactly what I've said before.
When I'd finished my meal, the gorgeous waiter boy came and asked me if I wanted anything else. I said no thanks. He said to me, "I bet you wouldn't mind a bit of that, eh?" nodding towards the blonde girl. I said, perfectly clearly, "Actually, no, I'd much rather have you." He just went kinda blank and walked away with no response.
If I were him (of course, I'd have to be gorgeous first, and enough of a pig to make a comment like that to a customer), I'd have to try my hardest to not bust out laughing.
Just last night, I met a friend of a friend who was gay (well, my friend is straight, and her friend is a gay guy) and, among other things, we talked about being presidents of our condo boards. We got along just fine. If he (or anyone else) was hitting on me, I was either oblivious or feigning obliviousness -- it makes no sense to ruin an evening by suddenly saying, "Dude, I'm not interested in you."
Tangent -- and also mentioned briefly in this thread --
My friend gets frisky when she's alcohol-affected. I mean very physically frisky; she's even had her hands deep down my own jeans pockets after some wine. Last night, she was practically hanging all over every one of the gay guys. At one point, while she was in a neighboring room having a smoke, our mutual friend told me that he'd never seen her like this, and that it bothers him when she gets so cuddly -- like, what can she possibly expect him to do?
I volunteered the idea that maybe she feels "safer" by having that kind of overtly-flirtatious fun with gay guys because she knows that they're not going to try to take her home afterwards like any straight guy. -- Is that at all valid?