I used to be a bit homophobic growing up but now I am homo-indifferent (if there is such a word).Hello LPSG-ers.
This is for straight guys: "Do you find that homophobia-- helps or hinders you in life?" As a gay man, I would think that it hinders.
If you find it helps you, please give some specific details on how it helps. If it hinders you, please give some specific details on how it limits you.
Yes being homophobic helps in being accepted by other homophibic poeple you enjoy being with e.g. Dads who fear that their son is gay, competitive situations in a group of friends where gays are considered weaker, homophobic comments show to your friends that you don't belong to that category.
I admit that these reasons are pretty lame but they do answer your question.
The only time it hinders is when fun events which include gays, such as cool parties, carnivals are avoided. I've seen some homophobic friends do everything to avoid contact with homosexuals.
In my opinion, homophoboics usually have structured lives and anything that doesn't fit within their limits or follow their self imposed rules is unacceptable, homosexuals aren't the only thing they dislike. I find these people very sad.