Straight guys: Chill the fuck out...

WolvesInTheThroneRoom

Sexy Member
Joined
Jun 13, 2008
Posts
316
Media
48
Likes
61
Points
113
Location
Portland (Oregon, United States)
Sexuality
100% Straight, 0% Gay
Gender
Male
A girl who joined a few nights ago pm'd me (lucky she saw and liked my pics in the gallery) and I got to talking to her, we switched to yahoo messenger and have since added each other on myspace.
She is super nice, super intelligent and pretty, she is also interested in large cocks, obviously, but the 18 pms she got within the first 3 hours of being on the site really put her off! She was watching her inbox fill up as we chatted on yahoo.
The 'hey wanna see my big dick?' 'you like 3 cocks in all your holes' and 'i bet youre a dirty whore arent you' and the 'will you make fun of my little dick' crap that she was bombarded has pretty much ruined her for the site.

I did my best to convince her that it really is a cool site and that not every guy on here is like that and that there are several really cool women she might like, but I think shes done for she logged in again and there were 12 more pms saying nothing more than what I exampled above.

I get loads of pms from gay men on here despite being 100% straight, but it doesn't put me off, you know why?
because they dont act like fucking retarded gangbangers!


I've a new friend in her and someone that will cam with me, only because I acted like a normal fucking human being before I ever offered her to cam.

I wonder how many hot, intelligent women, who would eventually be up for explicit sex talk and camming but have been driven off before they could even explore the site!

You dont get laid in real life acting like that so what makes you think youll get some dirty talk and cam action on a forum acting like that?

Gay men help me out on this one, lets teach some tact.
 

D_lkjhgfdsa1234

Experimental Member
Joined
Feb 22, 2008
Posts
367
Media
0
Likes
9
Points
103
Sexuality
No Response
I must say that straight men should learn the manners it takes to approach chicks. Most "gangbangers" are dudes who never communicate with girls or never talked to their sisters or friend girls as to how they can approach women. Even gay or bi dudes know how to talk to women and that is why they have even a better shot at getting laid by women than the unmannered straight guy because they talk to the closest thing to women- gay men. I don't even make half the mistakes my other friends make when I approach girls at the bar. I sometimes score more chicks in spite of my height than my taller friends so what I do to educate them is give them a female winggirl to show them the ropes. It is I who turn away women for reasons such as she is a single mother. Unfortunately, online dudes don't get to do this and most of them don't have friendgirls or sisters to help them out and they go about this alone.
I would advise these guys to approach girls in other ways other than online dating. I recommend MoxieInTheCity.net Interactive Social Events! to get an education because they have interesting classes on the opposite sex and they can also meet a training girl (one who is not too good looking but is great for practice, or can be the potential permanent date).
 

D_Kay_Sarah_Sarah

Account Disabled
Joined
Apr 5, 2006
Posts
5,331
Media
0
Likes
68
Points
193
I feel sorry for the girl if she was that offended that she isn't coming back but unfortantly this sit is full of testosterone laden horny guys. And if you talk sex they will come-a-knockin'. Do tell her though that if it is any consolation it does die down as you form friendships and become more then fresh meat
 

Principessa

Expert Member
Joined
Nov 22, 2006
Posts
18,660
Media
0
Likes
135
Points
193
Sexuality
100% Straight, 0% Gay
Gender
Female
Yes, those PM's are annoying; but there really isn't a way to stop them unless you block everybody you don't know. I don't get them as much as I used to, but I still get a few creepy/skanky/vulgar PM's a week. At 18 I don't think I could have handled the onslaught of ridiculous PM's either. How does a girl of only 18 already know she prefers a large penis? :confused:

Just this evening I opened up my PM box to see:
hi, ur pics or totally yumm!!!!
how r u doing??
do u mind if i get me a really big towel and just completely soak it right here??
xxx

Guess what? He gets no response. :12: I refuse to respond to anyone that disrespects me, can't spell, or writes stuff like "wanna fuk," or "will you be my first black chicka", etc, etc. PM's like that don't make me want to talk to a guy. They make me wonder why the internet doesn't have restraining orders.

.
 

WolvesInTheThroneRoom

Sexy Member
Joined
Jun 13, 2008
Posts
316
Media
48
Likes
61
Points
113
Location
Portland (Oregon, United States)
Sexuality
100% Straight, 0% Gay
Gender
Male
For those who didn't read the whole post heres the important parts.


The 'hey wanna see my big dick?' 'you like 3 cocks in all your holes' and 'i bet youre a dirty whore arent you' and the 'will you make fun of my little dick' crap that she was bombarded has pretty much ruined her for the site.
I get loads of pms from gay men on here despite being 100% straight, but it doesn't put me off, you know why?
because they dont act like fucking retarded gangbangers!
I wonder how many hot, intelligent women, who would eventually be up for explicit sex talk and camming but have been driven off before they could even explore the site!
You dont get laid in real life acting like that so what makes you think youll get some dirty talk and cam action on a forum acting like that?
 

xxuxu

Experimental Member
Joined
Dec 27, 2007
Posts
216
Media
0
Likes
15
Points
248
Location
New York (United States)
Sexuality
100% Straight, 0% Gay
Gender
Male
Understandable that she'd be scared off. Stop scaring away the ladies, people. :mad: I try to write respectful PMs but they usually get ignored too...Guess they get drowned in the sea of "OmG butSEKZ 4 u? LOL"
 

WolvesInTheThroneRoom

Sexy Member
Joined
Jun 13, 2008
Posts
316
Media
48
Likes
61
Points
113
Location
Portland (Oregon, United States)
Sexuality
100% Straight, 0% Gay
Gender
Male
I'm not upset that she personally isn't going to be using the site, cause Ive got her all to myself now haha, but it got me thinking as I was looking through the gallery and seeing how many women have joined but haven't had any activity on the site in ages. :dunno:

I want there to be a plethora of hot sexy women on here. A cornucopia. ie: more ladies than the law will allow :wink:
 

cookiesweet83

Experimental Member
Joined
Nov 25, 2007
Posts
184
Media
3
Likes
14
Points
103
Location
Northeast of the Mexican border.
Sexuality
100% Straight, 0% Gay
Gender
Female
i second that. i get majorly annoyed when im talking to one of my friends on here and oh someone pms me talking about a/s/l or some bs or line talking about oh how hot my legs are and then oh you wanna see my pics. its annoying to the point where im just like busy ttyl sorry. if i wanna talk bs then ill talk to the bsers.
 

red7.5

Mythical Member
Verified
Gold
Joined
Nov 9, 2007
Posts
2,969
Media
461
Likes
50,437
Points
618
Location
Boston (Massachusetts, United States)
Verification
View
Sexuality
90% Gay, 10% Straight
Gender
Male
Gay men help me out on this one, lets teach some tact.

Out of about 300 pms in 8 months, I've only received a handful of creepy ones. The 12 or so straight guys who have pm'ed me have all been very nice. It's really too bad your new friend will likely bail from here. I don't blame her though, based on what you've told us.

I don't think guys who send the creepy stuff truly care to meet someone. They're just lonely, mean spirited people looking to get a reaction, any reaction, from another.
 

Principessa

Expert Member
Joined
Nov 22, 2006
Posts
18,660
Media
0
Likes
135
Points
193
Sexuality
100% Straight, 0% Gay
Gender
Female
TarzanKingOfMars, the problem relates to the fact that many males think any female who is a member on a large penis site is a nymphomaniac or a whore. Therefore she can be talked to the way they see women being talked to in pornography. This is of course lightyears from the truth. However, since many men really are kinda dumb and think only with their dicks this is what happens. :redface:
 

WolvesInTheThroneRoom

Sexy Member
Joined
Jun 13, 2008
Posts
316
Media
48
Likes
61
Points
113
Location
Portland (Oregon, United States)
Sexuality
100% Straight, 0% Gay
Gender
Male
At 18 I don't think I could have handled the onslaught of ridiculous PM's either. How does a girl of only 18 already know she prefers a large penis? :confused:
You mightve misread, shes not 18 (in her late 30s) but she got 18 pms within no time of making her first post.

another thing, I was skeptical that she was really a real woman at first haha, until we shared myspace pages- skeptical because of having been approached by many men posing as women, urgh I hate that.
 

D_Jurgen Klitgaard

Account Disabled
Joined
Dec 2, 2007
Posts
4,090
Media
0
Likes
65
Points
133
I couldn't agree more, I get so enraged when I see straight guys hitting on girls that are brand new to the site, I can feel my blood boiling. Even in their galleries. There are a few that I just want to beat with their own fucking arm. :mad:

I never PM any woman to ask to see my dick, and the only girls I hit on are the ones that have been longtime friends with me, and it's usually all in good fun.
 

WolvesInTheThroneRoom

Sexy Member
Joined
Jun 13, 2008
Posts
316
Media
48
Likes
61
Points
113
Location
Portland (Oregon, United States)
Sexuality
100% Straight, 0% Gay
Gender
Male
I commented on your hot legs cookie...but in an image comment like a normal person :smile:

I'm just hoping guys who are guilty of this will read this thread, they prob wont comment, but they will go away possibly willing to tone it down some, especially if they realize there will be more women who come and stay on the site.
 

dc9

Expert Member
Verified
Gold
Joined
Mar 8, 2008
Posts
3,145
Media
12
Likes
207
Points
383
Age
67
Location
Miami, Florida, US
Verification
View
Sexuality
100% Gay, 0% Straight
Gender
Male
Maybe I am old fashioned, but that's not cool.
I have sent some PM's to compliment guys and some women, but I wouldn't be like stalking them. I am all for some of the talk dirty chat, but most of that here is in just old fashioned humor.
This site is for support, not for jumping on people like fresh meat.
Show some restaint here people.
(Off the soapbox)
 

Honey123

Sexy Member
Verified
Gold
Joined
Jan 6, 2007
Posts
1,286
Media
5
Likes
33
Points
393
Location
Aridzona
Verification
View
Sexuality
100% Straight, 0% Gay
Gender
Female
Sorry to hear your friend got spammed. Can't but help think her pics must have been awesome to attract so much attention. I used to get nasty PM's all the time, not so much any more - most of what I get now is "Nice tits" or "Your photos are amazing" or something along those lines. Once in a while I get someone asking to rate his cock. Funny, but the last guy that did that was upset that I thought his pics were fake... Imagine that. Had one guy go on about how fat I was in a PM he sent me. I ignored him. Why does he care that I'm overweight?

When I go into the chat rooms sometimes I get bombarded. Other times just one or two will say hi. However, the opening lines are often "what's the biggest cock you've ever had" and "what size are your tits" and this is supposed to make me want to talk with you? Hello? Oh, and while I'm ranting, let's not forget the guys that are offended when I say I don't have time for a 22 year old boy. I'm a middle aged woman with nephews older than that. ewwww

I'm a decent woman and appreciate being treated as one. Thanks for the thread.
 

Principessa

Expert Member
Joined
Nov 22, 2006
Posts
18,660
Media
0
Likes
135
Points
193
Sexuality
100% Straight, 0% Gay
Gender
Female
You mightve misread, shes not 18 (in her late 30s) but she got 18 pms within no time of making her first post.
I'm sorry, I did misread that! Color me embarassed. :redface:
another thing, I was skeptical that she was really a real woman at first haha, until we shared myspace pages- skeptical because of having been approached by many men posing as women, urgh I hate that.[/quote]
I really don't get why some men do that.:confused: But I have to admit I find it amusing when those "girls" are in chat because they are so obviously male to me. Unfortunately, some men have no clue what real women are like, so they end up getting their feelings hurt.

 

WolvesInTheThroneRoom

Sexy Member
Joined
Jun 13, 2008
Posts
316
Media
48
Likes
61
Points
113
Location
Portland (Oregon, United States)
Sexuality
100% Straight, 0% Gay
Gender
Male
There is such a thing as pming a stranger and not being overbearing or acting like an idiot.

I sent someone a pm recently, but it was a short, non-sexual 2 sentence prose/poem-
thats just my style - but I think you could do it and not bother someone, I get them from complete strangers and if theyre simply undemanding compliments it is actually nice (even if theyre gay and Im not ha) but if it's a relatively new member, I would recommend giving them some space first for awhile.