Straight Guys Hitting On You

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  1. D_skeaflea

    D_skeaflea New Member

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    This is a question for the gay and bi guys here: Have you ever had a straight guy flirt with you, or otherwise admit a curiosity towards t3h gay sex0rz? I have a couple of experiences with this:

    Once, a friend admitted to me while he was high that he liked kissing guys, and that he'd sucked a dick before and "wouldn't mind doing it again". This was the first time anyone'd ever admitted something like that to me (I wasn't out to him), and I was completely taken aback by it. I tried to mention it to him at another time while he was sober, but he got offended and insisted that I had made that up, and that he isn't a fag. lol

    A straight guy I was talking to began to jokingly flirt with me when he found out that I was bi, and started to be more supportive of gay people, gay marriage etc. This surprised me, because he was a conservative Republican, and I honestly didn't expect him to be supportive of that kind of thing. Later, he admitted to me that he can see why a guy would be attracted to sucking a cock, and said that he would consider getting a handjob from a guy if he didn't have a girlfriend around.

    It shocked me so much at first, but i've learned to take it in stride (in before "lol, you learned to take it" jokes), be supportive and answer questions. I've found that the straight guys i've chosen to come out to have sometimes asked me a lot of random sexual questions, and that it makes me laugh my ass off sometimes.
     
  2. D_Pubert Stabbingpain

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    Whew! You really opened a can of worms here!

    Yes, and yes! A good example is a guy who was in grad school at the same time as me. I was one of the few open and out people there at the time and he was just loaded with questions; everything from kissing to the prostate to nipple sensitivity! He always had a gf but when I visited his dorm room, he had several scrapbooks with tons pix of him with guys and very few women. The pix were from trips he took around the world. I often thought to myself that I'll bet he got a lot more than pix "around the world!" I always thought that all his questions and being one of the few str8 males to just drop in to my dorm room out of the blue that it was his way of flirting but that he was unsure of how to proceed. Sadly for him, I had no attraction to him whatsoever PLUS I held a paid position in grad school where it really was not a good idea to be messing around with people whom I had to evaluate.

    I have had other str8 men, married and with gf's who would say "I am not gay but if I was I would want to do it with you."

    Then, there is this dude I worked with in a Casino who told me that he could only get off if his gf "stuck something up there" and he would always talk about and write "8" and circle it on the coctail napkins that are always lying around. So, one day, on the second floor when I was going on break, he motioned me toward the emergency exit stairwell and when the door closed behind us he pulled out the tiniest uncut cock I have ever seen. I mean, I doubt this was an inch long! It wasn't cold in there either folks! I thought, how the hell does that grow to 8 inches!

    The fascination and curiosity was there (for me!) but not only did that break my mood but I also worked with his gf and that would not have been a good thing. Still, sometimes I look back on that 1 time and think I really should have grabbed it! :biggrin1:

    There is just 1 more time that comes to mind. After work, in another casino, many years before the experience with the 1 to 8" dude, my gf and I were in a downstair's dimly lit (a different) casino bar just having an after work cocktail. It was very, very busy, a Friday night. We were at a table for 4 and another couple asked if they could sit down. After some conversation, the women headed off to the bathroom and never came back. I ended up taking this dude home and I gave him the option, "the couch or the bed, your choice" and I crawled, quite drunk if I remember correctly, into bed.

    He went to the bathroom and when he walked out, he was not only completely naked but had a sticking straight out minimum 9 incher! That dude crawled under the covers and went to work on my cock like there was no tomorrow! I had one of the most fantastic orgasms of my life and blew a load that seemed to never quit. He kept sucking and sucking all the way through it and then kept sucking for at least 5-10 minutes after.

    I was exhausted and he finally got up to go to the toilet and spit my cum out :mad:. When he got back I was sound asleep. In the morning he was gone. THANKS DUDE!
    :biggrin1:
     
  3. D_Percival Puddleford Pukehorn

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    yeah, it's always a bit disconcerting when a "str8" dude hits on you or makes it obvious that he's into you. But god forbid if you face him with the facts later on and accuses you of being crazy or something like that.
     
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    Well...this is sort of the other way around...a buddy who i thought was straight did show me his dick. the story is...I had a friend, actually a drinking buddy who invited me over to his apartment....and while we were both getting shit faced ...we ran out of beer and went to the local bar....and he proceeded to brag to the bar maid about the size of his cock. He told her it was 13 inches....she just looked at him and told him he was full of shit. ...but he insisted that she take a look at it...when he pulled it out..it was at least 9 inches soft....he started jerking it and I have to admit..it did look 13 inches...she somehow pulled out a ruler and measured it....yep it was 13 inches!! By this time he was quite drunk...and i was driving...when we got back to his apt....he proceeded to take his clothes off...and his big dick was hanging out. He shook it at me and told me he needed release.....and then passed out on the floor... true story...
     
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    It's more about self-image and culture than anything. From what I've seen most self-described straight men find many women attractive and some men attractive. And most self-described gay men find many men attractive and some women attractive. Most people of either sex can perform sexually with the right same sex partner under the right circumstances.
     
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    on here and myspace ...i get hit on by straight guys. I think it's cool actually.
     
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    I love this question. It's almost like "Which came first, the chicken or the egg?" Forever contested, never a settled answer.

    I guess it's all relative, but yes I've had men who consider themselves "straight" say some suggestive things to me.

    My first sexual experience ever was with a married man.
     
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    slut.
     
  9. HellsKitchenmanNYC

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    This story is pretty hard to swallow...so to speak. In a bar he jerked it and she happened to have a tape measure and she measured it?
     
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    The first sentence is now no longer valid :tongue:

    I have my straight group of friends and my gay group of friends. There is a clear line of demarcation between them. This is why I get a bit freaked out when my "straight" friends come on to me. I don't think that it's homophobia. I think that it's just odd that someone you see as 100% straight suddenly wants your booty.
     
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    I have had that happen but have declined (I had to kick myself because they were handsome...but had GFs, fiancees, or wives--I was respectful of them.). One was a music teacher (getting ready to be married--I was invited to the wedding :confused: by the groom after taking three weeks of lessons. Oh, and he flirted a lot. And I was dodging those bullets like Neo in THE MATRIX.

    Three were in collegiate football at the time. Those guys were well-endowed.

    I worked with a straight bartender at the gay bar worked at. (He wanted me but had a pretty girlfriend that worked with me at the gay bar. She knew the jig was up when he grabbed my ass. But she still dated him for a while before breaking up with him.) He knew about one of those college football players (one of them that flirted with me.) And I was like "How in the hell does this white guy know about that football player?" He didn't EVEN go to my school. I never met that white guy before in my life. And HE knew all about that particular football player. Strange.

    I am not one of those gay guys that brags about getting with straight guys. This is not the case at all. I respect straight men. I never was into that sort of admiration of straight guys. I find some of them cute. Some very handsome. But I know where I stand with them. I don't have the slightest urge to have a straight guy. And that is cool by me. Hehehe.

    If I know that they are straight/bi with girlfriends, fiancees, or wives, those men aren't getting anywhere with me.
     
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    Good observation Rec. Like men who lie about masturbation, ninety-nine percent of us fit in the latter category.
     
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    I seriously doubt a real straight man would hit on another man. That is like a gay man hitting on a woman, its not going to happen.
     
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    You should revisit yr post in 10 yrs! :biggrin1:
     
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    gay men hit on women??
     
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    Seee my post above........lol.
     
  17. D_skeaflea

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    Actually, yes. I've spoken to some gay men who are "straight-acting" enough to flirt with women, female bartenders, etc; They do it because it's a completely different game than being so direct with a guy. They said that it's a lot of fun, and that they do it just to know they're wanted/have got it goin' on; that they could if they wanted to. Basically, for the same reason that anyone flirts with someone who's unobtainable.

    Also, I was talking to a gay guy who admitted to me that he's actually had sex with someone from time-to-time, because it's easier than fucking a guy in the ass, and "the pussy feels good". I asked him if he had ever thought that he could be bi, but he insisted that he didn't feel any attraction whatsoever to women, and that it was only a sexual thing.


    So, yeah. People are a lot more weird and complex than you'd think, blondie. The more life experience you have, the more you learn that this is true. That's why you were being told to check back here in 10 years. lol
     
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    Flirting, yes. And I wish I knew if they were actually curious hehe.
     
  19. D_skeaflea

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    Well, I think a lot more men are curious than they'd like to admit it. With that being said, i'll reiterate the point about flirting: People usually flirt with someone who's unobtainable just because it's fun, and it's a way to know that they're wanted. The idea of knowing that, if they felt like it, they could have their choice of men who'd want to please them could be exciting for some men. I'm sure many people - both gay and straight - have fantasies that they'd never want to act on IRL.

    Another thing i've learned: The more religious, or professional someone is. . .the kinkier they are. Imagine my surprise when a shy, mild-mannered Christian friend with very high grades in college suddenly made the decision to A) Come out as gay to me, and B) Admit that he has a fantasy of a guy tying him up to a bedpost and "using his body".

    And, before you say anything: It was firmly established right after the reveal that we aren't into each other, or each other's "type". Phooey, huh?
     
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    Well, being closeted curious myself, I don't know if
    would apply, simply because they don't know I would be interested. Or maybe probing the waters or just being funny, and straight, I wish I could read minds. :p
     
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