Straight Guys Hitting On You

[hung9mike]

I don't think I've been hit on by a straight guy "in real life", but it certainly happens online (yes, on LPSG) from time to time.

 

[BJs4You IL]

ive been approached by straight guys too...one flirted with me quite a while before he just full on asked if I wanted to suck his dick (he was quite drunk). Others have asked me if I wanted to, and like the guy above, I think they were just messing with me.

 

[VeryHung]

Newsflash! If a man flirts with another man, he is not straight. For those that would label such a man as straight, I offer you this advice: Wake up and smell the coffee!

 

[kid_rami_02]

Newsflash! If a man flirts with another man, he is not straight. For those that would label such a man as straight, I offer you this advice: Wake up and smell the coffee!

Hmm, insecurity and denial are paired together perfectly...

I used to get them a lot on myspace. I loved getting a message asking to hook up and then seeing their profile listed as "Straight". Most times it is because they are curious or have fantasized about it.

 

[maxcok]

Newsflash! If a man flirts with another man, he is not straight. For those that would label such a man as straight, I offer you this advice: Wake up and smell the coffee!

I beg to differ. (Knew I'd get around to this sooner or later.) I seem to attract more than my share of attention from straight men, from friends to complete strangers. There are probably a lot of reasons for this. I do not go out of my way to be "straight acting", and I can certainly cut loose on occassion. But I would describe my normal mode as friendly and open, with an air of relaxed self-confidence and unforced quiet masculinity. Guys seem to like that, and I like that in guys too. I have a lot of interests, including a lot of stereotypical "guy things" and "guy" activities. Straight men are very comfortable with me and vice versa. I am very interested in them and vice versa. I think they instinctively trust me and feel they can be open with me without losing man face. It probably doesn't hurt either that I am not unattractive, more than decently built, and have other intriguing, um, assets. I couldn't count the number of straight guys, many of them happily married with families, who have said if they ever crossed the fence, they would come (npi) into my yard.

One example: I had some friends, a straight couple, very well adjusted psychologists, family oriented, low-key lifestyle, not swingers or anything. The wife said to me in front of her husband, "Oh, [Frank] and I both fantasize about you". He grinned and nodded. At the time I was struck speechless, and it made me squirm a little, but in retrospect I thought it was cool that they could be so open about that. Another married friend asked me out of the blue, "Do you have a big dong?" (only straight guys seriously say 'dong', or 'wang' for that matter) and the conversation proceeded from there to a discussion of my dong, his dong, other guys' dongs, the things we do with our dongs, his fantasies . . . well, you get the picture. I think these are things that most guys think about, but straight men in our repressed American culture don't really have a safe place to pursue. To them, I am honest, trustworthy, non-judgmental, good at keeping secrets, and therefore safe.

I've never pushed on any of this, or followed through on any opportunites that may have come as a result. I prefer men with a little, okay, a lot more sexual experience for starters. With friends especially, I don't want to be responsible for somebody's potential for weirdness afterward, putting our friendship or other relationships in jeopardy. Also, just because a straight guy is attracted to me, doesn't mean I am necessarily attracted to him, certainly not just by token of him being interested and available - though I try not to bruise their fragile male egos by telling them that. I had a guy 'present' his rather impressive crotch in my face when I was kneeling as we worked on a carpentry project together. (I know, great set-up for a porno.) I suppose he thought I couldn't resist diving down on it like a hungry jackal. Instead, I burst into spontaneous laughter, and the poor boy was mortified. I told him not to worry, that he had plenty going for him, it's just that he woulda had a better shot if the positions were reversed, lol.

I hope nobody will interpret any of this as conceited. I'm just telling you my factual actual experience, and how I've come to analyze it over the years. For whatever reasons, and there are probably more, I seem to be a straight boy magnet, and it's an interesting phenomenon. At the end of the day, I think people are a lot more fluid in their sexuality and their fantasies than they are willing to admit, especially outwardly hetero American men, and similarly men in other super macho cultures. A lot of the 99-100 percenters here make me :smile: and . Especially when they get all defensive about it.

 

[B_Hung Jon]

I've mentioned in various past threads how my college buddies who identify as "straight" will come on to me when they're wasted. Because of how we men are socialized, some of us have a hard time expressing our feelings for each other in some acceptable way. I've been at parties where some buddies will be real drunk and begin to get pretty amorous, like sort of cornering me in a bathroom or trying to hug me or hump me. I've had guys lose their inhibitions and try to kiss me or make out with me or express their undying love at a moment of great vulnerabilty. I think most guys feel that coming on to another person sexually is the most intimate thing they can do. Of course women do this too but not in the same way guys do. Interesting thread.

 

[B_dxjnorto]

Because of how we men are socialized, some of us have a hard time expressing our feelings for each other in some acceptable way.

There really is no acceptable "straight" way in the states. I've seen guys kind of comically put their arms or heads over on their buddies when it is more private, and I thought it was really cute. But in public that is still like flying the rainbow flag.

 

[BigDallasDick8x6]

I beg to differ. (Knew I'd get around to this sooner or later.) I seem to attract more than my share of attention from straight men, from friends to complete strangers. There are probably a lot of reasons for this. I do not go out of my way to be "straight acting", and I can certainly cut loose on occassion. But I would describe my normal mode as friendly and open, with an air of relaxed self-confidence and unforced quiet masculinity. Guys seem to like that, and I like that in guys too. I have a lot of interests, including a lot of stereotypical "guy things" and "guy" activities. Straight men are very comfortable with me and vice versa. I am very interested in them and vice versa. I think they instinctively trust me and feel they can be open with me without losing man face. It probably doesn't hurt either that I am not unattractive, more than decently built, and have other intriguing, um, assets. I couldn't count the number of straight guys, many of them happily married with families, who have said if they ever crossed the fence, they would come (npi) into my yard.

One example: I had some friends, a straight couple, very well adjusted psychologists, family oriented, low-key lifestyle, not swingers or anything. The wife said to me in front of her husband, "Oh, [Frank] and I both fantasize about you". He grinned and nodded. At the time I was struck speechless, and it made me squirm a little, but in retrospect I thought it was cool that they could be so open about that. Another married friend asked me out of the blue, "Do you have a big dong?" (only straight guys seriously say 'dong', or 'wang' for that matter) and the conversation proceeded from there to a discussion of my dong, his dong, other guys' dongs, the things we do with our dongs, his fantasies . . . well, you get the picture. I think these are things that most guys think about, but straight men in our repressed American culture don't really have a safe place to pursue. To them, I am honest, trustworthy, non-judgmental, good at keeping secrets, and therefore safe.

I've never pushed on any of this, or followed through on any opportunites that may have come as a result. I prefer men with a little, okay, a lot more sexual experience for starters. With friends especially, I don't want to be responsible for somebody's potential for weirdness afterward, putting our friendship or other relationships in jeopardy. Also, just because a straight guy is attracted to me, doesn't mean I am necessarily attracted to him, certainly not just by token of him being interested and available - though I try not to bruise their fragile male egos by telling them that. I had a guy 'present' his rather impressive crotch in my face when I was kneeling as we worked on a carpentry project together. (I know, great set-up for a porno.) I suppose he thought I couldn't resist diving down on it like a hungry jackal. Instead, I burst into spontaneous laughter, and the poor boy was mortified. I told him not to worry, that he had plenty going for him, it's just that he woulda had a better shot if the positions were reversed, lol.

I hope nobody will interpret any of this as conceited. I'm just telling you my factual actual experience, and how I've come to analyze it over the years. For whatever reasons, and there are probably more, I seem to be a straight boy magnet, and it's an interesting phenomenon. At the end of the day, I think people are a lot more fluid in their sexuality and their fantasies than they are willing to admit, especially outwardly hetero American men, and similarly men in other super macho cultures. A lot of the 99-100 percenters here make me :smile: and . Especially when they get all defensive about it.

When an attractive str8 guy comes on to me, I feel it's my duty to score some points for our team.

 

[ryanart]

i see why youre hit on ocmuscle youre an incredibly handsome and sexy man