Straight Guys: Does This Photo Describe Ur Relationship?

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It's asinine, really. People with self-respect don't allow themselves to get into that kind of relationship, and the person who said anyone with eyes can see the warning signs from the word go is right on. Man/woman humor today is what black/white humor was in the 1950's.
 

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I really dont think this is always the case; i've seen just as many men take the lead (if not more, but that might be cultural though) as i've seen ladies do so. In any case, thats not a healthy relationship, and I surely find it very hard to believe that all hetrosexual relationships aren't healthy or equal. It's almost offensive.


Your right Katt. It is a tqd offensive. More to my senses and my personal style in relationships and life. I see many relationships where the guy MUST establish his dominance or vice versa. Why? I've never understood why not find a niche and excel in it and let your partner do the same. A relationship should, that's just ny opinion, be an arena in which two people can shine not individually but as a group. I sometimes find myself being the individual but i am often reminded that its all about the "Team" . For instance my wife handles the finances. Not all, just the major number crunching and fiddling and juggling. Is this because i can't? Nope. Its because she Excels at it. If it were up to me, we would be destitute lol. I'm a frivolous spender when it comes to gadgets and what not. ButI handle all the things she either doesn't like or can't handle. Such as fixing the computer, troubleshooting our home network, cleaning the dogs (she's allergic). I really hope one day people can try to find a balance instead of trying to lead one or the other.

(The photo made me feel a tad wierd. I wondered why the man was covering himself. SHAME? Fear? Is it her role to feel empowered by her sexuality and for him to cower? Totally unbalanced although sexy in the way she is so confident. )
 

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I've been asking my straight friends about the attached photo. Some say it says EVERYTHING about how so many hetero relationship work these days. I'd like to hear others' reaction to it.

No but that's why I've been divorced twice. I decided as a young man that i would never be one of the men who you see everyday walking through life in quiet desperation at the mercy of a woman's selfish wants. I do love women and come from a very functional family but i will not be manipulated into a controlled or submissive role. The photo is very telling and not what I will have.
 

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OMG that's exactly how it is [/sarcasm]. Except the women I have sex with don't have fake tits.

But the key difference is that women are on their knees, begging for my cock. And I don't have a hairy chest.

I am free to do whatever I want and I have women waiting on me hand and foot. Making my meals, brewing up for me, getting me extra pillows, etc.

And I'm not being chauvinistic, these women want to look after me. They seem to enjoy it :)

In fact, it's not even about the sex. Even though I love the sex but I do really enjoy a woman taking care of me. Nutritionally, sexually and in all other ways.
 

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In my experience it's usually the other way round, with man in front leading woman by third finger of the left hand. barefoot and pregnant.

If he has her by the boob or the butt then they are going to bed soon.

So in that picture I surmise they are also going toward bed.
 
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haha, funny pic :)

i'll have to admit that if i'm in love, a women can do anything she want wants with me. but only if i'm in love. otherwise i function quite normal in a relationship :)
 

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I've been asking my straight friends about the attached photo. Some say it says EVERYTHING about how so many hetero relationship work these days. I'd like to hear others' reaction to it.

This doesn't explain everything, but it is a rather simple pictoral description of what can occur if a guy becomes too much of a domesticated homemaker beta male and loses the charming alpha male qualities that he had at the outset of the relationship.

Relationships are very much structured around the relative levels of power between the parties; If a male throws away the qualities which make him attractive, his relative ability to bounce back from a relationship forces him to invest more in it, which gives the female the ability to call the shots and dictate the terms of the engagement.

As the thread shows, the reverse can be entirely true as well. Whichever party cedes their sexual power risks being exploited.
 

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The dude in the photo looks like he's a Cuckold.

Look at the way she is walking and the way he is hunched, this is a VERY sexual photo.

Though she might just be dragging him back to their room so she can have him watch someone with a huge dick fuck her.

That's what I get from this photo.

Unless you want some more metaphors and shit.
 

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I used to date a girl that said things like "if you do this, I will give you a blowjob". Most of the time I did the thing she asked, but I always refused the bj (or whatever sexual favor she said she wanted to do). I said that she should give me a bj/have sex with me because she liked to, not as a reward. I also said that I did those things for her because I liked her, not for a reward.
So I often had to chose, have sex or keep my balls. I kept my balls, but they became blue.
The last months of the relationship we had almost no sex anymore, I got frustrated and broke it off.

Looking back on it, I missed out on some pretty hot and kinky stuff, but at least my ego is still intact.
 

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I used to date a girl that said things like "if you do this, I will give you a blowjob". Most of the time I did the thing she asked, but I always refused the bj (or whatever sexual favor she said she wanted to do). I said that she should give me a bj/have sex with me because she liked to, not as a reward. I also said that I did those things for her because I liked her, not for a reward.
So I often had to chose, have sex or keep my balls. I kept my balls, but they became blue.
The last months of the relationship we had almost no sex anymore, I got frustrated and broke it off.

Looking back on it, I missed out on some pretty hot and kinky stuff, but at least my ego is still intact.


you were right to end it, in that relationship, you, like the guy in the picture, were beta, and beta's get little to no respect .. you were just being used, good thing you broke it off
 

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I used to date a girl that said things like "if you do this, I will give you a blowjob". Most of the time I did the thing she asked, but I always refused the bj (or whatever sexual favor she said she wanted to do). I said that she should give me a bj/have sex with me because she liked to, not as a reward. I also said that I did those things for her because I liked her, not for a reward.
So I often had to chose, have sex or keep my balls. I kept my balls, but they became blue.
The last months of the relationship we had almost no sex anymore, I got frustrated and broke it off.

Looking back on it, I missed out on some pretty hot and kinky stuff, but at least my ego is still intact.


Too bad she never sincerely Wanted the sex, thus allowing the balls to go blue like that. What a sad story.
 

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you were right to end it, in that relationship, you, like the guy in the picture, were beta, and beta's get little to no respect .. you were just being used, good thing you broke it off

I think you don't quite understand the story. I was not being used, because I didn't allow her to use me.

Often she tried to initiate sex after I did something nice for her. But sometimes she acted like she was doing me a favor by having sex with me, all those times I broke it off. Sometimes I knew that she wanted it at the moment, and she sincerely wanted it, but I didn't like her acting like she is doing me a favor.

The situation I described wasn't something that happened every day, it happened about 4 or 5 times in a period of 8 months.

I'll give an example: She knew about a secret that I have, but she didn't know the secret yet. She promised me a bj, in return for te secret. I declined. A week later I told her the secret anyway, she initiated sex, also here I declined. Because, if we had sex at that moment, it would feel like she had me by the balls, and not in a good way.

The reason we stopped having sex regularly has nothing to do with this and is an entire different story, I shouldn't have brought it up, sorry to be confusing.
 

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I think you don't quite understand the story. I was not being used, because I didn't allow her to use me.

Often she tried to initiate sex after I did something nice for her. But sometimes she acted like she was doing me a favor by having sex with me, all those times I broke it off. Sometimes I knew that she wanted it at the moment, and she sincerely wanted it, but I didn't like her acting like she is doing me a favor.

The situation I described wasn't something that happened every day, it happened about 4 or 5 times in a period of 8 months.

I'll give an example: She knew about a secret that I have, but she didn't know the secret yet. She promised me a bj, in return for te secret. I declined. A week later I told her the secret anyway, she initiated sex, also here I declined. Because, if we had sex at that moment, it would feel like she had me by the balls, and not in a good way.

The reason we stopped having sex regularly has nothing to do with this and is an entire different story, I shouldn't have brought it up, sorry to be confusing.


gotcha, still a shitty sitch & you're smart for ending it
 

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I've been asking my straight friends about the attached photo. Some say it says EVERYTHING about how so many hetero relationship work these days. I'd like to hear others' reaction to it.

What would you say if the woman on the picture was a second guy, and I asked if it says something about gay relationships?
Because I'll be honest, I have no gay friends so I have no idea how it works.